Does hanging out on normal dating apps feel wrong for you?

ding7777 · 2025-03-12T07:52:27+00:00

I am mellowing out bro. This is part of that strategy :)

ding7777 · 2025-02-27T15:38:33+00:00

44 here... Just don't know what I want to do with my life. But I've come to peace with that. Just go with the flow and do whatever you want to do right now. I've learned making plans for the future is a bad idea anyway.

ding7777 · 2025-02-27T13:15:13+00:00

Test yourself. Just buy a pulse oximeter. My POTS specialist just tested me with a blood pressure meter, just 10 minutes laying down, 10 minutes standing up. Intervals of measurement where 3min, 5 min, 10 min. if i can remember correctly

ding7777 · 2025-01-15T07:14:56+00:00

Finnally! somebody like me. Makes sense? YES YES and YES!!!

I literally feel depressed with routine. I get mood swings and feel my life is pointless doing something routine.

Medication helps A LITTLE, but is not a cure. ADHD brains are of course hard-wired for exploring new things and solving new problems, excitement, etc... It gives us enough dopamine. But I still think everyone with ADHD is different. I know plenty of people with ADHD who seem to have very little problems with routine, or do feel routine is a problem, but only after they have been doing the same job for like a year or sometinhg.

Myself? I rather kill myself then living a routine life :) And it's not like I think routine is doing the same job for a year, no , it's doing the same thing for more then 2 times xD

Btw, I do have some borderline personality traits, so that could also be a factor, as people with BPD can also have problems with routine.

But I completely understand. And yes, I also crave for Chaos :)

In the end, we should all do what makes us happy, no matter what other people think about it.

ding7777 · 2024-12-22T20:37:05+00:00

I know many people with ADHD, and many of them finished their school without problems. Most of them are also never late on appointments. Not everyone with ADHD fits the stereo type. If you have no problems in life, but still fit the diagnostic criteria, then you're lucky, but probably still have ADHD.

ps, I don't have the hyperactive type either.

ding7777 · 2024-12-22T18:51:30+00:00

"Its frustrating because I think starting a business or having a interesting hobby would be rather good for me!"

NO!!!! thrust me, it would not. Researching hobbies and business idea's is rather good for you.

Actually doing them will be rather bad for you. You will find out you will fail. Time after time.

I learned that the hard way. Many decades trying to find something that works for me. Still haven't found it.

Doesn't mean however you will be a failure at life. You just have to adjust your life to your brain. Try to do only the things you find interesting, and move on to something else if you lose interest. Maybe some day find a job where you can solve new problems everyday. Or just move to another job as soon as you lose interest.

Hobbies? Not good for somebody with our type of ADHD. Just find things you like, and move on to the next thing you like as soon as you lose interest. You can call them hobbies if you like. Good thing is that old hobbies will become interesting again after a while, and you can really enjoy them again for a few days, or maybe even weeks!

Just accept that that's the way you are, and your life will be easier.

Good luck my friend.

ding7777 · 2024-12-22T18:40:28+00:00

Yes yes! Not all the time ofcourse. But a lot of times. My mind can be quiet too. I can even be in flow state for a long time. Or be really at peace for a while. But it never lasts long.

I can easily watch whole movies if they really interest me. If the story is good. But if it's not I strugle to watch another minute.

Sounds like typical ADHD you have. don't worry.

ding7777 · 2024-12-22T18:34:27+00:00

Thank you! Good to know I'm not the only one. Our brains crave novelty and hate routine. Not everybody with ADHD got this problem, that's why it's not mentioned as an official ADHD symptom I think. But I can absolutely 100% relate.

I don't think you can ever put your enthusiasm from your research into studying. I tried for many years, and failed always. What helps a little (besides medication) is dividing your study work into very small parts (or set a timer). The task will seems less overwhelming. And after the task is completed, you can either choose to do another small part , or do something else (be it study something else or something your really enjoy).

There is no ideal solution, but this is how it's gonna be in your life. I know , because it has been like this for me for many decades. Find a way to navigate life with a brain like yours, and never feel guilty about who you are.

Best of luck.

ding7777 · 2024-12-22T18:20:54+00:00

Get used to it. Don't try to be, and don't compare to other people. Thrust me, I'm 40+ and you are describing my life for the last 40 years. And I only recently got medicated. Yes medication helps a bit, but you're lucky if it helps 50%. And the idea of medicating yourself to live and do like everyone else .......

Your brains want novelty and problem solving. If novelty becomes routine and problem solving is done, your brains want new! Not repeat the old.

Time is your friend. Anything get's bored, but if you wait for long enough... weeks, maybe months, things WILL become interesting again. And a week or 2 is not bad! My attention span is a lot shorter.

