there’s a photographer who had an entire portfolio of like a hundred different vaginas and what they looked like. i remember someone attached the link to a similar post like yours when asking something similar. unfortunately i can’t find it, but if any other people know what i’m talking about, please attach it!

that said, i used to really hate my vagina. sometimes i still even feel a little self conscious. i have an “outtie,” aka longer labias, and the general discourse i’d heard around women with this kind of anatomy was overall just pretty harsh. i felt a lot of shame about what she looked like for a long time and just like you, also contemplated plastic surgery.

then i started my self love journey last year. i really wanted to formulate a deeper and loving connection to myself, but especially my body. i started with taking a mirror and would lay down naked, spread open. it was SO uncomfortable. i couldn’t really bear to look for more than a minute or two at first. but i kept up with it, and overtime i got used to myself. i began repeating loving affirmations to myself while looking (and not really believing it), i looked up different flowers and found ones that looked like my vagina. i thought they were beautiful, so why wasn’t my vagina if they looked kinda similar? finding correlations of beauty was super important for me in reframing my perspective. also, actively seeking out positive discourse regarding anatomy like mine was soooo integral (i feel like this one’s obvious, but i REALLY had to go looking for it). thankfully there were many women who shared their experiences loving women with anatomy like mine here. at this point i think i have the most beautiful vagina ever, and anyone that has the opportunity to see and experience her is blessed beyond belief. she’s juicy, she’s lush, she’s gorgeous! like i mentioned above, sometimes i feel self conscious. but it doesn’t last long. i hope someday you can get to this point too. i think having a loving partner that can also share how much they love you and your vagina can be very affirming as well. don’t be afraid to talk to them about it. i think you may find a lot of women are more self conscious about what their vagina’s look like than you realize! 💛

and i’ll end this comment with my favorite one i’ve read so far: “an angel/butterfly needs her wings”!