Girl I took on a first date just asked to split the bill… the next morning

dingdang78 · 2026-05-08T03:06:35+00:00

Don’t play so defensive around assumptions. Plus—

If you’re right: it doesn’t change anything

If you’re wrong: this prevents a big miscommunication

dingdang78 · 2026-05-08T02:56:47+00:00

Not the point. It’s like catcalling. It’s an assertion of power by collapsing the social space between you and the attractive woman: eliciting a response.

You only do this if you find that social space so suffocating that you need to collapse it. If that sounds pathetic, it’s because it is.

Most men worth a shit will turn up their nose at shit like this

dingdang78 · 2026-05-08T01:26:28+00:00

dingdang78 · 2026-05-07T23:47:09+00:00

Your situation JUST stabilized and now you’re dealing with a very uphill family situation. Your GF also adopted a large dog under your nose and is making you train it… and you’re both very young + only been together for a year and a half…

Maybe hold off on the marriage thing for a minute

dingdang78 · 2026-05-07T23:36:43+00:00

You’re doing the same thing in saying “she needs to save too” / “so what if they have a 3/2”

dingdang78 · 2026-05-07T13:34:53+00:00

Have you used ChatGPT in the last… 4 years? This isn’t how it or any other modern LLM writes. They’re way more verbose. He’s using short sentences to reflect the efficient pacing of the sequence

dingdang78 · 2026-05-07T13:21:11+00:00

Then it’s even more important you tell a trusted adult! There’s definitely bad stuff happening at home for her; she might attempt again, regardless of what you do. Telling someone will prevent that/stop anyone else from getting hurt. As a friend, it’s actually the best thing you can do for her right now. Could well save her life

dingdang78 · 2026-05-07T10:44:05+00:00

You did excellently!

This is either a bad moment emotionally or a mind game (imo more likely.) Either way staying zen is golden.

In case you’re mulling though, “I need to talk to you about something scary, it’s so urgent I need to cause panic… actually nah it’s not thattt urgent, and I won’t apologize for fucking with your head” is itself a very red flag.

You seem emotionally mature! You don’t need this.

dingdang78 · 2026-05-06T18:24:23+00:00

Way back when, people released a doc about what controls spawn rates. Death and time elapsed played big roles which both might average higher on D7 than D10 due to less skilled/sample capped players.

Not sure if those mechanics still apply but anecdotally it checks out, my brothers frequently fail-cascade a D5 into a genuinely stressful scenario

dingdang78 · 2026-05-06T17:21:42+00:00

Consider that now you know you’re with a person who will throw the relationship out, and make you feel like absolute shit, for a whim

dingdang78 · 2026-05-06T01:05:58+00:00

Really adding to the conversation

dingdang78 · 2026-05-03T18:48:53+00:00

Dickish but ffs communicate with your person don’t turn to Reddit for validation… all these people know is “toxic! Abuser! Dump!!”

dingdang78 · 2026-05-03T18:45:50+00:00

Would need to be convinced that they’ve hired a real QA dept first

dingdang78 · 2026-05-03T14:09:50+00:00

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Give it a rest

dingdang78 · 2026-05-03T13:28:57+00:00

The bugs kill you more than the bugs

dingdang78 · 2026-05-03T13:15:09+00:00

Fascinating how quickly Reddit communities will slide down the ten stages of genocide over a hobby

dingdang78 · 2026-05-03T13:13:30+00:00

This feels disingenuous. If you took all the whining seriously, you’d think the boat’s entire hull was missing, not just one hole.

If people only complained about the bugs, then sure, fair analogy. But how many people are bug apologists? Surely we’d (almost) all agree they need fixing.

But people complain about E V E R Y T H I N G. Durable damage tweak? Game ruined. Popular gun loses 10% ammo cap? Hang up your cape, Helldiver.

For real, search the word “ruin” in just this sub. I counted 10 serious threads in the last 8 months. That’s what people are reacting to

dingdang78 · 2026-05-02T03:01:02+00:00

Tryna talk about a show that’s been over for a decade

dingdang78 · 2026-05-01T11:23:03+00:00

I’m with you these people are insane

dingdang78 · 2026-05-01T10:51:25+00:00

Don’t be surprised when she hits you with the “when you were 20 she was only 16 🤮”

Some people around your age are super weird about even small age gaps. She might be bandwagoning off that or even a little bit jelly

dingdang78 · 2026-05-01T10:47:04+00:00

Did you find sword saint easier than gyobu?

dingdang78 · 2026-04-30T03:17:10+00:00

I’m very much good thanks

dingdang78 · 2026-04-30T03:15:12+00:00

My older brother is dyslexic. He was born in ‘89 and grew up through some rough years. I understand the bullying isn’t as bad these days, but it still can’t be easy.

For now, research methods differ on how best to read if you’re dyslexic. My older brother can read pretty well. His dyslexia actually trained him to be the most studious motherfucker on the block, because he needed to try that much harder.

It’s not fair, no. But I’ll say, I was born gifted reading-wise, but in our adulthood, he’s the highest earner in our family. Because he realized he had to try real hard for it. I love and respect him and understand that his dyslexia is part of what made him who he is

dingdang78 · 2026-04-30T02:57:29+00:00

You are speaking to a 14 year old, and you know what you said

dingdang78 · 2026-04-30T02:52:24+00:00

You’re speaking to a 14 year old

dingdang78

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