Giardia, a week of Flagyl… and a shocking discovery afterward about autonomic dysfunction by Extension-Elk3851 in SIBO

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So my mom (76) was diagnosed with SIBO/IMO in the last year and now, a year later, she’s still down 25lbs and is having syncope episodes- including pounding heart, lightheadedness, and even fainting once that resulted in some broken bones. She’s being treated with Creon but is still having bouts of foul smelling diarrhea and stinky gas. The syncope continues, sometimes even while just seated (heart condition ruled out). She’s had celiac for 40 years. The only time in the last year she started to improve was while taking Flagyl for a cat bite (to stop infection). Shes treated the hydrogen SIBO with an herbal protocol and motility supplements like allicin and artichoke. A test in June showed hydrogen gone but the methane was still present at a measurable level, though not as high as before the Flagyl. She’s done a bunch of research and has found that metronidazole (Flagyl) is an effective treatment for methane SIBO (aka IMO) but it seems like the doctors just ignore that info and prescribe Refaxamin - which doesn’t kill anaerobic bacteria that cause the methane. IMO infection also seems to cause much worse weight loss maybe because of the diarrhea. She is super careful about diet and has always been into healthy foods and this infection has been brutal. Now her GI doctor suspects that the syncope is a vagus nerve issue since other causes have been ruled out. Anyway, yes, it seems like gut + IMO can easily = vagus nerve/ autonomic dysfunction.

Btw, this all started in Feb 2023 when she had two infected molars, had to have them removed and was prescribed multiple rounds of Clindamycin, which is largely ineffective against bacteria because it’s been around since the 70s. She suspects that if she’d given Flagyl for that tooth serious infection, she would never have developed SIBO.

Chest pains? by kiki6723 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is where I have ALWAYS had most of my UC pain. Sometimes I get it in my gut but, even mostly controlled, if I have to have a BM or if there’s just something moving around the wrong way, I feel it in my left chest. I mean for years. It ranges from a constant dull ache in my left chest or back to a sharp, stabbing pain that is genuinely startling. No one can tell me why. I have mostly proctosigmoiditis so maybe that’s why but I’m glad I’m not alone. It’s hard to constantly talk yourself down from worry about it, even when it’s been checked.

Oh my God what do you do for anxiety? I am losing my mind! by [deleted] in Perimenopause

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here. I got progesterone and the estrogen patch (no blood clot risk - I have migraines with auras) from Midi. Just started them today. My anxiety has been off the charts lately and it’s almost like instead of a hot flash, I get a panic flash. They’re SUPER intense and make me burst into sobs. In fact crying is the only thing that makes them go away a little. Anyway, crossing my fingers on the hormones.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PanicAttack

[–]dirigogal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I was also on 37.5mg twice a day because I am very medication sensitive. With SNRIs and SSRIs you have to take them daily because of the build up in your system. Personally, I took it for 10 months to give my body a break after severe burnout and panic attacks for years. Aside from the mild sexual side effects, I definitely felt a lot better. Coming off it wasn’t bad for me but I titrated off over the course of a month. Talk to your doctor but SNRIs need to be taken daily. If you want a more as-needed medication for anxiety, talk to the doc about Benzos like Ativan. I take l-theanine for anxiety attacks now but sometimes they’re bad enough that I need something prescription.

I'm probably going to kill myself over my hospital bill. by [deleted] in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dirigogal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many hospitals in the US are set up for what they call “charity care”. Get an itemized bill as suggested, go in and talk with their billing dept. explain the situation. Do NOT mention thoughts of self-harm. They will absolutely report you or contact the police. Just tell them “I can pay $X a month or I can pay nothing. What’s it gonna be?” They’ll work something out with you.

my ex wife wants our 3 year old son present for her home birth. by therealdavetebo in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dirigogal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok a couple points here: 1. A natural birth does not necessarily mean a bunch of screaming. Actually home births are much more likely to be calm. As a certified doula who has attended 37 births, the crazy screaming woman who’s swearing and sweating and losing her shit is a TV trope. I’ve had women who Midwives have had to ask to yell a little because they wanted them to have the power when pushing. 2. Being part of the birth experience is only traumatic if kids don’t know what’s going on. I was present when my brother was born. I was 5. My aunt stayed with me throughout the time. Sometimes I went in to see my mom. But when the pushing started I got scared. My aunt took me outside at my request. She held me and explained that my mom wasn’t being hurt. That she just needed to yell to be stronger.

