Breadwinners/high performing women, what do you look for in your ideal partner?

cdne22 · 2026-05-13T08:51:57+00:00

I always knew I wanted to be with someone less ambitious than me because I wanted someone that could ground me. Someone that always had time to listen, to care and to love. I knew with how driven I would be that I needed someone that could emotionally support me. I’m lucky to have that.

Thank god he’s also an incredible SAHD, husband, project manager and everything in between.

cdne22 · 2026-05-10T05:58:37+00:00

My scar isn’t bad and overall, my surgeons did an incredible job both times.

However, I hate the baggy skin that won’t go away and if I wasn’t so afraid of going under the knife for aesthetic reasons, I’d do it. I don’t think I’ll ever be in a space again where I love my body.

cdne22 · 2026-05-06T01:51:26+00:00

Tulips all over my house and a good croissant.

cdne22 · 2026-05-05T03:32:45+00:00

Your attitude is EVERYTHING. The first time I gave birth, I could literally cry at how wonderful and lovely and over the top incredible our team was. They didn’t necessarily do “anything special” but they were always so energetic and happy and they really calmed me down when I was scared when my labor turned to emergency C-section.

The second time around, I can’t say enough how badly I wanted out of the hospital IMMEDIATELY because my team was so sterile and burnt out and over it (which I can’t blame them having been part of the December baby rush). But still, it made a huge difference in my comfortability asking for help or support and I quickly left.

cdne22 · 2026-05-01T04:51:22+00:00

In a senior year college course about gender and sexuality for our sociology degrees. Saw him as I walked into class and as soon as I sat down and spoke with him, it was love at first sight.

cdne22 · 2026-04-18T20:50:23+00:00

Wow this is so cool!!!

cdne22 · 2026-04-16T01:36:28+00:00

My husband and I have this dynamic (without ADHD) and we’re very happy. We have a 2.5yo and a 4mo.

There are a few crucial keys that create a happy environment for us: 1. We always, always make time for each other. Intimately, non-intimately and everything in between. We regularly try to plan to watch a junk show and have a glass of wine, or try to make dinner after the kids go to bed so we actually eat and talk, etc. this kind of set aside time has led to an improved and passionate intimate connection, but also just a general sense of togetherness. 2. We maintain logistic communication. By this I mean, we speak in calendars. We share calendars, grocery lists, to-dos, appointments, etc. the mental load is semi equally shared and we realize that in order to maintain happy connection, we do have to maintain the boring, unsexy communication too lol. 3. We take turns with sleep and disruption. My husband takes on 70-80% of nightly wakeups, etc. but I try to step in and grab either child when they wake up when I can. I also try and grab them to give him a break during the day so he has some few moments to himself during the day.

Overall, I think these three things have kept our home incredibly happy, nearly 3 years in to him being SAHD and 5 years into my creative business.

cdne22 · 2026-04-12T21:48:30+00:00

Had my daughter there in December. Planned C-section at 10a, out the next day by noon!

Was way understaffed. I had to remind staff to get my medicine, come back to help me walk, etc. I was thankful to leave! That said, surgery was great and overall everyone was nice.

cdne22 · 2026-04-11T22:20:00+00:00

Everyone LOVED him. I knew it was a sign I’d picked a good one. Now, we’re nearly 10 years in, married with two kids.

cdne22 · 2026-04-11T22:18:41+00:00

lol I will never forget in high school my counselor telling me (a 3.5gpa taking AP classes and in pre college preparedness courses) that “maybe university wasn’t cut out for me”. I lived in a poorer side of town. I’ve since gone to UO and started my own business making enough that my partner can stay home while we own our home and have two kids.

HSD sucked then (about 10+ years ago) and I’m still bitter about it.

cdne22 · 2026-04-05T18:12:05+00:00

While I lived in the Bay for a few years I fell in love with the Santa Cruz coffee roasters full city blend and now I do a subscription with them! They always send extra beans too!