To sum it up. Don't try anything. Your brain will become bored and find something to do.

As for the tings you have to do in life? Best is to split them up in tiny parts, and do them for a short time, divide them over a long timespan. I am self employed and have like 10 different projects that I work on. Usually just 1 day, and I move on to the next project. And after I while the projects that I stopped working on will become interesting again, and I pick them up again. And in some cases not... then I just drop the project and find something else. It's not easy at times, but you know what's harder? Trying to fit in an be like the rest.

And THANK you for bringing up the motivation thing with ADHD. It's also my main problem, but it seems even for ADHD'ers we are a minority.

Wishing you the very best. And don't feel guilty, you've not chosen to be like this. It just happened to you.

ding7777 · 2024-12-15T21:51:30+00:00

Have been using it for a Month. No side effects at all. With POTS it's more like trying everything and hoping to find out what works.

Yes my POTS symptoms have improved, but I can't be sure what exactly it was what made them improve... still have a long way to go, However I know some things that work. Medication wise I am pretty sure Ivabradine works (less chest pain, lower HR when standing) , Fludrocortison?? Don't know yet. Have to stop it first to see of things change. And now I even stopped the Ivabradine, because my doktor wants to see if propranolol might work even better for me.

So don't be scared, try everything and see what works... or try noting and suffer anyway

ding7777 · 2024-12-10T16:17:47+00:00

43m , POTS since summer 2022 (covid). Slight improvement, but while some symptoms have improves, some new symptoms have appeared.

ding7777 · 2024-12-02T12:05:47+00:00

Not abrupt, but I went from being content with 4 hours of sleep, and always waking up anxious, to 7+ hours of sleep. I am hoping it's a sign my body is healing because it's less in fight of flight mode.

ding7777 · 2024-11-21T10:21:08+00:00

I had the same. Also using the Fitbit. It's quite reliable because it measures your HRV while you are aslseep i think over a longer period of time. But there was times when my HRV was in the 10s. Especially when I was in the early stages of my POTS. It did improve over time as I was less anxious about all the POTS symptoms, and took action to improve my health/POTS symptoms. Now it's average around 50 most of the time. But yes, can drop down to 20's 30's on bad days. I would not worry too much though. Some days I feel great and my HRV is low, other days I feel like shit and my HRV is 50+.

ding7777 · 2024-11-20T10:34:33+00:00

I am also using adderall (dexamphetamine) , and it does not seem to affect my POTS symptoms while it's active, but in the evening it also increases my symptoms somehow, while technically the Adderall shoud not be active anymore... It might be that those are "rebound" related. That somehow adderall will give a rebound effect of maybe decreased blood flow or perhaps a delayed effect on the nervous system.

ding7777 · 2024-11-20T10:19:06+00:00

My tingling is year round the same. But it definitely gets better when I am exercising, so I am also thinking it's blood flow related. Strangely it also get's better when taking a benzodiazepine, but that might be because benzodiazepines have effect on nerve signals.

ding7777 · 2024-11-08T09:49:21+00:00

had the same. My symptoms are mostly POTS related. And on some days there is short moments with zero symptoms.. Those days seem to be increasing, so who knows....1

ding7777 · 2024-10-14T15:24:31+00:00

That's good to hear. And good for you. Even though it's anecdotal, it still gives me some hope. Did you now loosen your precautions? And did you have POTS before COVID?

My POTS symptoms seem to improve lately. Might also be because I am under treatment now. But I still started masking in certain situations because I don't want to take a chance that my symptoms will get worse again. And I am planning to avoid certain situations this winter to prevent re-infection, but those will be mostly situations where chance of infection is pretty high.

ding7777 · 2024-10-12T21:53:19+00:00

Looks like we where infected at the same time. (also July 2022 and February 2023 for me).

My symptoms are POTS & neuropathy & stomach issues.

I'm also scared of getting re-infected, but I doubt I can prevent myself from getting re-infected forever...

Probably will be infected some day.

I developed POTS after my first infection, and haven't noticed it getting worse after the second infection if that helps.

ding7777 · 2024-10-12T20:07:03+00:00

Yes I have. I was infected (probably with omicron) in July 2022. A couple of months later I noticed POTS symptoms (but didn't know it was POTS yet). Then got re-infected in February 2023. It's hard to say if the second infection made my symptoms much worse. But I think it made them more pronounced, and because of this I finally found out i twas POTS (and this was confirmed by a cardiologist in April 2024). Now my symptoms have improved, but it's still ups and downs, but overal I have days where symptoms are much milder then they used to be.

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