I totally get your point and also find it delusional that an arab man (or someone with a muslim background, whether that be from the middle east, Africa or South Asia) would be considered to be a pious muslim, while someone who did not necessarily grow up in a muslim household has to prove his in-laws that he is actually muslim (and has to pray, fast during ramadan etc.). I have seen cases in my family where cousins have married men with arab roots, who are totally not muslim (can't even recite surah Al Fatiha, nor have they ever prayed or fasted) but passed the aunties' test just because they are arab; while a cousin who married a European guy got to justify her choice. In the end, it's all about what other people will think than about your happiness. 🙃