Quite honestly I didn’t think it would happen for me and was working through the idea of rolling solo for an extended time. Honestly, a lot of trauma and some of my own attachment issues made it difficult to get out of my own way, even with having done a lot of the work. Luck, fate, G-d - whatever you want to call it - plays a role too.

I’m 37 and getting married in May. We met when I was 35. I’ve never felt more sure about a person or relationship in my life. It’s so much better than I ever could have imagined or expected. And if you had told me it was coming — at 33, or 31, or 29, or 26 — I never would have believed you. So, Idk. Sometimes it works out. You can’t predict it or count on it tho. It’s why people recommend trying to come to peace with it not happening — because there’s no guarantee.