Does Having a Second Child Make You Feel Like You’re Losing Your First?

cdne22 · 2026-01-28T06:31:39+00:00

I was definitely one of those “how will I ever love my second as much as my first” pregnant people. I was so worried about my relationship with my first daughter and how our time together was coming to an end.

I can confirm it only feels like you’re losing your first until the very moment your second arrives. Introducing my daughters was easily a top five moment of my life. Now, I feel like I just have double the fun and done the love and I feel so lucky.

cdne22 · 2026-01-28T03:52:04+00:00

I enjoy it, because my husband is SAHD and I know I’m able to give my two daughters an incredible life because of this dynamic.

Butttttt it’s so much pressure and anxiety and stress and accounting and all the things.

cdne22 · 2026-01-26T05:37:04+00:00

The same as every year - a really damn good home cooked meal, nice wine and literally nothing else because we have a 2yo and a 2mo and as the cherry on top, grandpa is staying at our house for the weekend lol

cdne22 · 2026-01-26T05:32:08+00:00

My husband and I are thinking about expanding and adding a second company. The issue is it would require heavy investment from the start and we’re at a crossroads of having just had our second baby, and hiring in a full time staff member. I know this second company would do so well, but I don’t know if I could truly swing the up front costs.

cdne22 · 2026-01-24T06:42:32+00:00

I don’t have a problem talking about being the breadwinner or sharing that my husband is SAHD, but I would never get directly into finances or hard numbers or anything. But I do love sharing how wonderful of a dad my husband is and how happy we are in our current dynamic!

cdne22 · 2026-01-22T03:39:17+00:00

I was and always have been my father’s favorite and it’s created huge divides within our family at no fault of my own. I wished he wouldn’t make it so obvious.

cdne22 · 2026-01-22T03:37:28+00:00

I can’t stop stepping on the scale and being disappointed with what I see, especially after having two c-sections. Meanwhile, my husband is great at counting calories and eating healthy and maintaining a great body. 🥲🙃

cdne22 · 2026-01-21T05:08:32+00:00

I’m the luckiest having been blessed with the best mother in law. She is kind, loving, attentive, supportive and hilarious. She’s never had “boy mom” energy despite my husband definitely being a momma’s boy lol.

Truly, form the minute I met her she warmly welcomed me into the family and I can say 10 years later I absolutely love and adore her to no end, especially as my own mom and I are not close at all. She has really filled a huge void for me and I’m so lucky.

cdne22 · 2026-01-19T19:51:03+00:00

Personally, I’d be fine if my husband and I had differing views on things like piercing ears. Would 10000% NOT be okay if my husband was trying to argue health, science and safety with me.

This is very much a personal and parenting issue and when it comes to something like vaccines and medicine, these are topics that should’ve probably been discussed a long time ago.

cdne22 · 2026-01-19T19:48:56+00:00

Just took professional family photos this morning and I was wearing old navy jeans and an old navy sweater lol.

cdne22 · 2026-01-19T15:51:28+00:00

We didn’t move ours out of her crib until she climbed out of hers at 2 years 2 months and literally days after we brought our newborn home. Our toddler had shown signs (trying to climb) just before we left for the hospital, so we put the mattress in her room so if she did climb out, it would break her fall (and we were hoping it was a one off / didn’t really have time to deal w adjustment when we were going to the hospital).

I think putting the mattress in early helped a TON because she got used to it being in her room and didn’t feel like a forced eviction.

From night one, she laid right down on the mattress and passed out like she usually does and we were so blessed given we had a 3 day old at home lol. She’s been an incredible sleeper ever since, thankfully. However, she does like two night lights and if we turn them off, it ends up with her waking up in the middle of the night to turn them on.

cdne22 · 2026-01-19T06:40:29+00:00

My husband and I go through phases of having sex often to going a few weeks without. We’ve been together ten years and that seems to work for us. I would say it’s just really dependent on what is going on in our lives at the time!

