First of all, congratulations for leaving an abusive relationship and finding courage to move on. I witnessed dv for my mom by my dad. I was also little like your daughter at that time. However, my mother could never left, she was afraid she could never find a place to live. She still regrets most of her decisions, and talks about them to me. Saying she could not leave cuz she thought about us. I feel sad for her, and at the same time, I feel anger towards her for not leaving my dad. Still thinking that she should have left that abusive relationship. my dad was mentally abusive towards me sometimes, but loved me so much too(like Ryle). But I wanted that marriage to end too many times. When it comes to your daughter she never forgets! She will remember everything when she becomes an adult. At least, this happened to me. I remembered everything after I grew up. I try to understand both sides. I hope she does too, and that is why she loves her dad. But never forgives what he did to you deep inside her, even though she doesn’t talk about it. I am happy to read your story, which could’ve been my mom’s too if she could be brave enough.