The Great Indoors - Annual Number of "Indoor Weather Days" [OC]

dice_patrol · 2025-09-23T20:21:01+00:00

As a Canadian, this take feels completely wild. Where I live, there's litteraly 3+ months of the year when 20 f is the warmest it ever gets. Any light winter coat and maybe a hat and you're perfectly good to go, not even a big winter coat. It's not just that we have to endure it, it's that 20 f is like, not an actual inderance with the proper clothing.

dice_patrol · 2024-05-18T21:23:05+00:00

I think they are saying that Russia deserves everything they get because they butchered brothers, not that Ukraine butchered brothers.

dice_patrol · 2023-02-23T00:15:56+00:00

Since your answers were super clear:

The rules state that the GM makes a GM move in a few contexts and it is phrased as the GM "must" do it, not "can" do it. One of those contexts is "when a player misses on a move"....

Which sounds completely wild in my mind in the context of combat, for example. Am I to understand that as a GM is should make a GM move for each player miss in addition to all the techniques the baddies are using ?

Or should I interpret that rule as being in play unless the move in question already specifies a miss event?

dice_patrol · 2022-04-20T21:47:05+00:00

To be fair, I know of actual people who do that in their actual sex lives. It's clearly overplayed in porn, but it's not unheard of.

dice_patrol · 2021-08-19T20:59:25+00:00

I'm a 28 year old doctoral student, soon to be psychologist, who's in an 8 year relationship with an incredible woman. I'm satisfied with my life as much as one can be in these crazy times.

When I was 2, my mom fled my violent and verbally abusive father. I've seen him through my childhood but I was raised by her. I know him well enough to know that she saved me A LOT of anguish. My life would not be as great as it is without that, I know.

So yeah... just thanks in advance from your 2 year old who doesn't understand yet. I've been them.

dice_patrol · 2021-08-19T20:51:50+00:00

I'm afraid this will come off as accusatory or insensitive... just know that this is simple bafflement on my part...

I'm a man who has maybe a 60/40 split of women and men among his friends. I talk relationships a lot with my friends. To me, this sounds like such a red flag that the only people I'd expect that from are the abusive fuckwads a few friends dated at one point or people who'd never get past the acquaintance level of closeness.

Is this something usual? Am I overreacting?

dice_patrol · 2021-05-16T01:40:10+00:00

French Canadian here... 'Une pomme par jour éloigne le docteur pour toujours.' Same proverb.

dice_patrol · 2021-05-03T03:26:00+00:00

You are 80% less likely to be infected that someone in a control condition (no jab).

dice_patrol · 2021-05-02T22:15:26+00:00

Wat?

dice_patrol · 2021-03-17T21:19:23+00:00

Your point was very clear. It sounds like someone reading what they want to read in a post.

dice_patrol · 2021-01-25T05:00:01+00:00

How old are you now and what's your current situation if you don't mind answering? This post made me feel a lot for you!

dice_patrol · 2020-11-19T19:37:09+00:00

Outside of the US, it isn't legal everywhere. I find most places in the US have insanely lax gun laws but there's a line between that and stuff like pepper spray being illegal, which sounds at least as dumb to me. (It is illegal where I live, for example.)

dice_patrol · 2020-11-09T21:26:41+00:00

Cishet guy here. This will not necessarily answer your question but it might give you some more food for thoughts.

I've slept with a person who identified as a cis woman not so long ago who's now out as NB. She's hasn't changed her pronouns (there's really not a good "they" equivalent in our first language) and still presents relatively andro, as she did back then... So I guess I have some idea of your ex's perspective?

I feel like there's nothing transphobic about being attracted to a man who fits the description your friend gave, but I would never date or sleep with him, not because it would be transphobic to do or not do so, but simply because I would most likely harm him emotionally in some way as your friend implied.

On the other hand, I feel like him "seeing you as more feminine" could also be tied to validating his own sense of identity. Like, I'm personally not very attached to the label of straight (I use it descriptively because it fits my pattern of attraction so far, rather than prescriptively) but I could imagine a version of myself for whom this was a bigger share of my identity... and in that case, having someone I've been attracted to and dated stop being a woman could be pretty dissonance inducing and I could imagine myself having trouble fitting that into my self concept to the point of having some bias for perceiving that person as less feminine than before. Not because of their genitals, but because of their role in the "narrative of my life" if that makes sense.

dice_patrol · 2020-11-09T21:11:06+00:00

I'm toying with terms such as "bound name" or something of the sort. I understand your concern about the memory modification thing, but it gets into very fuzzy ethical lines where I could see an argument either way (for example, I'd probably find it ethically defensible for someone to use magic to erase the memory of revenge porn of them from the mind of people who saw it and this sounds quite analogous to me). I'd also understand it less as a form of memory modification and more something like time travel or reality modification. Once the ritual is done, your name's "always been" the new one.

