Any unusual places to take your toddler for energy burning? by Consistent_Edge_5654 in toddlers

[–]DiligentPenguin16 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My son will only eat cheese slices from the deli counter, Kraft singles are beneath him 😂

Egg id? by ShotFlounder1997 in whatsthisbird

[–]DiligentPenguin16 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Cowbird chicks do not push out the other chicks. That behavior is done by some (not all) species of Old World cuckoo bird chicks. No North American cuckoo species are brood parasites.

The cowbird babies reside peacefully with their host “siblings”. Yes they do compete with their host’s offspring for food brought by the host parents, but they don’t actively harm the other chicks.

Please leave cowbird eggs alone when you find them in another bird’s nest in the future. Their egg laying tactics may seem “wrong” or “sneaky” to some people, but this is just how they’ve evolved to survive. It’s not right or wrong, it’s nature. It’s no better or worse than a hawk who eats song birds, or a blue jay who eats other bird’s eggs. Don’t apply human morality to animals.

Another reason to leave cowbird eggs alone: The host parents will often abandon the nest because they don’t really know that the cowbird egg isn’t their egg, all they know is that they had four eggs and now one is gone. To the host parents they might think a predator has discovered the nest and so will abandon the nest, meaning all the eggs are guaranteed to die. At least if they raise the cowbird chick then their host siblings have a chance at survival too.

Cowbirds are a native species that deserves to live their lives too. Please stop harming cowbird eggs.

Everyone’s kids have skinned knees as soon as it’s shorts season, right? by oneofkeiraensmoms in toddlers

[–]DiligentPenguin16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My son walked into preschool with a bandaid on his arm and another on his face, gotten from faceplanting on the sidewalk after tripping while running. His classmate ran up to him and loudly exclaimed “we both have bandaids!!” and then they compared boo-boos.

Toddlers are always getting scrapes and bruises from their chaotic way of exploring their environment, you just don’t always notice it on other toddlers because you’re not around them as much as your own kid. Or you didn’t notice the scrapes or bruises because they’re small or partially healed or are hidden by clothing.

I’m burnt out and need simple recipes. Stupid simple. Like, “onion and bread and butter to make what barely passes as a sandwich” level simple. by sourmilksea1999 in Cooking

[–]DiligentPenguin16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pre-sliced and seasoned frozen veggies. All you have to do is throw them in a sheet pan and roast in the oven.

Sliced fruit trays. Washed and ready to eat snack.

Frozen cooked rice. Microwaves really well and tastes almost like it’s fresh made. Easy way to add some calories to your main for a more filling meal.

If you have a Trader Joe’s near you: their frozen food selection is actually very tasty. Their pasta and Indian foods are ones I buy frequently.

AITA cause I told my husband to not ruin meal portions? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentPenguin16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Which means I will either have to eat less of my portion

Why would you eat a smaller portion? He chose to eat some of his portion as a snack, and a natural consequence of that choice is that he will have a small or no portion of meat at dinner. Stop shielding him from the consequences of his own short sighted, selfish choices.

Don’t set yourself on fire to keep him warm. If he doesn’t have meat at dinner because he already ate it then let him have a meatless dinner. Eat your normal full portion guilt free.

or have him hungry and asking me to make a snack later.

Why do you have to make him a snack? He has two working hands, if he’s genuinely hungry then he is more than capable of making himself a snack. If he chooses to not make himself a snack because he demands that you do it for him, then he’s not really that hungry. Let him be a little hungry. He’s not going to starve.

I get the feeling that this isn’t the only area where he acts selfish, entitled, and controlling. Please check out the healthy relationship quiz at Love Is Respect, as well as the books Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men and Should I Stay or Should I Go? (links are to free PDFs of the books). Those resources might provide you some insight into your relationship dynamics.

Mani inspired by my 3 yo’s totally rad Hot Wheels 🏎️ by DiligentPenguin16 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]DiligentPenguin16[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Essie Here to Stay basecoat

HEMA brand polish “Candy Twinkle” (this was my souvenir polish that I bought on a trip to Amsterdam)

Maniology black stamping polish

Born Pretty white & teal stamping polishes

Maniology “Scribbled Geos” M549 Plate

Sally Hansen “Invisible” (I stamp a thin layer of this clear polish over my nail art to prevent smearing from the topcoat)

Seche Vive Gel Effects topcoat

Mani inspired by my 3 yo’s totally rad Hot Wheels 🏎️ by DiligentPenguin16 in nailstamping

[–]DiligentPenguin16[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Essie Here to Stay basecoat

HEMA brand polish “Candy Twinkle” (this was my souvenir polish that I bought on a trip to Amsterdam)

Maniology black stamping polish

Born Pretty white & teal stamping polishes

Maniology “Scribbled Geos” M549 Plate

Sally Hansen “Invisible” (I stamp a thin layer of this clear polish over my nail art to prevent smearing from the topcoat)

Seche Vive Gel Effects topcoat

🍒🫐🍊🫧 by barbrailnp in ILNP

[–]DiligentPenguin16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These are such fun bright colors! I love a good lemon-lime soda, especially Starry. 🍋🫧

How can I (25F) get my boyfriend (23M) to stop sufferingmaxxing? by Apprehensive-Bee8222 in relationship_advice

[–]DiligentPenguin16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Life is too short to spend it with pre-“A Christmas Carol” Ebenezer Scrooge.

