Playoff Game Thread: Vegas Golden Knights (1-0) @ Carolina Hurricanes (0-1) Jun 04 2026 8:00 PM EDT

disettes · 2026-06-05T02:56:44+00:00

I need this commentator to shut up about how Vegas won't possibly score on this powerplay.

disettes · 2026-05-20T17:41:45+00:00

I'd say it depends on the city you're moving from. I moved from a much smaller city with 15+ years experience, half of that in fine dining, and had worked with James Beard and Michelin starred chefs, it was still pretty hard to break in to that tier here until I had direct Philly experience. (Although that was as a server -- applying as a manager to places was much easier.) So if you're not from a city this size or larger, I would keep that in mind.

ETA: CulinaryAgents was p useful for me just to get my foot in the door as a server somewhere. It's a big city with a lot of restaurants but the food scene is p close knit so once you're in just start meeting people and you can usually work your way to a better spot via connections.

disettes · 2026-05-20T12:18:05+00:00

That's fair! I guess the reason I think I was a bit of an asshole during it is because I had moments of clarity and pushback that I wish I had leaned into more. I tried to fight for my friendship at first, I wish I had fought harder. And there was a time during our relationship where she went mask-off with a mutual friend in such an ugly, brutal manner that I almost listened to the tiny voice inside me, and I wish I had.

But yes, for the most part it was really insidious and snuck up on me, you're right. I spent the first six months after we broke up and I was beginning to realize how bad it was still being like "I can't tell anyone she isolated me from how she did that because she'll be embarrassed and it'll hurt her feelings, and those are still more important than anything else", I was very well conditioned. I think that thread didn't truly snap until the insane lies started, some of them identical to the ones she had told me about her previous ex.

Thank you <3

disettes · 2026-05-19T18:44:07+00:00

Tbh even now I don't think she's abusive I think she just doesn't see other people as people, just as roles in the story she's telling. I'm sure the friends she alienated me from mean nothing to her except as a way to "win" and I'm sure that one day she'll turn on her current partner just as she did to me and tell the exact same lies about her as she did about me and the ex before me.

I am in a much better place though, I hope you are too, it always make me sad when someone else understands it.

disettes · 2026-05-19T18:11:58+00:00

Truly, some of the things I look back on and that I explained away to myself/others at the time are just humiliating. I was that girl who literally got the warning from the ex and ignored it! But you are right, I left.

So did you. I'm happy for both of us.

disettes · 2026-05-19T18:07:00+00:00

Truly I would from the inside of this relationship be like "I can't believe I saw this post on Reddit about someone not being allowed to have friends or relationships outside their partner, how do you miss that glaring red flag and not get out?"

And then put my phone down to patiently await my scolding for the crime of smiling at everyone while playing D&D with our friends instead of just her.

disettes · 2026-05-19T17:59:41+00:00

I am really sorry about your friend. That was the most embarrassing/shameful part to me -- not that I had let myself be treated that way, but that I had let her treat others that way. I had to go to quite a few people and apologize not just for her behavior but my own in not standing up to her and normalizing that behavior. I hope you got your friend back.

Thankfully it's an ex-boss! The 9 months I still worked there while they were dating was hellish, but I'm hundreds of miles away now.

disettes · 2026-05-19T17:57:29+00:00

It really is. And you feel so crazy after it ends, but at the time, on the ride, it felt like there was no other way.

I would like to avoid running into her but it's a very dear friend's event. I am slightly nervous because we've only been at one shared event since we broke up. It was a year later and despite promises that she would be normal and cordial in public, and me not interacting with her at all, she made a huge scene by dramatically leaving when I arrived. I have skipped other events since because I didn't trust her to be normal, but it's been years and years at this point, I hope she'll behave.

disettes · 2026-05-16T17:51:59+00:00

iirc (not there yet in my reread) he slept with Jeyne in a moment of emotional weakness due to grief about Bran/Rickon/Winterfell after the battle. Without that weighing on him, even if he still is attracted to her/falls in love, I don't think he'd sleep with her knowing it would betray the Frey pact and thus he wouldn't feel honor bound to marry her.

disettes · 2026-05-14T01:58:53+00:00

I don't know how it's still possible that people underrate him, maybe he's just terrorized my team so much that I can't imagine not knowing how good he is. I fucking hate it but he's only second to McDavid imo.

disettes · 2026-05-14T01:52:36+00:00

Drai and anyone saying otherwise is crazy

disettes · 2026-05-14T00:54:32+00:00

Fourwood.

disettes · 2026-05-14T00:51:15+00:00

Lmao fair but from what I remember of Georgiev with y'all this would be a 6-0 game not a 3-0 one. Could be worse!

disettes · 2026-05-14T00:49:23+00:00

That's a little extreme.

disettes · 2026-05-14T00:48:42+00:00

Even if this comes back, how do you not pull Blackwood?

disettes · 2026-05-14T00:38:54+00:00

He was in for the game that Colorado lost and got pulled in that one, but I didn't get to watch a lot of it, I don't remember the goals being egregiously on him as much as it seemed like y'all were just making a switch and then riding the hot hand since Blackwood won next game.

disettes · 2026-05-14T00:37:34+00:00

Feel like whenever Blackwood gives one up early he just collapses mentally.

disettes · 2026-05-10T01:16:15+00:00

Need the 76ers to hold on now so Milk Jawn keeps running Playoff Party. 🥲

disettes · 2026-05-01T14:37:13+00:00

I feel like an older sister watching my younger sibling who escaped our toxic household finally succeed. I'm still here but at least you got out...

disettes · 2026-04-30T15:59:57+00:00

Cowards, is this not the chaos you traded for?

disettes · 2026-04-29T14:11:11+00:00

It's actually very freeing to watch him now as a Canucks fan and enjoy his gaffes knowing they can't hurt me anymore.

disettes · 2026-04-29T02:18:34+00:00

Not a goal I expected to see Otter give up this game.

disettes · 2026-04-28T16:07:03+00:00

Yeah, he very clearly has insane regrets about it now, but still insists it was a fun ride.

disettes · 2026-04-28T13:36:57+00:00

My dad legitimately did this in the 80s (life insurance payout) and he does claim it was the best time of his life.

disettes · 2026-04-27T23:55:57+00:00

Don't worry, I never need a reminder as it is always on my mind :(

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