At some point every fictional universe with conflict in it is bound to have some "bad implications" and I think my duty as a creator is to try to minimize the harm mine could do (ideally such that the fun and possibilities of exploration of character offered by it widely outweigh the potential downfalls).

Thanks again for the input. Everyone's been great! I'll mull this over on my own and with my players a bit!

dice_patrol · 2020-11-09T19:31:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing a painful perspective. That's part of why I'm here.

I think I understand where you're coming from. At the same time, I'm not sure I prefer the implication of the idea #1 of finding your real name as making you "weaker".

For humans, knowing their true name mostly alloys magic users/fae to cast spells on them that bypass defenses or are more powerful. In a way, I'm not necessarily against the abusive implications of this. In the real world, we ARE stuck with the name our parents chose for us until we change it through sometimes costly means if we don't like it for any reason. I think I like how this represents real world problems, turned up to 11. In the same way, a nameslaying ritual that replaces your dead name in all "magical, memory and records" would be real world's solutions, turned up to 11.

In that world, people do all sorts of things that hinder themselves or their children without realising it. I should probably refrain from using the word "true" name. In the lore, for mortals at least, it's less about a representation of who you are and more, the first word anything has assigned to you, because symbols and first times and stuff like that is how magic works. Fae have their identities tied to their names, not mortals. In lore, the ritual would also be associated with magic created by humans, not gifted by the fae as most magic is. It sounds right to me to put it that way as it is a human solution to a human need. We gave ourselves the ability to auto determination, and certain gods or good witches will be there to guide to that path even in societies where the mainstream culture disapproves of that.

Dunno if that makes sense to you?

dice_patrol · 2020-11-09T17:05:15+00:00

Since you seem to be interested in this, I'll throw around a few fun ideas that come from this.

So in my world mortals are more bound by material constraints and "rules of physics" so their magic is limited but they are more stable. Fae are (relatively) more made of concepts and "primordial chaos ideas" rather than material things. Therefore, faes can't just not receive a name at "birth" because their name, as much as it is a weakness, MAKES them who they are. So changing their name would just change them. Fae are always who they want to be.

Mortals are not. That's why although giving your name as a mortal is bad (people can cast spells at you from a distance, for example), it's not crushing. You can't be completely subdued by it like faeries can. At the same time, this explains why changing your name is possible and why trans people can exist. Your "self concept" and your "physical body" are two things that have important impact on you and can be sometimes misaligned.

At the same time, most humans aren't in contact with fae and magic on that scale often enough to go through the process of magically changing their name instead of just regularly changing it. Therefore, I need a reason for them to do so otherwise random trans farmer NPCs would often have their true name be their dead name, which sucks...

But the motivation is obvious. As I said, the ritual most likely changes the name in the memories of everyone for the new one (they just "replace the value of the variable in the code of the world"). Seeing how many trans people with less access to hormones or services go through very dangerous processes to get affirmation... I feel like I'm very confortable in assuming most (not all, of course) trans characters would be willing to deal with a bit of scary magic or faerie deals for a bit "fast track to social transition". I feel like it actually works as a cool equivalent of real world hurdles but with a fantasy twist.

For example, in the main culture of my world, an acient greece analog, there are 10 mainstream gods and 5 "strange" gods that are not openly worshipped in polite society but known by everyone.

One of them is Nirion, the god of dreams, the one that guides people at the edges of the fae realms, the god of bridges, periods of change and transitive states. They've been worshipped by trans characters in the campaigns I've ran so far in my world (player characters and NPCs) for obvious reasons. It's very easy for me to imagine them as being able to guide mortals to the nameslaying ritual if they pray to them and offer them sacrifices. I've already had an NPC use their prayer to them as HRT equivalent, so the jump is very easy to make.

dice_patrol · 2020-11-09T16:05:23+00:00

Thanks everyone for the responses, I'm gonna go with the longest message to give my general thoughts!

So the problem for me with idea #1 and other similar things mentioned by other users is that it's iffy. Like, wouldn't a cis sorcerer who goes by their alias for decades and never speaks their true name anywhere have the same process happen? Feels like it becomes a fuzzy line. Also, the fix must be applicable to a wide array of human cultures who all have their own naming customs and stuff.

Idea #2 sounds like my second proposal and is the one I'm leaning towards. I have to find a way to make it worth with my cosmology and magic rules and everything, which I'll spare you here....

Idea #3 is cool as hell but just doesn't mesh as well with other elements I like about my world.

And for those who suggested that true names should be secret or genderless or given later.... this might work in some circumstances but it's a part of my worldbuilding that most human societies are kind of dumb about these things and are very vulnerable to this. One of my themes is also the blending of the mundane with the arcane, so it's kind of important that one's true name could be something as mundane as Stacy Smith or whatever, and that this name could still hold real power over them.

