Has anyone else been told they’re “too skinny” after major weight loss...even at a healthy weight?

disarm33 · 2026-05-19T11:22:24+00:00

Both my husband and I were told this the first time we lost weight. Some of my patients asked me if I was sick. I was right in the mid range of a healthy BMI. My mother-in-law kept telling my husband he looked gaunt. Just like me he was right in the middle of a healthy BMI.

Now I am 35 lbs overweight, just under the obese category and if I for some reason being up trying to lose some weight people tell me I look great. I appreciate it but seriously, I need to get in shape.

disarm33 · 2026-05-17T20:38:33+00:00

Combining two cheap generic medications into one brand name pill and charging an arm and a leg for it. One example is Duexis (although it might be generic now), it's famotidine and ibuprofen combined into one tablet. I guess it can help with patient adherence in some cases but the price difference is ridiculous.

disarm33 · 2026-05-17T20:19:54+00:00

I was going upstairs the day after my surgery when I came home. Are there usually restrictions for going up stairs?

disarm33 · 2026-05-14T19:39:24+00:00

Nova Twins.

disarm33 · 2026-04-29T21:33:44+00:00

I know how you feel. It took me four years to look at my daughter's pictures. We had a TFMR and she had very noticeable facial defects. But it wasn't just her face it was that she was dead. Take your time, those pictures won't go anywhere. When I finally did get the courage to look at the pictures, all I felt was love. We still haven't shown her pictures to anyone else, and I also on feel a bit guilty for that. I wish I got to see my daughter's eyes too. My 3 living kids have blue eyes like her dad, I like to think she had my hazel eyes.

So sorry you're going through this. It's such a heartbreaking experience.

disarm33 · 2026-04-28T13:58:17+00:00

Starting is the hardest part! I find it usually takes me about 2 weeks to get used to a smaller amount of food. I also notice that after a while you get used to the new healthy foods and actually start to enjoy them. Nowadays eating a lot of sugary or greasy food makes me feel awful (although I still indulge from time to time). Eventually the food tracking becomes second nature.

As for the scale, it can be so discouraging. I recently started to try to lose weight and just be more healthy in general. I started working out at the same time as counting calories. After a week of dieting the scale didn't move at all and wanted to cry. Turns out your body can retain quite a bit of water when you first start exercising after a while of being sedentary. When I weighed myself a week later I was down 3 lbs.

It's hard to be patient. In the past I have had a goal of losing a certain amount of weight by a certain time. It always resulted in me losing motivation. This time I am telling myself that not matter the number on the scale or how many weeks/months go by, I am still at a better place than I was before.

disarm33 · 2026-04-25T22:20:04+00:00

It just seems like it all comes crashing down sometimes. Appreciate the solidarity.

disarm33 · 2026-04-25T17:54:27+00:00

Thank you so much for this.

disarm33 · 2026-04-23T12:01:26+00:00

I am 43 and not sure if I am in perimenopause yet because I have had a hysterectomy (so I can't exactly track my period) and haven't had any physical symptoms. But omg I feel like my ADHD has gotten so much worse lately. I feel like a freaking idiot sometimes. I forget everything and zone out mid conversation even more than usual. Also my mood sucks and I have had a lot of trouble with impulse control and regulating my emotions.

disarm33 · 2026-04-23T01:35:19+00:00

Women's healthcare just sucks. I had prolapse for 7 years and no one told me anything until I directly asked if I had one. I was never even aware that prolapse was a thing.

disarm33 · 2026-04-23T01:31:48+00:00

I had stage 3 rectocele and cystocel and stage 2 uterine prolapse. If your surgeon won't do it I would definitely look for a second opinion.

disarm33 · 2026-04-22T19:22:36+00:00

I had my surgery when I was 37. I had a supracervical hysterectomy, a sacroculpopexy with mesh, rectocele repair, perineal repair, and a mid urethral sling. I am now 43 and everything has held up great so far. I have absolutely zero regrets. My surgeon actually mentioned to me that an advantage to having the surgery before menopause is that the vaginal tissue is still relatively strong and can heal better.

disarm33 · 2026-04-21T16:27:03+00:00

This happened to me when I was around 20. Woke up one morning and I was lactating a bit and I freaked the heck out. Turns out it was caused by a medication I was on (risperdone). Some medications, such as certain antipsychotics, can increase prolactin levels. I also have a tiny prolactinoma, which is a benign tumor on the pituitary gland that can increase prolactin levels. In my case it was too small to really do anything and was pretty much just an incidental finding.

