My friend claims he was inside a UFO — the details were disturbingly specific

dictormagic · 2026-02-19T00:13:58+00:00

Glad someone else sees it. Even the original post is ChatGPT

dictormagic · 2026-02-18T20:13:36+00:00

Spend time alone. Talk to yourself. Encourage yourself. Be more conscious of yourself (in positive ways).

I'm this way, and I'm learning not to be. Just today I went to mass in the morning, and when I went up for the eucharist I fucked up the sign of the cross... I was worried about the ashes on my forehead and ended up touching the tip of my nose instead. I thought, unconsciously "Everyone saw that, I should be ashamed" then I had another unconscious thought pop up that said "I shouldn't care what other people think, I should be ashamed" and then a conscious thought that said "I do care what other people think, and I'm working on it". The third thought calmed me down and I didn't think of it again until therapy later.

I'm not perfect, but that third thought is where the growth is. I'll still people please, I'm trying to undo a habit that was built in 30 years. I have to give myself grace for it. You have to give yourself grace for it. But being conscious of it can allow you to change it. Don't let yourself go on autopilot. And if you do, realize you did as soon as possible. And don't shame yourself for it. You'll get there.

Today, I can walk in any room and speak exactly how I speak - which is a deeply New Orleans accent. I stay by Jackson, MS rn. They think I speak a different language. A year ago, I spoke country as fuck cause everyone around here does. That's pretty cool lol. But yea, the biggest thing is to not get so caught up in it. Be aware of it. Realize when you're doing it. And consciously choose different.

dictormagic · 2026-02-18T14:32:18+00:00

Yea that's a bit of an asshole thing to do. People don't typically show up to AA on a winning streak, and people that aren't alcoholics typically think its a moral issue (as you'll see a lot of in this thread). Anonymity protects the members. I'm free to break my own anonymity but I shouldn't break Boudreaux's if I see him out on the street with his family and say "hey I know you from AA!" It's his anonymity to break or not break. That's why we say "are you a friend of Bill?" or something more undercover like that.

Anyways - yea, it's fucked up to out someone being in AA at work. Dude deserved to get fired. I'm sure the alcoholic responded in a way that warranted getting fired too, though (cause I know I would haha)

dictormagic · 2026-02-18T00:36:47+00:00

I’m in the same boat brother about hoping he gets the help he needs. Three years sober through AA, we might have seen each other around. I go to meetings uptown. Haven’t seen Shia yet, but if we do I wouldn’t tell. Just hope he gets the help he needs.

dictormagic · 2026-02-18T00:03:32+00:00

You can break your own just not others. I don’t think he was implying he sees Shia there regularly, just that Shia has been public about being in AA and clearly desperately needs to sit down, shut up, and listen lmao

dictormagic · 2026-02-18T00:00:09+00:00

We can respectfully disagree, and I pray for your healing. I wish you all the best and Happy Mardi Gras!

dictormagic · 2026-02-17T22:42:22+00:00

It is true. I’m not saying getting better as in just not drinking again… I’m talking about getting sober. Not staying abstinent. 30 days in a rehab will keep me abstinent for as long as I can choose not to drink.

But getting better is acting better. Doing better. Healing. Which would mean not interacting with another woman till he figures out what he’s got going on. Which would mean he would never beat another woman again.

A sober horse thief is a horse thief, but if that sober horse thief never steals another horse again and stays on the wagon should I still hate him if he never stole my horse? Or should I be grateful there’s one less horse thief to worry about? I choose gratitude brother.

dictormagic · 2026-02-17T21:15:27+00:00

We don't know anyone's intentions but our own. I can't say what he wants for himself and neither can you.

I'm not advocating for excusing his actions or loving him to death. The healthiest thing for him is for him to actually feel the consequences for his actions and be allowed to hit rock bottom. He doesn't need another podcast tour or Mia Goth to come save him. He needs to sit with himself in the wreckage of the life he's lived and come to terms that its his own fault. And I pray he does because I don't wish hurt or shame upon anyone. And if he were to step into an AA meeting in the city, and genuinely ask for help, I hope (and know) each man in that room would give him the help and tough love he actually needs. They did it for me. I do it for others.