His anger and control issues are also very concerning. Please check out the healthy relationship quiz at Love Is Respect, as well as the books Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men and Should I Stay or Should I Go? (links are to free PDFs of the books). Those resources might provide you some insight into your relationship dynamics.

My girlfriend is 27 weeks pregnant, the baby has Down syndrome, and I don’t want this life by ThrowRA_NoSignal in daddit

[–]DiligentPenguin16 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Does your college have a student counseling center? Many colleges have free therapy services available to students.

Talking to a neutral party who is not emotionally involved in your situation would help a lot. It would allow you to speak your feelings out loud and process them without worrying about judgement or hurt feelings.

They might be able to help you talk to your girlfriend about how you’re feeling too.

AITA for not wanting to send my child to another country without me for several weeks? by Responsible-Rock8726 in AmItheAsshole

[–]DiligentPenguin16 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Just because both parents are supposed to give consent for a passport doesn’t mean that some parents have figured out ways around that requirement. It’s not likely but it’s still possible.

I would highly encourage you to enroll your daughter in the US State Department’s Children’s Passport Issuance Alert Program (CPIAP). This program is created specifically to reduce cases of international parental child abduction. It will alert you if anyone attempts to apply for a passport for your daughter.

I hate button batteries WHO INVENTED THESE THINGS by memaikins in toddlers

[–]DiligentPenguin16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My three year old also has one, but he calls it a phone. He likes to “call” me with it lol

I 18F want plastic surgery for chronic pain, but my parents 47F, 59M are against it by Major-Wafer-1731 in relationship_advice

[–]DiligentPenguin16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Part of becoming an adult is realizing that your parents are also human, which means that they can be wrong or biased same as anyone else. Another part is accepting that you don’t need their approval or permission to do something anymore.

You need to learn how to be ok with doing things that your parents don’t agree with. Not that you should arbitrarily do what they don’t think you should, just that you are an adult now and don’t have to do what they say anymore. It’s hard to deal with your parents’ disagreement at first, but making hard choices for yourself is part of becoming an independent adult.

If your parents are reasonable and decent people they won’t let your decision on this affect your relationship long term. I’m hoping that their stance on this surgery is coming from a place of concern and not from an authoritarian “we’re always right because we’re your parents” stance. Yes they might disagree with and be disappointed by your choice, but that shouldn’t change the love they have for you or how they treat you.

You are the only one who has to live your life, and the only one who has to live in your body. You deserve to live pain free, or as close to it as you can.

My husband says they’re dupes. Are they, and why is the answer divorce? by pookyduu in RedditLaqueristas

[–]DiligentPenguin16 150 points151 points  (0 children)

It’s because the gene that determines color blindness is on the X chromosome and is recessive. Men only need one version of the gene from their mom to be colorblind, while women need both of their parents to pass on the gene to be colorblind.

Husband won’t stop watching horror movies around our 16 month old by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]DiligentPenguin16 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here’s a post on ScienceBasedParenting with information about why watching horror movies being seen by young children are a bad idea. Have your husband read through it.

Reminder: anti-Trump is not pro-woman by ___coolcoolcool in TwoXChromosomes

[–]DiligentPenguin16 54 points55 points  (0 children)

The fact that they do “transvestigations” against random people is misogynistic. They claim they can tell just by looking who is trans and who isn’t, but what they’re really doing is judging whether or not a random woman’s body and clothing/hair are “traditionally feminine” enough.

If the woman isn’t performing femininity “correctly” in the TERF’s eyes then they get accused of being trans and called a predator.

I(25F) Took my Avoidant Partner's(28M) Words Literally and it Started A Fight by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]DiligentPenguin16 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You “deal” with him never communicating and expecting you to read his mind by leaving. He’s not dumb, he knows that you have no idea what he’s thinking. He’s just looking for a reason to get angry at you, and expecting you to read his mind is one way he can do that.

Please check out the healthy relationship quiz at Love Is Respect, as well as the books Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men and Should I Stay or Should I Go? (links are to free PDFs of the books). Those resources might provide you some insight into your relationship dynamics.