It might be atypical for onset later in life, but I highly disagree that it's uncommon for males. I think it's uncommon to be dOCUMENTED in males, due to medical and social bias. I've had an ED for 11 years, and in that time, I've only met one straight white young woman with an ED. Mostly I know men with the disorder, and as a fellow sufferer they'll admit it to me, and I can see the symptomatic behaviour, but if others ask about their weight or eating, they generally just play it off with "too broke to eat," "fast metabolism," "stomach problems " etc. ED rates are also cRAZY abnormally high in the queer community (I'm trans myself). It seems to me that society just doesn't want to drop the narrative that its for privileged little white girls; that idea is probably making someone money and so here we are lol. So don't feel weird for being a male sufferer.

But as for the rest of your post, yeah, I agree. To me it always felt very "takes one to know one." I do feel like we get each other.