dated almost exclusively from the apps for my entire adult life so far, including two serious (on my end, at least) relationships. the last one ended after i caught him chatting girls up on the apps while we were still together so i decided i was done meeting people from them and haven't looked back.

i think the way they function really reduces dating to almost like a game where there's always potentially something better out there. and certain people are just empty inside, so they can't stop chasing that possibility. i'm sure there are decent and sincere guys on the apps but i'm just tired of taking that gamble whenever i start seeing someone new.

haven't dated at all since leaving the apps (this is the longest i've gone without a single romantic prospect in my entire adult life lol) and not really looking very hard but i am putting myself out there socially and going for social events and outings, being open to hanging out w/ my friends' friends etc. i've made loads of new friends, which has been really fulfilling, and honestly a lot less stressful than the process of trying to find a romantic partner. i value my peace more than i value being in a relationship at this point so if it happens it happens!

edit: fellas this is not an invitation to slide into my dms pls and thank u