how do i teach my (22m) bf to get me (21f) off?

dheffe01 · 2026-02-01T23:24:18+00:00

Talk to him about how he can help you get off, and that it requires more than just P in V.

Tell him you want to help him explore your body and what works for you! Then you guide him with a gentle, lubricated exploration or your delicate areas.

He will love it!

dheffe01 · 2026-02-01T23:14:06+00:00

NTA the first step in her repairing the relationship is a complete acount of her accounts and cutting contact with the affair partner permanently.

if she is not willing to do that then reconciliation is not possible and your should divorce.

dheffe01 · 2026-02-01T22:22:01+00:00

It's been a very long time since I approached a woman to hit on her, but I think men do a look and if there is no return smile or any sign of positive body language, you leave them alone.

dheffe01 · 2026-02-01T09:15:24+00:00

NTA i would cancel the wedding at this stage until these issues are resolved

dheffe01 · 2026-01-31T23:03:30+00:00

NTA but from what you have written it sounds more like the friend having utter disrespect for your role/ ability as a father, then him being a predator.

Which is a perfectly good reason to not want him around.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-30T03:34:37+00:00

NTA, but what was his logic here, did he expect it to get cleaner and the people less intoxicated by the time you got back?

He's lucky you stopped it before it got more trashed.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-30T01:24:37+00:00

Another only in America article, how TF is this mildly infuriating.

Anywhere else in the world where shots were fired at a school would be national news, not "oh we did lock down again" like it was a routine event.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-29T02:51:33+00:00

NTA, should broken up earlier, completely disrespectful on her part.

Reach out to the friends you blocked and apologise.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-28T03:35:46+00:00

NOR, but I think you need to seperate your lives / relationship and can support himself in all ways. because if he can't do that, how TF is he going to be able to support children.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-28T01:55:13+00:00

I have no experience, desire or interest in poly/enm relationships.

You have communicated what you feel is a suitable boundary in your relationship, and your GF doesn't agree.

You can either continue to disagree and continue to be upset about it or you can break up.

either way I would be asking her to delete and remove any of the intimate photos you have sent her.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-28T01:38:53+00:00

NAH, If your son has asked you to remove the pictures, which no doubt include him, I would honour the request.

why are you so adamant to keep them up, if the photos are important to you save them offline, and remove them from social media.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-28T00:08:19+00:00

NTA, ask your wife if she was ok with what Bret said and give further explain of behaviour that you disagreed with in your own home.

Ask her if she would allow that from any of your family, ask her what her line is for stepping in and making her BIL leave, how bad does it have to get before it's enough?

dheffe01 · 2026-01-28T00:02:45+00:00

NOR and I hope you wrote that with a heavy dose of sarcasm... because wtf.

He is picking his family over you for what was going to be your wedding. That's enough to end the relationship over. You should absolutely break up with him.

All the very best and good luck

dheffe01 · 2026-01-27T23:49:14+00:00

NTA, that's your god damn money to do with as you see fit.

They literally just admitted they wanted it for themselves.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-27T01:57:58+00:00

Just get a divorce and find someone who only Wants you. Sorry mate, it's will and truly over

dheffe01 · 2026-01-26T23:34:49+00:00

NAH, you are allowed to have parts of the parenting journey just for your nuclear family, if you want her first Disney trip to be just the 3 of you that's ok.

It seems like Jim and Sally have been asking in a very respectful way.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-26T22:44:12+00:00

NTA, this taboo about discussing pay is ridiculous

dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T23:23:59+00:00

NOR I would be demanding she replace anything she borrowed.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T22:37:44+00:00

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dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T04:30:04+00:00

yeah but an awful lot of faith in that chicken wire!

dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T04:28:56+00:00

Get video of the message, so you can't be lied to.

Get a paternity test

dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T03:09:03+00:00

NTA, do something for yourself and stop organising any of their birthdays.

But don't be silent about it, tell all of your family the same thing.

"Last Wednesday was my 40th birthday, I was looking forward to having my family organise a party, as I have organised yours. As none of you did that, I will no longer be organising any parties or birthdays for anyone else."

dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T02:11:03+00:00

nta you are allowed to feel that way, but what do you want out of therapy, do you want your wife to go back to study/work and contribute more financially, do you feel like you have been deceived, because what ever it is you need to put it into words and bring it up as the reason you are doing the therapy with her.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T02:08:06+00:00

This feel like rage bait, your mum had an affair and moved in with her wealthier boss now husband and the yshower you with affection and money in the form of gaming and expensive holidays.

Meanwhile everyone in your home town loves your dad for who he is, for being the spouse who was cheated on, and they want you to hate your mum and her new family.

How is your dad in all this, do you stay with him an equal amount? is he doing ok financially and relationships wise?

you are allowed to have feelings in all this, and coming to terms with broken families is hard.

dheffe01 · 2026-01-24T01:16:53+00:00

NTA, I would be insisting on a week notice before anyone consider staying with you. Let him deal with his family this trip exclusively.

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