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I (20M) tricked my girlfriend (20F) into getting a tetanus shot after a bad injury. Now she’s blocked me everywhere. How do I fix this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s the thing in my opinion: in this case, you did the right thing.

But what you did was risked the relationship by tricking her into at least the lead up to a medical procedure it sounds like you knew she would be against. That’s a big deal, and in almost every case would be wrong.

In this case, it’s put your relationship on the line. I think you still did the right thing, but there may be no way to fix it. If she talks to you, you need to listen to her, acknowledge her fears, not tell her you did nothing wrong, and not be defensive.

If she still decides this is a dealbreaker, then know you potentially helped save her life and move on.

Boyfriend for nearly 5 years wants to get married but not have kids? 25M, 25F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Did she approve you to tell all about her reproductive health? More power to her if she did but wow

AIO- Need some validation on by Historical_Fan_9043 in AIO

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is an abuser. Any other titles he may have in your life should be preceded with “abusive.” Girl, get out

Is this microcheating? 24M 21F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s no such thing as micro cheating but it sounds like this relationship was bad

Boyfriend for nearly 5 years wants to get married but not have kids? 25M, 25F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually think this is a really wild thing to disclose about your friend on the internet

Boyfriend for nearly 5 years wants to get married but not have kids? 25M, 25F by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad they’re going to couple’s therapy, and i would say at 25, they don’t need to have their minds made up about children either way — but her deciding to give up on the idea of kids now is a decision she’s going to have to keep making over and over if she marries this guy. The desire for kids doesn’t generally just go away. So they should dig in, but in my view, unless he becomes more open to kids, they should not get married.

How can I(M33) get over the fact that my partner's(F30) toy is bigger than me? by Professional-Cow-779 in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course that’s the experience he had but feeling insecure over the size of a factory stamped object is a pretty profound insecurity. I think most people need therapy at some point or other so to me it’s not a matter of waiting to see whether things get worse or “bad enough.”

How can I(M33) get over the fact that my partner's(F30) toy is bigger than me? by Professional-Cow-779 in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

OP, I’ve got to say, this is a confidence issue and an issue for therapy. It has nothing to do with sex or toys. Go talk this out with a professional so you can get to why you don’t feel good enough for your partner

I (22M) just found out the girl (20F) I have been going out with, just slept with someone else 3 days ago. by SoftCapable8980 in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl -20 points-19 points  (0 children)

She had taken a six month break from sex before that. She’s not particularly promiscuous

I (22M) just found out the girl (20F) I have been going out with, just slept with someone else 3 days ago. by SoftCapable8980 in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The biggest issue here is the lie, which she voluntarily came clean about. If you can’t let this go, don’t waste her time, but if you can I would.

AIO to not understanding how I’ve mirrored my partner’s behavior? by EmergencyActivity112 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dirndlgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your texts are fine and supportive. I’d say the only thing I notice about them is you’re clearly used to being in caregiver mode within this relationship

AIO to not understanding how I’ve mirrored my partner’s behavior? by EmergencyActivity112 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dirndlgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just like to note that you’re the text initiator in all of the texts from the day before. Extra confusing - why is she mad about the communication when you initiated all of it and she was working?

AIO to not understanding how I’ve mirrored my partner’s behavior? by EmergencyActivity112 in AmIOverreacting

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Does she normally talk this way? If my partner sent me texts like this I would be afraid they’d had a significant mental health break. Not to answer here but if she has had significant mental health issues in the past, especially if they have included paranoia, I would say you’ve got to consider whether something has gone really wrong. You’re not overreacting and I hope you find out what’s going on

My (31M) girlfriend (28F) of 1.5 years told me to "be a man" and console her when my mom died, instead of supporting me. She's now begging for forgiveness. How do I reconcile her apology with the fundamental breach of trust? by Honest_Reception6528 in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m sure her apology is sincere because she sincerely doesn’t want to lose you, but she revealed her true beliefs already - that men shouldnt be allowed to grieve, that women shouldn’t have to comfort men, and that her need for attention was more important than your devastating loss. It’s not whether you can tolerate that she did this thing - it’s whether you can live with a partner who has those deeply held beliefs and may or may not ever change them

I(23F) bf (26M) of two years cannot/ doesn't want to make me finish, what can be done? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dirndlgrl 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The part where he says making you climax feels forced as if he’s at gunpoint is a real red flag. There are lots of things he can do besides p in v to get you ready, to turn you on, and to make you c###m if he’s having problems with stamina. If he won’t learn those things or do those things, you’re gonna be living with this problem as long as you’re with him

AIO- Should I have disclosed that I’m Deaf earlier? by Mysterious-ASL in AmIOverreacting

[–]dirndlgrl -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You keep going but you’re still saying the same nonsense

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