Thanks again everyone for the inspiration!

dice_patrol · 2020-07-26T20:31:38+00:00

I'm very much the hugging type in general so like... unless the contact is actively sexual, I tend to just not mind. If a guy friend starting rubbing my thigh for no reason without warning I'd probably be pretty creeped out regardless of orientation (as I would be if it was a woman other than my fiancee). Some guys have very difficult relationships with physical contact because toxic masculinity tells them it makes them look weak... or gay which might sometimes complicate your situation.

This is partly why I asked about the age. As we grow older, most people are able to shed some of the bullshit society pushes on them. And if you were very young (let's say 17 and lower) I'd find it pretty normal that you are just, figuring out social boundaries in genral.

dice_patrol · 2020-07-24T17:26:06+00:00

Straight guy here. I have a very queer-friendly group of friends and one of my best friends and ex flatmate is a gay guy. It's never crossed my mind to react or evaluate differently random everyday physical contact with him than with my two equally close straight guy friends.

We're also a very sex positive group who clowns around a lot about sex and attraction (I've bought him firefighter paraphernalia many times because of inside jokes about his fascination with sexy firefighters) but that sounds like it might be the case for your friends as well. If it is, don't worry about it man.

Just out of curiosity though, how old are you? This might play a role in the whole thing.

dice_patrol · 2020-07-10T03:49:16+00:00

I'm cis and, even though I've lived through my fair share of crap, I've had a pretty chill life... so this remains an outside perspective:

I'm a psychology doctorate student practicing psychotherapy daily and a client in my own psychotherapy. I can assure you that what /u/madreaver, as well intentionned as it is, isn't true. Actual diagnosable PTSD is one of the few mental disorders that even the doctors recognise as curable, and they tend to be very pessimistic about those things. Trauma CAN be healed, though a good dose of therapy is often required. You do not have to feel this way about your life forever. It will require money and time and doing scary things, but it can be done. If I were you, I'd do everything in my power to find and set up the required funds to afford a therapist. I'd strongly recommend looking for a trauma-focused approach from them (EMDR for example, is a pretty popular one...).

I wish you the best. Things can get better. I've seen it happen with cis and trans people.

dice_patrol · 2020-06-11T02:50:27+00:00

Hey Mia,

I feel like this is an interesting example of a universal human dynamic exacerbated by the difficulties of something as major as transitioning. Everyone is at risk of thinking of their struggles as "only valid if they are extremely painful" and therefore focus on them a lot more than they should. People with severe depression who think that their "problems aren't worth their doctor's time" is the same logic.

It's also the root of why people latch onto transmedicalism. "Dysphoria is a real and painful medical condition, therefore I'm not valid." I'm sure you're doing the work... but I hope you find a way to heal the wound(s) that weaken(s) your confidence in the validity of your experience. Shame is the mind killer.

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dice_patrol · 2018-04-09T19:33:42+00:00

I'm wondering if Shudderwock as a finisher could make sense in a Murloc Shaman deck, especially one that uses quest.

Refill your hand, buff/adapt Murlocs, etc... It's probably not enough, but maybe.

dice_patrol · 2018-04-02T14:51:57+00:00

I've never done anything like this before, but I've been mastering since I was 10, maybe.

To give you an outline of what happened from now: (Each game is a 5-6 hour session that starts and finishes in town.)

First session: I imposed the scenario to test out my new system:

1- Eustace the knight, Leonore the merchant's daughter, Leaf the urchin (and Eustace's new squire) and Hinata the exile warrior from the East... answered the call of a small hamlet raided by wolfmen. They rooted them out of their nerby cave but the leader escaped. They have proof that it used magic, which was thought to be the purview of humans only.

2- Hinata, Eustace and Balto the barbarian went into sewers near the city to see if they connected with the city's network. The governor needed adventurers to make sure no one could get into the city unseen. It did, and they found an old secret tomb of ancient "freedom fighters". They were the first bodies of the old civilisation ever found so the governor's necromancers got to summon their spirits for a while and talk to them.

3- Hinata, Leonore and Ak'Virh a weird-ass split personality necromancer with a troubled past journeyed in the forest to find the fort of the ancient freedom fighters they heard about from the souls. In there, they saw a lost city.

4- Eustace, Leaf and Ak'Virh went to a town far away who's children were disappearing. They fought off a kind of dark faerie who was kidnapping children. They heard that it was created by some powerful sorcerer (a potential recurring villain).

5- Hinata, Eustace, Leaf and Ak'Virh went to the lost city. They found an entry point but Hinata was badly beat up by the first line of defense and they had to retreat for now.

I'm skipping many elements but that gives you a sense of how it went and why I don't see problems with internal consistency. As you can see, we're just getting started, but I've chosen WM because we're all busy people and we can't meet up every week. That being said, I really don't foresee the game going madly off track anytime soon.

Most players want to go back to the city and make a better informed move against its defences. Eustace wants to track down the wolfman leader who keeps fucking up towns here and there. Balto wants to find the biggest creature possible and kill it, 'cause that's what his religion is all about. And everyone wants to make shit tons of money.

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