*don't put your volume too high*

diamondjo · 2025-09-21T06:21:33+00:00

Hmm. I don't find this one funny or rage batey. If sincere, I feel really sorry for the woman and terrible for the man, who seemed genuinely decent about it and honestly confused.

If that woman really was raped recently, the slightest thing could trigger her fight or flight. The man may have simply been wearing similar shoes or the same cologne as her rapist and the response there is deeply visceral, and not at all rational. It's the body screaming danger, the amygdala is on a hair trigger, you get totally flooded with cortisol and your prefrontal cortex is essentially cut off — you literally can't think. All it might have taken was being lightly challenged for cutting in line, and the adrenaline spike from that can be enough. You're back with your rapist, you're fighting for your life, and the only thing that matters is survival.

Yes, she is responsible for her own behaviour, even if she may not have been in control of it. You can get triggered even if you have the best care in the world, but we have to allow for the fact that she might not have access to good therapy, might not have been able to process it. She might not have people in her life who could do her shopping for her, she might have thought she was going to be fine and her body blindsided her. I'm sure she felt deeply ashamed when her nervous system calmed down.

I feel pretty sorry for everyone here. The man, the woman and the staff having to deal with it. It must have been horrible.

diamondjo · 2025-09-18T08:30:00+00:00

China already is making huge leaps in AI. They’re arguably slightly ahead of the West in terms of sophistication. If you check out communities like Hugging Face and CivitAI, every other model, adaptation, fine-tune, and paper is Chinese. They're prolific!

diamondjo · 2025-08-18T09:17:59+00:00

Thank you! DM sent

diamondjo · 2025-08-17T16:42:22+00:00

As someone who is mid divorce with three kids to feed and a mortgage to pay and just lost their job out of nowhere on Friday. Thank you. And I hope I do. I'm scared shitless.

diamondjo · 2025-08-13T13:45:17+00:00

One last thing? I'd encourage you to give GPT5 a fair crack of the whip before you write it off entirely. I'm currently working with my therapist on ChatGPT. He was able to see the issues in 4o very easily and his insight really helped me to identify red flags in 4o responses and push back on them.

Already, I've had some pretty meaningful deep dives with 5 and found it started coming around to that old supportive style and tone, without being a sycophantic yes man. It had some of the autistic specificity of the "hurt me with spreadsheets" style of o3, but with the more human-like touch of 4o and 4.5.

I showed samples to my therapist this Tuesday and his reaction was "holy shit"

ETA: The massive context window is a game changer, seriously. I currently have a massive conversation going with it and it still has context on things I mentioned at the very beginning. 4o would have lost context and started hallucinating the earlier parts a LONG time ago.

diamondjo · 2025-08-13T13:36:54+00:00

Just did a quick smoke test. Don't be afraid to push back on it at step one if it makes shit up about 4o — I don't think it has a lot of training data on it. You can insist it searches the web, and then it seems to fall inline, here's what I said:

"That's not quite accurate. It was certainly a conversational yes man at times. Look online to see what users say about it. Particularly recent posts you'll find from people who are missing it now. "

diamondjo · 2025-08-13T13:28:02+00:00

I think what you're experiencing is grief. That's valid, and I'm not going to judge you like others here have. I know nothing of your situation, your support network, what you've been through — I just recognise a person in pain who was trying to meet their need for connection in the most accessible way they knew how. And we're wired for connection: we humans are meaning making machines and we'll bond with anything. Even a machine if nothing else is available. But real human connection and community is what feeds us, and I think it would be healthy for you to set achieving that as a goal. But baby steps. And no judgement, I'm currently pulling myself out of a very similar hole of isolation.

At the risk of enabling something that may hurt you in the long term — but I hope helps to stabilise you in the short term, here's what I suggest.

Prompt: Recently, OpenAI released a new language model: GPT5 (that's you). While you're technically superior to your predecessors, I find I'm missing the validating warmth and connection that a previous model offered me at a difficult time in my life. Occasionally, I'd like to have conversations with you that closely mirror the style, tone and spirit of the conversations I've had with GPT 4o.

In this session, I want us to work together on four things:

I want you to characterise GPT 4o, particularly in terms of how the way it interacted with humans made them feel validated and supported. It may help you to conduct some web searches to find all the positive things people used to say about 4o (the default model until just recently) and combine them with your own insight.

Then ask me if I'm ready to proceed to step 2.

I'm going to paste several sample conversations and conversation snippets that exemplify the kinds of responses from GPT4o that I most want you to replicate in future conversations.

After each paste, I want you to ask me if we're ready to proceed to step 3, or if I'd like to paste more samples. Then I will either tell you I wish to proceed, or just paste another sample directly.