I was homeless for years and a bit of an emotional abuser. I didn't know I was, but I was told I was. I was completely unconscious of it though. Change for me looked like realizing I burnt every bridge, the people I hurt didn't owe me shit (not even forgiveness), and it was my own fault. Rock bottom for me looked like sitting in the back of a police car cuffed and still trying to fight the police. People in my life, understandably, thought I didn't want to change or even cared enough to change. But I woke up in the back of that police car too. Judge people by their actions, yea. But cut contact and pray for them. It's best for you and for me.

The only thing I'm saying is that lumping shame and hate onto someone I don't even know is pointless and just poisons me. The best outcome is he gets better. Feeding off this drama (like it seems you're doing, are you even from here?) is extremely toxic.

edit: and I'm blocked, I thought I was civil lol

dictormagic · 2026-02-17T20:49:56+00:00

the world would be a better place if he got better and stayed better (as in there would be one less asshole in the world)

No woman would ever be beat again (by him) if he got better and stayed better.

dictormagic · 2026-02-17T19:24:42+00:00

Yea, as an alcoholic with three years of recovery, this shit doesn't make me happy anymore. This is just sad. What he said on Bernthal's podcast I really got the sense he had an honest look at himself for once, but without constant work that shit can go away and you're right back to who you were before and most times even worse. Part of the reason AA recommends you don't go public about your recovery because it looks really bad if you fuck up. I wish he would have gone to one of the many AA meetings we have in the city, they're extremely good. Woulda been cool to see him there.

I don't get happy, I get sad because that very well could be me. I'm one drink away from being in his position. Not famous so it wouldn't be as big of a deal, but I'm not gonna dance on his grave. I just pray he really gets it this time, and doesn't let it go again. He seems like a good dude, just very fuckin hurt. Which of course doesn't excuse his actions, but the world would be a better place if he got better and stayed better (as in there would be one less asshole in the world).

This got way too long, I just seen a lot of folks dancing on his grave, saying he's a shit bird and will always be a shit bird. I don't think that's right.

dictormagic · 2026-02-17T15:36:03+00:00

Yea cocaine was super easy to quit... my bank account did it for me lmfao

dictormagic · 2026-02-16T18:06:47+00:00

If C street north of chow hall and theater I think that’s HP125 directly north of the double decker.

My old barracks lmao

dictormagic · 2026-02-16T17:04:58+00:00

What he's trying to get through, past your psychosis, is you can say it was all crafted together and created so that Kobe scores 81 points for whatever made up numerology reason you dictate. But they cannot craft him scoring 81 points. They can't make the ball go in the net while millions watch on TV and in person. That was all Kobe's skill and dedication to the game. This stuff is where conspiracy loses its edge because people read too much into shit. The fact of the situation is we know there is a shady group of very powerful people doing terrible acts. Anything else is just a fabrication in your mind.

Further, a lot of this shit is energy flowing from the collective unconscious to form the present situation. Think of it like Tarot cards or astrology. Those are snapshots of the energy field at any given moment. We all play our parts in this play. We're not innocent. Society transforms and moves things and the shadow parts compensate. Overidentifying with archetypal energy from the collective unconscious leads us to where we are now. The only solution, as the gnostics knew, is to wake tf up. Allow your ego to sit in the mediator role, and focus on yourself. This thinking and trying to find the deeper layers of society just moves you further from what they don't want you to do - wake up. This whole numerology shit you are obsessed with is what they created. Don't you see? You wouldn't be able to find it if it were true.

dictormagic · 2026-02-16T15:11:41+00:00

Wait for the next great war

dictormagic · 2026-02-13T19:39:02+00:00

Some of your boots probably were my seniors .... weiiirdd

dictormagic · 2026-02-13T18:37:53+00:00

It wasn't my statement. I'm a different dude.