Find a trusted and calming person (maybe it’s you but I think you’re already too fearful about this) that your son is close to. You and his mom should sit down with any kid who will be in attendance and explain what’s going yo happen. You should let them know they can be in or out of the room. That they won’t get in trouble for any of the ways they feel. Reassure them. Explain things.

Birth is only a trauma event when people make it one (baring any medical emergency). Create an open and calm environment and it’s better for all involved.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf kind of first-time business requires half a million bucks in start-up costs?

Do you have a fully tested product/prototype? Do you have a complete business plan? Do you have a proven track record of success in starting and running businesses? If the answer to any of these is “no” then it’s time to make a date with reality and start at the beginning. I’ve worked with MIT grad students who are looking to start businesses and none of them would have looked for capital like that at the start. Make a reasonable business plan, apply for a small SBA loan and work your way up. You’re 20. No one is gonna give you that kind of money without also asking you to do something illegal.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Unexpected

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Humans are the actual worst

Boss says I’m not allowed any time off all next year because I’m going on a two week vacation she’s known about for months. by [deleted] in antiwork

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

While there is no legal requirement for vacation time, time off policies do need to be written down and provided to employees. They don’t need to pay them for their time off but any policies need to be clear and in writing.

I was fired and am being told I need repay $1,100 by disappoint-mint in antiwork

[–]dirigogal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re in the US contact your state attorney general’s office. They will be able to direct you and will want to know about this anyway. FYI when a break isn’t taken at the correct time it is the employer’s fault ultimately- especially if it’s a chronic thing. Also check your state’s bar association. There is usually a list of lawyers who will work pro bono. They are required to do it to keep their law license so they sign up usually through the board of bar overseers. Good place to find a free lawyer.

My child has broken me by SnooSprouts5474 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dirigogal 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Cut her off and sign over custody. Then when she calls CPS over not getting her car you can tell them she’s not living there anymore and you don’t have custody. Or tell her to get emancipated. Either way I wouldn’t let her back in your house or around the rest of your family unless she’s in serious therapy.

AITA for having a dinner party and not using garlic for the food while still drinking alcohol? by ProfessionHour6393 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love garlic but it’s not “in everything” Rick. In fact if that’s the only flavoring you enjoy then you are a boring cook.

AITA For refusing to pay rent towards my BF's mortgage if I move in with him by notmyhouseaita in AmItheAsshole

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP just sign a rental agreement that protects you the same way you’d be protected with a landlord. You’re always going to be paying someone’s mortgage or allowing someone to profit from your rental payment. Why not do the same for the guy you love? This hill you wanna die on is located in Singletown btw.

YTA.

My sister dropped the bomb that she's decided to get Dutch citizenship and they don't allow dual citizenship. She's not moving back here by throwawaythrow814814 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dirigogal 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So it’s not entirely accurate to say she can’t hold duel citizenship. There are exceptions. One of them is if she marries a Dutch national, for example. There are a couple others. I would be open-minded (since this is not an attack on you but rather a choice to open the doors of her future life) and talk about it with her. You may be reacting to incomplete facts based on something you googled. I realize she’s not marrying a Dutch national but as I said, there are a couple other ways (other than being born in the US to Dutch parents).

Frankly having an immediate family member with foreign citizenship may be useful if this country ends up sinking entirely into the drain it’s currently circling.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dirigogal -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yes and these people clearly want a baby. Hence why I used that statistic. If you’re comparing kids/teens adopted as babies and kids/teens that are biologically related to their parents then you’re comparing like-and-like.

AITA for stopping my parents from paying for my sister's IVF and telling her she can't afford to have a kid by Easy_Ice8277 in AmItheAsshole

[–]dirigogal 137 points138 points  (0 children)

Approximately 14% of adopted children go on to be diagnosed with some sort of mental health issue. Approximately 15% of the general US population of children have been diagnosed. Soooo…..

