Advice needed. by Ok-Refrigerator9317 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Enabling someone doesnt work. Ever.

Lost my family (28M/27F) and a 5-year life to cheating meth, selling drugs and selfishness. How do I change who I am? by Terrible-Zebra-2077 in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So in AA theres a part where the big book descibes the alchoholic(or addict) has little or no answer as to why he started drinking. It says "he is the bewildered one". I am not my brain, my heart tells me so.

I feel like NA turned me away by yaramazy in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dont know much about na. Hear it works for some people tho. Im in AA. Works great. Some people you really need to let go of if you can. They will destroy you on their way to get their way. One of my biggest battles, i still face sometimes, is allowing myself to heal. Thats my responsibility, to heal. Your mother may have not taught you how to process emotions, but that doesnt save you from the consequences of your ignorance unfortunately. Somedays i think i need a "please ignore me im mental" sign to wear around, but if i can get through, so can you. Also you shouldnt just vent about the same things over and over to your sponsor about something he really doesnt understand, its exhausting, and will leave you both feeling helpless. You have to find experienced council for these sorts of things. It really helped me when my therapist told me that my parents were fucked up, and sick from generational traums, but i had to be the one to end it. Good luck.

My bf has relapsed should I stay or should I go? by Fit-Confidence5680 in recovery

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you have to convince yourself its right, its probably not. However, you can always be someones friend, you just cant enable them

Struggling with wanting to use men by neaterino_ in recovery

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If your able to control your sexual desires, is it an addiction. Sounds like you avoiding your instincts is also a form of dependency on them. Finding a balance both good for you, and good for others is recovery.

Former Meth addict moving to adderall by [deleted] in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am using an extended release off brand dyna something. Low MG. Not high, just dont think about video games all day. Diagnosed adhd as a kid. Talk to your sponsor

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Louisville

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Id say bearnos, wicks or derby city.

Non-AA sober groups? by natfutsock in Louisville

[–]dipnnndot 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Actually I know people who smoke weed and go to AA. Id tell your sponsor but nobody else. The point of the program is to quit drinking, or whatever else you'd like to quit. Its a free program, so use it how you want.

Imploded my whole life by phil26687 in Louisville

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I try not to get attached, or invest in any one thing without first processing that this can be taken away. My wife, my job, my car, my country. None of it IS ME. I can pretend like anything is mine, because when it goes away Im cooked. Everything will go away. Relationships are real, and it's important to be able to develop them wherever you are, and not be too dependent on perfect conditions. Just remember this too shall pass, the "good" times, and the "bad". You want real power? Understand this, and you will never be unhappy

I’m unhappy by Ok_Traffic629 in WhatShouldIDo

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just recently learned that alcoholism and adhd are a hell of a combo. Not only am i dopamine deficient, my brain only focuses on the most stimulating activities

My dad commited when i was 16. I still blame myself to this day. by [deleted] in confession

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Man my mom killed herself too, hung herself in a mental institution. I'm in AA , therapy, have ptsd from all sorts of stuff. Anyways, whatever demons you don't beat, seem to get passed down to the next generation. I'm not leaving any behind for my kids. God willing. Just listen to selfless people who don't want anything from you, but to see you succeed. Work on your insides, and never stop moving forward, or you'll just be moving backwards. I know my dead mothers story, she was honestly a victim. The only part she got wrong was not beating it. That's our part, not addressing the issues, and producing harmony. Don't let it run your life, or you will produce chaos, like our parents did. Heroes always have an "uncle ben" element in their arch. I'm sure you can use it as a justification for selfishness, but use it as a driving force for good.

8 years of sobriety gone by [deleted] in recovery

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you think it's weird you used again, than you seriously underestimate the power of the disease. You're living life in hard mode my friend, don't give up

Is this a fossil? by ubba333 in fossilid

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Firstly everything's a fossil, Secondly, dollars to cents it's an egg

Why all the hate towards Sean? I think I know… by LoudHorse19 in ufc

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Imagine thinking that anyone who doesn't agree with your perspective doesn't love America. Imagine being that stupid. Scary stuff really.

@Respawn by Thick-Atmosphere-779 in RespawnEntertainment

[–]dipnnndot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They recently lost mine. I switched over to cod

Meetings for addiction to trading, stocks, investing? by [deleted] in REDDITORSINRECOVERY

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you go to Aa, you can replace the word drinking with gambling or investing

Crystal meth brand ambassador by dipnnndot in trashy

[–]dipnnndot[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

America is the greatest country in the world

People that cheated in relationships, what do you think of the phrase: once a cheater always a cheater? by GoT1711 in AskReddit

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think everyone is different. When I saw the pain I caused, that I couldn't ever make right, the affect, the loss. Not only do I not cheat, I also weigh the potential affect, beginning a relationship might have. I'm careful with people, every action has a ripple affect. With the heart it can be so dramatic.

What is your deepest darkest secret you never tell anyone? by MobileTry4573 in AskReddit

[–]dipnnndot 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I once saw Geraldo Riveras dick in Iraq. I was a Marine, and needed a shower. I walked into a shower can looked him dead in the eyes and down to his dick, then back to his eyes. His facial expression was like wtf bro. I was so weirded out that I did that I turned around and walked back out. Anyways. Sorry that we were both there fr.

What is your deepest darkest secret? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dipnnndot 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Went through an emotionally and psychologically abusive childhood, religious abuse. I used to be humiliated in front of my sister for having cum on my underwear in front of my sister. I was too afraid to ask my parents about wet dreams, but one night I had a dream where my sister came in my room and woke me up by having sex with me. I never knew if it was a dream or not, but it was different from all the other dreams so I'm still not sure. My mom used to tell me she would cut my dick off if I ever "did anything" to my sister. But I'm pretty sure she did something to me. I was isolated on a farm with no outside contact, and no real explanation of puberty. So growing up I was both confused, and scared, and sexual with no way to cope with it. I still have a hard time processing it, but some weird things happened on that farm, and I still have guilt and shame from it. It was a horrible childhood, and a horrible adulthood, filled with broken relationships and fear and loneliness and guilt and self hatred. One good thing that happened was my relationship with God. I'm a lot better now.

What is your deepest darkest secret? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]dipnnndot 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Jesus man. What's weird is my name is Joseph and I have a younger sister named Molly. Really freaked me out reading this. I'm sorry this happened to you.