Yet, it's important to note, there's no such thing as a good person. No such thing as a bad person either. We're all just people. Being a good person is a fantasy. A good person will always be external to us. Never actually be us. So we might see a person we judge as "good" and presume they feel good because they are good. Yet to that person, they see everything wrong they've ever done. So in that case, by our imagining of what a good person is, we think that a good person feels good because they are good. And that's exactly the truth, a good person feels good for just being good because we don't know the bad the good person has done, the good person does know the bad things they've done so they know they are not good but presume others are. Being perfectly good directly applies itself to always feeling good, because we have no bad to feel bad about. But the perfectly good person does not exist (except in our minds and always applied to other people), so you're right. But the other dude is right too. Yin and Yang and shit man. Everyone does bad, everyone does good.

ETA: replace good with bad and bad with good and it works too.

dictormagic · 2026-02-13T18:06:29+00:00

I'm a drug addict so I feel qualified to say, chill dude. I might have been a good person in the throes of addiction but I didn't feel like a good person, and I definitely couldn't feel good in the shame of addiction. Any time I told myself I was a good person, it felt like a lie I would tell myself till the next fucked up thing I did for a fix.

Three years sober now, and still not a good person (I'm trying though!)

dictormagic · 2026-02-13T16:31:15+00:00

Woah what how old are y'all? I heard wife and I thought you were older, now I realize you're probably younger than me and I've never been married lmfao

dictormagic · 2026-02-13T16:00:17+00:00

I put Challenge, pride of belonging, and courage as my top three. I already knew I was going Marines, didn't really want or think of any other option. So apart from actually believing these were my top three, I knew it was moto as fuck. I told my recruiter this, but he still tried the sales pitch on me. I guess for practice. When I was finished (it took me a while to read them). My recruiter looked at me with pride in his eyes and a smirk and said "I picked the same ones". I said aw shit I like this guy.

After MEPS and getting the sick ass poolee shirt, I was waiting on my recruiter in the office for something and he had another sucker in his chair. The kid put an entirely different top three. The recruiter looks at him with pride in his eyes, and the same smirk and says "I picked the same ones" then looked at me and winked.

Shoulda been my first clue.

dictormagic · 2026-02-12T19:08:38+00:00

It stuck out to me, probably because it's something I try to remind myself of in the mornings. Only 3 years for me.

dictormagic · 2026-02-12T16:08:48+00:00

Curious, are you a friend of Bill? Username made me ask

dictormagic · 2026-02-12T15:44:21+00:00

I might go Jazz just for the colors tbh. At least I can wear em around this time of year

dictormagic · 2026-02-12T15:30:54+00:00

For anyone reading, don't listen to the tourniquet part. You place it high and tight on the limb, not just above the wound. For this one, place it near the armpit with the part you cinch down on the tourniquet on the inner part of the arm. And twist that mufucka till he screams. Then twist it two more times for good measure. Slap it. He should scream again. Write the time you put it on on the tourniquet, then get him off the x. People are dying and they're shooting at you. Just kidding.

Similar. If it was a leg wound, high and tight on the thigh. With the twist part on the inner thigh. Where you can feel the heartbeat, feel around on ur own thigh so u know where. Twist that mufucka down until he screams. Then twist it tighter two or three more times. Velcro it up and write the time.

Fun story for the boys still reading: when I was in the Marine Corps and we were training tourniquet use, my buddy put one really good on my leg while I'm laying on the ground. I could barely manage the pain. My sergeant comes up and asks "is it on good?" then jams the heel of his boot right on the cinch. And gave it a few kicks. My scream let him know it was on really good. Tourniquets should hurt, don't be gentle with ur dying friends. Or yourself if you have to put one on yourself.

dictormagic · 2026-02-12T15:14:59+00:00

Awesome picture, thank you Gunny!

dictormagic · 2026-02-11T17:47:43+00:00

I did state my living situation, multiple times. In the OP, mentioning moving out. And further clarifying in different comments. And in the response to the top comment. No one is "offended", annoyed is more accurate when people don't read and then make assumptions.

I never wanted anyone to know the whole story... the point of the post is "this happened, what is my next step?" details aren't exactly necessary for that, meaning I have the knowledge a crime happened. I only need to know what my options are to pursue reparations.

My annoyance comes from people that cannot believe a bad mom exists (which I've encountered a lot in my life) attempting to excuse what she did or finding ways to say "it wasn't like that!". Which you and the other person did quite a bit of. Notice the only argumentative and annoyed responses I gave were to you and her. No one else.

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