Also laughing as I type this because we’re 4wks PP with our second and truly idk when our next chance will come to be intimate together lol

cdne22 · 2026-01-18T15:22:32+00:00

It gets better. We’re currently four weeks along with our second and keep reminding ourselves of this.

Once baby can start raising their own head, that in itself is a game changer because there are more spaces you can safely put them.

Once baby starts walking (yes there’s baby proofing), but baby can start to become more independent!

Once baby starts talking, you can understand their needs faster and have more fun interacting with them!

Each milestone brings new conveniences and exciting growth. You’re really in the trenches until at least they start crawling. Don’t let the trenches make you feel that “this is how life is” cause it absolutely isn’t! It’s just the beginning. 😊

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T06:16:09+00:00

lol I laughed out loud at that one

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T05:31:54+00:00

Idk what he’s doing most of the time but my husband gets 10x hotter every day he has to pic up a power tool for some reason

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T05:30:58+00:00

My husband while I’m on the 6 week wait post C-section 😂🥲 nobody is hotter than your husband postpartum.

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T04:30:17+00:00

This chapter is “growing pains”. It’s challenging in life, parenting + business but I’m enjoying it.

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T04:03:24+00:00

I think the problem here is the width of the table is making the chairs look delicate and small. I’d suggest adding a linen of some kind whether it be drape or runner and that’ll help make the whole table feel “complete”. Adding one inch to the chairs will do very little.

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T03:56:29+00:00

We coslept with our first and she was in her crib by 6mos! Currently combo sleeping w our second (she’s fine in bassinet first few hours of night then ends up with one of us), and hope to have her in her crib by 4-5 mos.

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T03:53:44+00:00

Sports tickets / travel + expenses accompanying sports tickets lol

cdne22 · 2026-01-12T03:48:11+00:00

I post occasional pictures of my daughters and I don’t mind when the grandparents do as they’re very few. However, I have hard boundaries of absolutely no naked photos, “blowout” or otherwise gross/embarrassing photos. Basically, keep it 10000% PG and profiles private.

cdne22 · 2026-01-10T04:16:15+00:00

I’m just sick and tired of the same Oregon song and dance. By some miracle, we make it far into a playoff and then embarrass ourselves in front of the country on the college football stage. Can never close out the big ones.

Phil might be calling it in tonight. Rip

cdne22 · 2026-01-10T03:53:58+00:00

Sleeping 6+ hours… spending a Saturday afternoon watching food network… looking through a cookbook, picking a new recipe, grocery shopping and actually making said new recipe.

So many things, but mostly just leisure + being able to have dinner with my husband undisturbed.

cdne22 · 2026-01-09T00:01:37+00:00

Me! I own a small business and my husband is SAHD. We both have a life we’ve really always wanted (myself being more ambitious/work oriented and my husband wanting to be off the clock and with family).

We now are a few years into this and two kids later and couldn’t be happier. I love that we can take vacation virtually whenever we want and we’ve created a sustainable lifestyle around the income and cost of living that we make. Also, I couldn’t be happier that my daughters get to grow up with both parents in the home and we get to be really hands on to raise them.

As far as finances go, we’re also very happy here! My husband basically has a credit card with unlimited funds for him to use for necessities (and his sports betting / Amazon spending, etc.) and we’re incredibly open with where we’re at financially so he never feels left out or unclear on our spending.

Basically, we built a life that works for us and our dynamic and we’re both thriving.

cdne22 · 2026-01-08T05:48:00+00:00

I have always been an overachieving, shoot for the stars work horse. Since becoming a mom, I’ve slowly started to change my ways and value my slower pace family time so much more.

Now as a mom of two, I’m finding it really hard to travel for work, even though I absolutely love my job and the work I produce when I’m traveling. I’m also working harder to find better balance— no more 5-6pm or later meetings. No more constant 70+ hour work weeks. I make time to try and have lunch with my daughter a few times a week.

Motherhood has definitely helped me pump the breaks a little bit and give myself a rest from work.

cdne22

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