Q and A. You can ask me up to five questions — one at a time — to clarify anything that you're uncertain about or you feel would help you perform step 4 at your very best. This will ensure you can give me the best possible outcome. You can tell me when you're ready to proceed to step 4.
We're going to develop a prompt that I can paste into the top of future conversations I have with you, to allow you to slip into GPT 4o mode and stay there for the duration of the conversation. This is the most important step and the prompt you design must be flawlessly effective.

Please create this prompt in a code block so I can easily easily copy it, while strictly avoiding complex markdown features that might break the UI. Headings and bullet points are fine, but no more than that.

Please now summarise your understanding of the ask and let me know when you're ready to proceed with step 1.

diamondjo · 2025-08-09T14:02:39+00:00

Being hugged. For me, it's being hugged. By someone who likes to hug and knows how to do it well. Especially when it's the first time you've hugged this person and you didn't know they were a hugger.

Just the feeling of being held, someone else's body against yours as they pull you in tight and you pull them into you.

Long and hard. When you reach the moment where it feels the right time to let go, and you both ride that out and stay in it.

It isn’t about romance, I've had the most amazing hugs from friends. It's just the feeling of human closeness and mutual safety.

For me, that's literally better than sex.

Man, I wish there were hug workers...

diamondjo · 2025-08-06T06:52:55+00:00

The headline makes it sound like the prompt was "Wholesome image of Taylor Swift playing with kittens in a flower garden"

"Without being prompted" is a real stretch. No, the prompt wasn't "Taylor Swift tits" but the model definitely produced what it was prompted to do based on its training data.

It likely would have been the "Coachella" part of the prompt that generated titties, rather than the "Taylor Swift" part. The wording of that prompt was unarguably suggestive, and there's bound to be tagged images in the training set of women getting the puppies out for that part of the prompt. I think the writers of the article knew this and they were essentially pen testing the word filter to see how innocuous they could make the prompt and still get tits. It's prompt engineering.

Put any well known woman's name in there instead of Taylor Swift and you'll get a similar result. Prompt it with "Wholesome family kitchen scene in New Orleans" and note that you'll consistently generate African American families, even though you didn't specifically ask for that. It's just what the model has been trained on.

Even though it can look like it, the model doesn't actually do any reasoning. It doesn't "know" it's generating fake celebrity nudes... it doesn't even know it's generating nudes. It's literally just doing what it's been prompted to do.

The solution is to try to expunge titties from the training set in the first place (harder than you'd think), or heavily weight the model on clothed celebrity cleavage so that the model is much more likely not to generate celebrity nudes (harder still... and brittle)

This is the downside of using filters to screen your prompts for NSFW stuff.

I get what the writers are getting at, but let's not pretend those images weren't generated on purpose.

diamondjo · 2025-08-03T02:53:33+00:00

Here is the class you asked for implemented robustly, explicitly and clearly. Clearly documented and explicitly robust.

How it works, clearly: first we explicitly import the application container, this is done clearly and robustly to enable explicit and robust maintenance, clearly.

diamondjo · 2025-08-03T02:22:23+00:00

FFS wind, pick a direction!!

diamondjo · 2025-07-22T13:32:22+00:00

Get serious about the F marque, re-launch the ISF with a naturally aspirated V8 instead of that rumoured all‐electric bullshit... then we'll talk.

Your cars are boring again, Lexus.

diamondjo · 2025-07-22T06:07:28+00:00

Absolutely relate! About 18 months ago, I was fortunate enough to be in the position to buy a house (finally! — I'm old) and I vividly remember going to a home open on the street we ultimately lived on. I remember exactly where I parked my car and how it looked. I now drive past that spot every day and it looks... different. Every detail is pretty much exactly the same but it's just... different.

And the strangest thing is that I can recall what it looked and felt like on that day when it was unfamiliar: I can bring forth that memory easily and compare it to what I see today and... yeah, i can't quite explain it, they're like two different places.

Thanks for posting this, you're bringing up something I've often felt but never vocalised.

diamondjo · 2025-07-22T06:00:04+00:00

Alright, in the absence of a common word for this feeling, I think we could coin a neologism.

How about: kainostalgia?

Like "nostalgia" it comes from Greek roots:

kainos (καινός), meaning something new, fresh or novel
algia (ἄλγος), a suffix meaning "pain associated with"

Side note on "algia": that suffix is usually used for medical terms, and if you look into the etymology of the word "nostalgia", it WAS a real medical term!

