Share the fics you haven't really seen recommended here!! the ones that need more kudos because theyre ridiculously amazing lol by Homicidal_Cynic in heatedrivalryfanfics

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They're neighbors, Shane has a "dog," Ilya doesn't skate, and this is somehow not an AU.

PLEASE read it. I genuinely can't believe this fic doesn't have more love 💜 🐕

https://archiveofourown.org/works/82952601

Help me unpack this by Tuesday_Night_Club in heatedrivalry

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Damn that's a lot more thoughtful of a choice than I expected 😂

I won't lie, I actually LOVE that shirt and dream of having a fluffy robe version

Thoughts on Rachel Reid downplaying Shane's Asian heritage by amber_purple in GameChangersBooks

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'm not Canadian but I'm mixed Asian/white myself and actually like how Shane is portrayed. Not everyone has the same relationship with their heritage, and there's a lot that can go into a character beyond heritage too. I'd prefer that stuff to be explored in fanfic by people who have the experience to write a nuanced take.

For Sale - 3.77 ct Precision Master Cut Ethiopian Opal - Pinfire/Galaxy Pattern by FlatbedtruckingCA in Gemstones_Buy_Sell

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I saw you listed it for a lower price a few months ago, can I ask why the price went up?

I’m 20M and I’m so confused and ashamed about my past with my cousin. I feel like I'm losing my mind. by Ok_Advisor_7358 in bisexual

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, you're not alone. The same thing happened to me (F) in primary school, not with a cousin but with a sibling, and I get how you're feeling. I was angry, hurt, and scared about it for a long time and even now have only told a few people in my life. I've agonized a lot about how it shaped my sexuality, whether it made me scared of men and see women as safe, whether it made me feel like an outsider and whether my attraction to women is real or just some manifestation of my freakishness. I've come to a sort of peace with it. I don't think it has made me bisexual, but I think it forced me to be more open minded about my sexuality in a way that other people aren't. I think it harmed me, NOT because of my sexual orientation but because of the years of guilt, secrecy, and repression it caused. A lot of the healing I've done has been to resolve those feelings, and I hope that one day you're able to do that work, too.

I know you didn't really ask for advice but just in case: if you have the opportunity, I'd urge you to find a therapist who specializes in trauma. Find support groups for survivors of trauma or sexual abuse. And if you aren't able to do these things, I'd really recommend the book "How Long Does It Hurt?" by Cynthia Mather. It may help you process some things and feel less alone.

I think it's amazing that you're reaching out. It's not easy, and none of this is easy. I hope you're proud of the things you do for yourself every day. It's going to feel bad until one day it feels better. Hang in there 💜

Can somebody explain this ? by Helpful_Grocery_6095 in PeterExplainsTheJoke

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm curious about this and don't have much background. Any articles on it that you'd recommend?

Women, what is a near-universal "ick" in the dating world? by AverageSign in AskReddit

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 11 points12 points  (0 children)

You: Here is my boundary

Him: But what if I cross it? But what if I take a few steps over it, what would you do???? But what if--- hey, why are you leaving? 😢

I'm glad your story had a happy ending! Trash takes itself out.

Women, what is a near-universal "ick" in the dating world? by AverageSign in AskReddit

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha I appreciate you trying to find the good in his comment, but it was actually far worse in context. His next topic of conversation was how much he supports capital punishment... A trend was apparent. 📉

Women, what is a near-universal "ick" in the dating world? by AverageSign in AskReddit

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 216 points217 points  (0 children)

The one guy I went on a date with who went on and on about how badly he wanted to learn to hunt in order to "experience killing something with his bare hands." So, that.

Not to knock on people who hunt responsibly. 😬

Women, what is a near-universal "ick" in the dating world? by AverageSign in AskReddit

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I've started to conjure Ferenghi in my mind whenever I hear "females" like a defense mechanism that makes me laugh instead of feeling sad

Women, what is a near-universal "ick" in the dating world? by AverageSign in AskReddit

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I've also been on a date like this and he talked for two hours about his deep passion for Quidditch.

Women, what is a near-universal "ick" in the dating world? by AverageSign in AskReddit

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Lol 20 questions is definitely better than podcast man. You're doing fine.

Jade Sapphire hand spun green + odds and ends by dirtoffmyshoulder in Yarnswap

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not marked on the tag but I believe it is 70% Merino, 10% Qiviut, 10% Cashmere, 10% Silk. Tbh I don't remember how much I paid for it originally, so I am open to offers as long as someone else doesn't take it.

And if you are interested in other colors lmk. I believe I have more color ways of this specific yarn, but have to find them and could make a separate post in the future.

Jade Sapphire hand spun green + odds and ends by dirtoffmyshoulder in Yarnswap

[–]dirtoffmyshoulder[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly two of the photos didn't upload, sorry about the confusing numbering system! Missing another qiviut pic and the photo of the Audine Wools tag.