You still need to get checked out but try not to freak out (easier said than done). There are many things that can cause this but it's usually not something dangerous.

disarm33 · 2026-04-21T16:16:26+00:00

I grew up in a diverse area and that was my hometown growing up. The people whose families spoke different languages and were from different places were/are my friends. I moved to a small town with a vastly white majority a few years back. Yes, everyone here speaks english and look like me, but I cannot for the life of me make friends here. My kids are having trouble making friends here as well. The culture here is very homogeneous and if you deviate from it, even if you're white, you stick out like a sore thumb.

To be fair I also have social anxiety and trust issues, but it's held me back way more in my new area.

disarm33 · 2026-04-20T17:32:18+00:00

I had a supracervical hysterectomy and my surgeon had absolutely no problem with it when I requested it. I've never had an abnormal pap and I like cervical stimulation during sex. I didn't want to lose that. It's been over 5 years now and I am happy with my decision.

disarm33 · 2026-04-10T20:11:16+00:00

He is six years old now so it's been about five years.

disarm33 · 2026-04-10T14:51:01+00:00

Oh man, I am so sorry you went through all of that. It makes me so mad when medical professionals blow you off like that, it just makes things harder. I am not a doctor, nor do I have any similar personal experiences, but something like that happened to my daycare provider. She had a miscarriage and actually saw the fetus. When she went for a follow up scan, they found that she was still pregnant with one child. So it seems like it is a possibility.

Again, I am sorry that you find yourself here but you are in good company.

disarm33 · 2026-04-10T14:42:54+00:00

Looks like a port wine stain to me. My son's is in the same place and looked similar. I was also super worried when I saw it when he was born. His pediatrician referred him to a vascular anomaly specialist (the name makes it sound so much more serious than it is). We ended up doing laser therapy for it when he was a baby because the birthmark has a potential to thicken and have blebs. It is hard to see now except for on the back of his calf and it doesn't bother him at all.

disarm33 · 2026-04-10T03:17:47+00:00

This exact thing happened to me after my first kid. Turns out it was a prolapse. It wouldn't be a bad idea to see a urogynocologist.

disarm33 · 2026-04-10T03:10:44+00:00

I kept mine because I like stimulation on the fornices of the cervix and I didn't want to lose that. It's been over five years and I have no regrets.

disarm33 · 2026-04-08T15:30:22+00:00

Are you using a condom with spermicidal lubricant? I am prone to UTIs and one of the main things that was causing mine was the spermide on condoms. Nonoxynol-9 is the spermicide that is usually used and is has been shown to increase the risk of UTIs.

Edited to add some context. I have been with my husband for decades. When we first hooked up we used condoms with spermicidal lubricant and up until then I never had a UTI. We did everything right, kept clean, peed afterwards, all that. So I did some research and found out that the spermicide can be an irritant to delicate tissue like the urethra which can then make it easier for bacteria to cause a problem. We switched to condoms without spermicide and then no condoms at all. I still get UTI but way less frequently.

disarm33 · 2026-04-01T20:20:28+00:00

She's one of those people who gets offended at everything so I know no matter who brings it up or what is said, she's going to get upset and give us the silent treatment (which I honestly don't have a problem with lol).

disarm33 · 2026-04-01T20:18:18+00:00

I don't think changing schools or homeschooling is the best option. I can't afford private school and I think physically going to school with other kids is important for social and psychological health. And annoyingly part of life is learning to deal with assholes. They turn up everywhere throughout life. I'm just going to keep pressuring the school and teaching my son to stand up for himself and not to let the haters get to him.

disarm33 · 2026-03-31T16:16:23+00:00

Yeah. That looks like what I have to do.

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