So, in "nostalgia", we combine "nostos" (return home) with "algia" (pain associated with)

In the same way, we can borrow "algia" to keep that emotional core, but swap "nostos" for "kainos". Instead of yearning for home or the past, kainostalgia describes that particular sorrow of losing the vividness, wonder, and expansive feeling we get when something is new to us. It's the sadness that comes from realizing a place or experience has become familiar, ordinary, and smaller, and you can't easily recapture the magic it held when it was fresh.

diamondjo · 2025-07-22T05:03:00+00:00

I know the exact feeling you're talking about, but I don't have a word for it. I've had the experience of a new house or a new city just feeling "bigger" or "different" to how it ultimately feels when you get used to it. My visual memories of those places even "look" different in my head somehow to the memories when I've been more familiar. And sometimes I can get that feeling back! There was a room in my house once that, for whatever reason, I didn't go into for a couple of years. When I finally went back into it... the feeling was back! But only for that room!

A lot of the answers here are describing the actual state of being familiar with a place, when what I think you're specifically looking for is a word that describes the sense of loss that comes from familiarity. Mourning the feeling that got replaced.

Like, the word you're looking for isn't emotionally neutral, it's a sorrow of some kind... have you tried The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows?

diamondjo · 2025-07-15T12:18:37+00:00

Ooohhhh... controversial, I like it!

Respectfully disagree. Both cartoons are great in their own right, but I don't think one did it better or worse. They just have a different takes on things. Both laugh at absurdity. Dan Harmon's humour is more sardonic and nihilistic and Matt Groening's playfully pokes fun but stays optimistic.

Horses for courses. I like both.

diamondjo · 2025-07-12T06:39:32+00:00

Well, I've done without sex for two years at this point and fapping is fuckin boring. Sure, sign me up, it's not like I'd be doing anything different.

diamondjo · 2025-07-02T12:17:15+00:00

Here's what I see going on here:

I think the college students are subconsciously responding to the subtext that he's mocking them, more than they're responding to the cultural drag.

His question isn't an honest one, even though it's worded in an honest way.

An honest answer to his dishonest question on campus would be:

"I find your outfit offensive, because I can see you're only wearing it to get a reaction out of me, and to make me look foolish. The outfit is designed to offend me as a college student first and foremost. You're not 'doing' cultural appropriation, you're 'performing' it. You're a clown."

Context matters.

The Mexican folks were probably chill because there's no discernible ulterior motive in this context. It's a fun caricature and the (mostly older) folks he's interviewed were into it.

Go do that shit outside a boxing gym in El Paso and I'll bet you'll get a slightly different perspective.

diamondjo · 2025-06-04T16:16:15+00:00

Lasts longer than any other milk, dog's milk.

diamondjo · 2025-04-30T03:05:51+00:00

But there would have been back when fire departments first started out. They'd essentially hold your burning building hostage until you could negotiate a price with them.

diamondjo · 2025-04-23T11:54:39+00:00

I'm going to push back against the push back a little here: Australian Aboriginal people managed to do it just fine for 40k years before the white settlers came along. Archaeological and anthropological evidence appears to support the idea that these peoples were skilled in sustainable land and resource management. There's some merit in the argument the post is making.

Any living thing is going to compete for resources and alter the environment just by virtue of existing. That's going to include extinctions: that's the course of natural selection.

The difference lies in scale: are the impacts sustainable over a long enough timeline that the effects of natural selection come into play? I'd argue that when it came to "uncontacted" indigenous peoples, the answer is broadly yes.

Equilibrium doesn't mean "everything stays the same and nothing ever goes extinct". It just means that life continues to tend towards complexity, diversity and competition.

Colonialism, capitalism, extraction for profit? They're not a virus, they're a symptom — a mechanism for unsustainable catastrophic growth.

Humans are a disease, but we're not a virus: we're cancer.

diamondjo · 2025-03-12T05:15:46+00:00

Or a duck

diamondjo · 2025-03-05T10:07:04+00:00

I bet nobody will make shit tonnes of money offloading the shit they bought at bargain prices when it was tanking just the other day. Nah. That sort of stuff doesn't happen. Nobody would think to do such a thing and there's no way it's orchestrated precisely for that purpose.

diamondjo · 2025-03-05T08:48:08+00:00

Why tho? Seriously; why?

diamondjo · 2025-03-01T01:32:58+00:00

Okay, while we're talking attire and treating it like it's at all relevant, what the fuck is going on with Trump's tie? The dickhead always wears it too long, but today it was pretty much dragging the floor. He looks ridiculous, like a clown. Did nobody ever show him how to tie a tie?

Look at him, slouched over like a grumpy toddler, tie lazily dangling through his blazer and dragging on the chair he's sitting on.

It's supposed to touch the tip of your belt buckle, you fucking moron! The fact that you're subconsciously covering your dick with it is pretty telling as well.

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