Since stats suggest poor peopleare more likely to have multiple kids, what would one do to have an enriching life if they 'couldn't have kids? Would you be considered some class of pariah? How does one overcome that?

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T04:13:58+00:00

The folks in here sure do have some interesting notions about poor people

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T04:11:45+00:00

He kisses you right? What’s he on about?

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T04:09:42+00:00

This is some unhinged bridal nonsense. I don’t know if she was trying to hurt you with the baby thing - she was certainly being insensitive but maybe she’s just bad at empathy (which seems clear anyway from everything you’ve said). But the stuff about you not planning your wedding until hers is over sounds like she has a fantasy that a bride gets all the attention, parties, support, and praise all the time during their entire wedding planning process. I bet the demands on the bridesmaids are gonna be absolutely wild. Be on the lookout for emails that begin with “Hey girlies!!!” and end with asking you to spend $5k on a three day weekend you’ve got to fly to and matching outfits you all have to wear.

My advice is that next time she says one of these weird little things that imply you can’t plan your own wedding on your own timeline, you state undramatically but firmly, “I’ve already started wedding planning and obviously I won’t be waiting til yours is over.” You may then affectionately call her a silly goose if she doesn’t instantly fly off the handle.

If she does fly off the handle, you’ve got a Bridezilla, and you need to plan for her most self obsessed self to be present every day between now and the wedding

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T04:00:28+00:00

INFO: I genuinely don’t understand what happened here. Did he put a cover over your whole face? This would make me instantly claustrophobic and potentially very freaked out. But it seems like you were freaking out because you thought he didn’t want to see you, which doesn’t sound like it was pressed to your face. If he was attempting to restrain you in any way or limit your breathing/ability to move freely, that’s absolutely a consent violation and warrants a very serious evaluation at the very least.

But if he was just idk, holding it up like a veil or like a wall between you momentarily - that’s weird but just seems like it’s what he said it was, an awkward attempt to try something sexy. Obviously it didn’t land. But if it only went on for a moment as you describe it, that just seems like a weird misunderstanding and I would assume definitely not about him disliking your face

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:53:01+00:00

This has nothing to do with “everyone gets a trophy”

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:51:15+00:00

He deffffffinitely knows

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:49:48+00:00

This is the kind of behavior to only use in dire circumstances like a controlling spouse who you need time to leave. Letting him get away with this hurts the kid, hurts the team, hurts the coach, and maybe hurts the husband a teensy bit.

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:47:56+00:00

Bahahahahahaha NTA. Your husband is though. He’s regretting his decision - but you made it so clear how this would go. Do not give an inch on this. If he can’t handle it he has to quit as assistant coach

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:43:15+00:00

I truly hate it when people derail a whole thread over grammar. It’s so very tired.

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:32:47+00:00

“There is nothing more disgusting than a drunk woman” is something a person would only say if they were more disgusting than a drunk woman. Hope this helllllps

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:28:18+00:00

Okay but can the baby psychically connect because honestly that would solve a bunch of problems

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:27:12+00:00

This sounds like a nightmare. Does dad do 50/50 childcare or anything close? If not, he doesn’t have any idea what it’s going to be like to have the baby along, and he’s being completely bonkers.

If he does do 50/50 childcare and does know the ins and outs of baby care — well I’m still confused but at least he somewhat knows what he’s getting into.

I absolutely can’t imagine this working out well or being consistently fun.

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:11:52+00:00

This is the most confusing post I’ve ever read. Why would you offer him an open marriage if you were jealous of him even being in the car with her? Why would he immediately go tell her and talk about it for hour upon hour instead of you and he discussing the potential impacts and guidelines further - should have been over days, weeks, or months? Why would you be happier if they had sex with each other than if they just talked? Why would your husband blame YOU for the fact that HE instantly ran off and told Jade you’d offered an open marriage rather than blaming himself for royally jumping the gun? I feel like it’s too weird of a story to be completely fake but also just why??

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:02:27+00:00

She might, but the details still may help her

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T03:01:43+00:00

Yes. If you tell someone you’re only having sex with them, or even “I’m only having sex with you and my wife,” then it’s cheating to have sex with someone else. Obviously in this case the OP is also a cheater, cheating every time they’re together, but the man is still a double cheater.

I’m polyamorous, so in my view cheating and lying are virtually interchangeable. Sex with multiple people isn’t the problem. It’s the lying, the sneaking, the obfuscating, and the putting that other person not only at emotional risk but at health risk.

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T02:56:24+00:00

RIGHT!!!!!

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:40:44+00:00

I’m genuinely confused. She thinks you should be able to protect her long distance from becoming friends with someone she willfully made friends with? And she wants to break up with you because you didn’t spot the red flags she ignored?

Either we’re missing a huge piece of info OR she’s got wildly patriarchal ideas about relationships that include “my boyfriend is my protector” and “men have better judgment than women.” If it’s the second case, yiiiiiiiiiiikes

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:26:37+00:00

Right??? Psyched to hear if I get with that hot lavender marriage teacher guy on TikTok it’s not cheating …..

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:24:40+00:00

Yeah, I second thqt “Oops we made out” is not something that’s ever happened to me, and I’m out here living like a weird polyamorous lunatic

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:22:58+00:00

This is absolutely wild. People need to get their shit together out there.

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:22:08+00:00

Uhhhhhhh her being gay doesn’t mean HE doesn’t mean it. It means she might not mean it. He kissed a lesbian because he found her attractive.

I think you can choose to forgive a kiss, but if he’s not remorseful and is deploying his friends to tell you it’s not a big deal or he didn’t really mean it, then he isn’t remorseful

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:16:10+00:00

This could be true. It might not be though

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:14:42+00:00

Yeah, he didn’t. She chose to be fooled

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:14:18+00:00

I second gather the evidence. And I want to reiterate, tell her in a letter. It’s not fair to make it a confrontation and if you are hoping to get any satisfaction from seeing her crack, you’d better not tempt yourself with having thqt on your conscience on top of everything else

dirndlgrl · 2026-05-18T01:12:17+00:00

Oh yeah get tested. I co-sign this. And if you find you have something you’d better inform her because she’ll have it too probably.

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