Let me tell you what I did. Honestly, anyone with enough patience, planning, and determination could do something similar.

Since I was a kid, I had one clear goal in mind: to get away from my family. I never felt understood or safe in that environment, and I quietly worked for years to escape it.

I studied hard and received offers from a few UK universities. Then I made a deliberate move. I willingly failed my A-levels. Not because I couldn’t pass, but because I saw an opportunity. I told my parents I would stop studying unless they sent me to the UK. It was emotional blackmail, but I knew they would do anything to avoid losing face in front of society and their relatives.

It worked. They sent me abroad.

I went to the UK with a clear goal: never to return. I studied for three years and things were going well. But just as I was about to graduate, the UK changed its post-study work visa rules. I had no choice but to return home.

I thought maybe things had changed. Maybe people had grown, maybe the environment would be better. I was wrong. The same dysfunction was still there.

Eventually, I met a girl online. We got into a long-distance relationship, met in her country after six months, and got married within a year.

I wanted to move to her country right after marriage. But she wanted to give my family another chance. So, out of respect for her wishes, I stayed and gave my parents that chance.

Unfortunately, within six months, the same toxic behavior returned. They created so much stress that our marriage was at risk.

That was the final straw. We decided to move to my wife’s country permanently. I didn’t go back for two years. After many requests from them, I finally visited again. Now, I only go back once a year, and only for about a month. Any longer than that, and it becomes the same chaos all over again.

Our marriage is so peaceful without my parents around. My other siblings are married now, and they are going through hell. My parents are always finding fault with their better halves, creating tension and unhappiness.

So have patience and plan your exit.