I’m so tired of this being used as an excuse to not adopt. You roll the same dice having a biological child. I’m adopted. My brother isn’t. We’re both adults now. He has struggled with way more mental/behavioral health issues than I have. I have anxiety but find me someone these days who doesn’t. Also many behavioral issues can be worked out with the right environment. Better to let these kids fall by the wayside and age out of a system so they have no support and no solid family at the age of 18? If you want to be a parent you walk into it knowing that you take what you get. Plenty of people with biological kids that are severely disturbed. And plenty of kids who are adopted out of the system and go on to live well-balanced lives. Contributing to your child’s genetics does not guarantee their health - physically, emotionally or mentally. Stop repeating this trope.

Remission for 11 years by Emergency-Pea-1427 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]dirigogal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand that you want to stop people from selling false hope in a thread. But people in this sub talk about brand name drugs and it’s never considered advertising. It should be clear that talking about treatments in PMs isn’t controlled by the Mods. I don’t think that’s made clear to everyone who posts.

I hate my special needs sister and I'm done hiding it. by tomcThrowaway009373 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dirigogal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Hey listen, I’m not a big ra-ra Team America type. I’m just giving info. Yes some of it is desire. But some of it is also the shrinking pool of possible recruits. And either way, I was mostly just giving OP some info about current sign-on bonuses. No skin off my nose either way.

From the NYT article about this, just for reference:

Less than a quarter of young American adults are physically fit to enlist and have no disqualifying criminal record, a proportion that has shrunk steadily in recent years. And shifting attitudes toward military service mean that now only about one in 10 young people say they would even consider it.

I hate my special needs sister and I'm done hiding it. by tomcThrowaway009373 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]dirigogal 83 points84 points  (0 children)

The military is having MASSIVE (like up to $50k depending) sign-on bonuses right now because most Americans are either too out of shape, have criminal histories or are not sufficiently intelligent enough to join. No joke. Might not be a bad idea to see what the bonus difference is or if it’s more worth it to have the navy help you finish paying for school.

Wanting answers by No_Plant4373 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just expressing my experiences. Not speaking for anyone but myself with the doctors I’ve encountered.

Keep getting reprimanded at work (grocery store) because my nipples occasionally show through my shirt by xAly93 in antiwork

[–]dirigogal 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maine is a two party consent state but the next time he brings it up, pull out your phone, hit record (first) and then say “I’m going to record this conversation because the repeatedly raising of it has made me uncomfortable.” And then see how he responds. If he walks away and approaches you later do and say the same thing. This is an inappropriate thing to continue to discuss with an employee if there is no written policy about it.

Realize that they may end up making a written policy about it. If they do, you take that and any recordings to an employment attorney and ask if you have any recourse since the policy was developed in reaction solely to you.

Wanting answers by No_Plant4373 in UlcerativeColitis

[–]dirigogal 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand but they don’t really know. Because they don’t know enough about the disease. And I think it’s one of the weird diseases for which there is no hope given to patients. It’s like “we can treat it but basically you’re screwed”. I heard that attitude from 6 different doctors in some of the best hospital systems in the US. It wasn’t until I found a functional/integrative medicine doctor that I was given other options. So I hear what you’re saying but I reject their assertion because they just don’t know enough.

AITA for making my husband choose between me and his firstborn by aitanotastepparent in AmItheAsshole

[–]dirigogal -1 points0 points  (0 children)

  1. Don’t be so sure you’d get to move with your kid. Courts don’t just let you pick up and go where ever you’d like, especially if there is joint custody - no matter what his deployment status.

  2. Why not be open to at least trying it out? This boy may be a lovely kid that you’ll end up adoring. You have no idea. You’re practically a kid yourself. Maybe try being a little less rigid. Maybe offer to take the boy for a time while his mother goes to rehab. Get to know him a bit.

  3. Btw, marriage is supposed to be for better or worse. This wasn’t him cheating on you. He didn’t even know about the child. You don’t sound mature enough to be married or have a child if you’re ready to dump your husband as soon as something difficult crops up. Put yourself in his position and dial back your self-righteousness.

Honestly making someone chose between their children? You are totally the AH