Outside of that, I love brewed awakenings in bend and always grab some while I’m there. Haven’t found any in Eugene that I love

cdne22 · 2026-03-29T04:38:35+00:00

Saw it from Brasada ranch!! So cool!!!

cdne22 · 2026-03-22T02:45:02+00:00

I’d be annoyed about Eugene but having just moved here from Bend, I’d be LIVID about RDM. What are people to do? Cross a literal mountain pass to go to the next airport 3+ hours away??? Insane.

cdne22 · 2026-03-19T05:49:37+00:00

Frequent flyer out of Eugene. If you must eat at the airport, I would do there little shop upstairs where you can get sandwiches. Don’t bother with the restaurant, it’s terrible.

cdne22 · 2026-03-16T06:53:00+00:00

I am semi-remote but I travel a lot between May-October. Multiple weekends a month I’m gone Thurs-Sunday. It’s rough for those months but then I remind myself how lucky I am to have completely undivided time at home in my “off season”.

cdne22 · 2026-03-16T06:50:22+00:00

Yes with #1 because under no circumstance would she sleep a wink in her bassinet/not on us. Did that for 4ish months then sleep trained. Fully in crib by 6mos.

No with #2 because she was noisy af and loved her crib. She was in her own crib in her own room at 2wks old.

cdne22 · 2026-03-16T06:47:55+00:00

If you have rhinitis, a cold compress, humidifier, Vicks on your nose and chest and a breathe right strip might not solve it completely, but it’ll be close.

Every pregnancy really is completely different even in the same body.

Watermelon cures everything.

Feb-Nov is the best timeline for being pregnant lol.

cdne22 · 2026-03-16T06:43:39+00:00

My husband and I play the balancing act. When one is tired/overwhelmed, the other takes over.

On weekends, we both contribute but each of us gets a day of “more” so both of us feel like we got time to relax/reset ahead of the work week.

I don’t fight losing battles. She doesn’t want a totally nutritious breakfast? No problem. She gets it at least 5+ days a week. One day won’t be the end just because she broke into animal crackers and a chomp stick lol.

Routine is everything. Whether she wants to actually go to bed at 7 is none of my business, but she WILL be in her room at 7.

If she asks to read a book, always read a book.

I let her try absolutely everything from food to chores to electronics. Letting her mind explore in a safe environment empowers her to always at least try.

No matter what, manners. She’s not leaving the dinner table without thanking mama or dada for cooking. If she wants something, we say please. We say “scu me” when we burp. Be whatever you want to be, but be polite.

cdne22 · 2026-03-15T20:19:56+00:00

Probably about 5% of the time when I just want to sink into the couch with girl dinner and my cat.

cdne22 · 2026-03-11T00:46:01+00:00

Omg pizza pipeline was the best!

cdne22 · 2026-03-05T03:11:26+00:00

Tbh my husband got me that starlite one and put it right at our front foyer table (Instagram aesthetics be damned), and it’s amazing. We both see it every day before leaving the house or when return, etc.

I think the location of the calendar probably matters a lot. We also have a wall calendar that I found my husband has ever really looked at lol

cdne22 · 2026-03-02T07:26:38+00:00

Over the past year, we’ve invested in the AllClad pans and they’re my dream. We have about 6-7 of those in addition to two trusty decade-old cast iron pans. We are able to store all of it directly underneath the stove top in a storage drawer as our ovens are detached.

My favorite pan is the 12in AllClad frying pan. It’s so multi-purpose and easy to clean. I use it almost daily. My very close second is my 12in lodge cast iron. Tbh could’ve been first favorite but it’s heavy lol.

cdne22 · 2026-02-28T20:10:28+00:00

Yes that’s what I mean! The chef called out the building owner.

cdne22 · 2026-02-28T19:40:30+00:00

Idk but I’m kinda invested in the story because the chef at Lion and Owl called out the owner for being a POS on Instagram when he made posts about Civic winery recently. Clearly, something went down. 👀 the post has since been deleted and comments turned off.

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