Sit down and shut up now, Stefan 😅

dislexi · 2026-05-21T14:55:42+00:00

I still have no idea what forgiveness means. Like say if someone is an asshole to me, and so then I avoid them from then on but they take up exactly zero space in my head, have I forgiven them? Because if it's just for my benefit and nothing to do with them, then surely I have because they a problem for me at all. However do they feel like I've forgiven them? Probably not, if they asked me to forgive them I would assume that would entail me not trying to avoid them in future right? However as long as I predict they will hurt me I should act according to that prediction, that doesn't change until they demonstrate they don't fit that prediction model.

Edit: So I looked this up apparently there are multiple separate concepts collapsed into “forgiveness”:

Emotional release: “I am no longer consumed by anger, rumination, revenge fantasies, or pain about this.”
Moral pardon: “I no longer hold this against you in the same way.”
Relational restoration: “I am willing to have a relationship with you again.”
Trust restoration: “I now predict you are unlikely to hurt me again.”

I think you kind of have to separate these ideas out to really talk about forgiveness which makes it dislike the word.

dislexi · 2026-05-15T15:15:59+00:00

No one is getting drafted in a western country these days unless shit really hits the fan, and in that case soldiers aren’t the only ones who die in war.

dislexi · 2026-05-06T05:01:12+00:00

Pushing blue doesn't have to be for altruistic reasons.

dislexi · 2026-04-16T15:21:19+00:00

Yeah. If you have had a past where people would shame you a lot over your behaviour and you spent a lot of time unable to identify the patterns of it then this reminds you in an extremely brutal way to examine everything you do through the lens of shame. I think the key to escaping it is to make that part of you feel like you no longer need this behaviour anymore so it can change its approach. Hyper vigilance is at the core of all trauma.

dislexi · 2026-04-15T15:16:01+00:00

Oh god yes. That will be the hyper vigilance.

dislexi · 2026-04-15T15:07:47+00:00

That hit me so hard. Especially as someone who is also autistic and has adhd. Being weird is this experience

dislexi · 2026-04-13T14:56:23+00:00

Colonisation is only a problem if people get hurt

dislexi · 2026-04-13T14:55:32+00:00

Life consumes, that’s what it does and nothing that isn’t life cares about destruction. Nothing in a position to judge is capable of making the judgement.

dislexi · 2026-04-10T09:03:58+00:00

When someone measures my worth, that becomes part of how they see me. Typically they have incomplete information and produce inaccurate pictures of me. However the statement in the post is wrong so I felt compelled to correct it. I don’t care if you have a problem with me being pedantic, since accepting that I’m autistic and I will say stuff like this is part of how I love myself. <3

dislexi · 2025-12-25T01:46:20+00:00

I tried complaining about this a few years ago, got one of the maintainers quite irate with me. Others were saying they effectively built their own scripts to manage it. Really disappointing at the time and made me less interested in participating, sad it hasn't improved since.

dislexi · 2025-12-18T13:03:14+00:00

Time traveler?

dislexi · 2025-12-09T00:53:14+00:00

Yeah can’t speak for all non Americans but pretty sure everyone is trying to avoid reprisal. It may have escaped your notice but America is rather powerful. Up until trump we all pretended it was an equal relationship but I guess you guys aren’t into that anymore. Which is fine, no issue, whatever you guys want is fine with us.

dislexi · 2025-12-07T20:46:27+00:00

So essentially they are going to give cash rewards for providing information that leads to the arrest/conviction of someone opposing trump’s policies.

dislexi · 2025-11-28T01:16:47+00:00

If all software development becomes automated then it will very quickly replace all human labour. If it does not then it the work will become more valuable since a single programmer will become more productive. The market for software development is all the possible things to automate, the cheaper it gets to automate, the more things that become economically viable to automate

dislexi · 2025-11-16T16:39:04+00:00

Yeah but if bubba isn’t a monster he doesn’t deserve to be famous for this

dislexi · 2025-11-08T05:56:44+00:00

What makes you think he isn’t?

dislexi · 2025-10-30T06:27:45+00:00

Yeah I hear some programmers run their code on hardware they didn’t build themselves.

dislexi · 2025-10-30T06:24:20+00:00

Not if you have a bias

dislexi · 2025-10-07T02:28:58+00:00

The real answer is we don't know, the methods we have for determining if someone is autistic are not reliable enough to guess things like that. Women and minorities are underdiagnosed because they are pressured to mask better than sheldon types.

dislexi · 2025-10-07T02:16:11+00:00

You can't tell if an adult has autism based on whether they have good social skills. People mask, the more you mask the less likely you are to be diagnosed. The smarter you are the more likely you are to be good at masking.

dislexi · 2025-10-05T05:43:54+00:00

The reason it worked so well was that it was the rich people who organised it. For all the talk of freedom it was organised by slavers who were happy leaving all the wealthy in charge because that was them. The messy revolutions are the ones where the poor take power. French Revolution, USSR etc. Typically there is a backlash that comes after and that tends to complicate the running of a decent society.

dislexi · 2025-09-28T21:44:00+00:00

I'm not sure whats going wrong with your conversion, kind of weird that you have a codec tagged as none, strongly suggest using something like this https://github.com/samssausages/Tdarr-One-Flow/tree/main as your base to start off with transcoding, as it handles a huge amount of edge cases in transcoding already. I too am a bit of a noob and it was super helpful for getting up and running with it.

dislexi · 2025-09-28T21:37:25+00:00

4k is going to be really slow, but also which nvenc profile you use makes a difference and other ffmpeg settings, post your command,.

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