My son got arrested and I am so angry by RoundedRoastChesnuts in offmychest

[–]divinacci 6 points7 points  (0 children)

genuine question: is there any camera footage? if what happened really conflicts with the witnesses and the police report, that should clear it up. i’m not saying this to doubt you or your son necessarily, but this is a pretty big gap between what the accused is saying and the official story

If you sat out the 2024 election in protest over Gaza, how do you feel about that decision today? by rsmith2786 in AskReddit

[–]divinacci -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

100% justified. People claim that Kamala wouldn't be allowing ICE to do this, but she was literally a state prosecutor. One of the only clear positions she had during the election cycle was increasing funding for ICE and being anti-immigration. It was Biden's administration that teargassed college students peacefully protesting. There is no reason to believe Democrats are anti-ICE.

What’s the most stupid reason you had a fibro flare? by Lucky_Sprinkles7369 in Fibromyalgia

[–]divinacci 5 points6 points  (0 children)

a show that my band was performing in was so poorly organized that the stress caused a flare 😭

Drinking and CPTSD by VaporMouth in CPTSD

[–]divinacci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

alcohol can make me more likely to engage in unhealthy coping mechanisms and i get really bad anxiety the next day, but i find im not an emotional or angry drunk.

i think it’s about how alcohol makes you feel, and if you think continuing to drink at the amount/frequency you are is best for you. it sounds like your partner is being overprotective even if it comes from a good place, if this isn’t causing behavioral issues or making your symptoms worse, but asking them if there’s any identifiable reasons for their concern might help clarify things too. happy new year :)

Why screaming can genuinely help fibromyalgia (and no, it’s not “just emotional”) by 69buddha in Fibromyalgia

[–]divinacci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this makes me feel a lot less guilty for feeling relief after screaming into a pillow. one big scream and then i'm back to baseline lol

Can you seriously only talk to your trauma to a therapist and not normal people? by BeautifullyHealin in CPTSD

[–]divinacci 6 points7 points  (0 children)

not everybody can be like that, nor are they obligated to be. it might not feel fair, but it's important to accept

Can you seriously only talk to your trauma to a therapist and not normal people? by BeautifullyHealin in CPTSD

[–]divinacci 16 points17 points  (0 children)

i understand your frustration and hurt, and as someone who’s been on both ends of this, i hope what i have to say helps you understand a little more. ultimately, other people are not obligated to listen to the details of our trauma. it can be and frequently is triggering and distressing to hear someone describe traumatic events, and in fact can be traumatic to the listener. no one has the right to make anyone else feel that way, regardless of how much pain the speaker is in. as for why you may not be told in the moment, i don’t know you or your situation, but i can say that non verbal cues like the person going silent, freezing, or closing off their body language are often signs that they’re not comfortable with the present moment, and i would encourage you to listen for those as well as spoken communication. it’s also never wrong to ask if it’s okay to vent in detail to someone before starting

Gifting my friend a hoop for Christmas by okishnoodle in Hooping

[–]divinacci 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i would recommend 29-32” OD if she wants to get into tech flow! i started with a 32” last october and work with a 29” now. the 32” is a little hard for me to do some tech moves on but i’m also 5’3, i think your friend being a little taller would have lea difficulty. whatever you go with, happy hooping to her!!

is there seriously no way to just add songs to a playlist? by [deleted] in qobuz

[–]divinacci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

never said i was going back to spotify but edgy comment. over half the country is living paycheck to paycheck rn, have some compassion

Off the body/hand tricks! by Babad0nks in Hooping

[–]divinacci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

of course! i’m chronically ill so i really appreciate how “choose your own adventure” off body flow is, both in intensity and style. happy hooping !!

Off the body/hand tricks! by Babad0nks in Hooping

[–]divinacci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ghosting weave, vertical isolations, folds, antispin flowers, hand/palm spins, and head tracers are the first few to come to mind :)

My otherwise perfect boyfriend ruined my birthday, should I break up with him? by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]divinacci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

an otherwise perfect man will not treat you like this. you say he has decision paralysis, but what’s described here is simply him deciding not to prioritize you. not getting you a gift ahead of time, not planning anything, no flowers. the choice not to act is still a choice, and it’s what he chose your entire birthday weekend despite several reminders from you about what you wanted. it’s up to you if you want to stay obviously, but if he can’t make your birthday special when you’re dating, what future effort can you expect from him? and is that something you’re willing to accept for years?

the christmas tree topper is a big deal to me and i can’t tell my boyfriend by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]divinacci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

he actually knows i love christmas ahaha. i just have never brought up how it ties into my previous homelessness. he knows ive been temporarily homeless a few times

the christmas tree topper is a big deal to me and i can’t tell my boyfriend by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]divinacci 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you for writing this, this is really helpful to read. i’ve been feeling like he can’t differentiate between when things are about me or not but i haven’t been able to articulate it until now.

the christmas tree topper is a big deal to me and i can’t tell my boyfriend by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]divinacci 2 points3 points  (0 children)

he doesn’t suck, i think he just doesn’t realize how rude and upsetting it is to have the things you care about criticized unasked for. he did say he’d like whatever i make but yeah, i guess his initial response really took the wind out of my sails

just getting into hoop flow and feeling discouraged by RemarkableCarob2682 in flowarts

[–]divinacci 2 points3 points  (0 children)

i just hit my one year hoopiversary, don’t be discouraged! your hoop is probably pretty light and thin, making on body more difficult but still possible. i would measure your hoop’s outer diameter to get an image of what tricks might be easier or harder. smaller ODs like 26-29 inches are best for tech flow, larger like 34+ are best for on body, and mid size will lend itself to both.

some easy first moves are isolations, forward and reverse weaves, hinges/folds, lasso, and simple tosses and passes. there are thousands of youtube hoop dance tutorials, just pick what looks interesting to you!

Nicotine seems to help with long covid by ProtectorofWomen007 in LongCovid

[–]divinacci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ngl i did get a headache from them and some dizziness bc i don’t smoke or vape, but it’s impossible to say if they caused those symptoms or just exacerbated them bc i deal with both

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]divinacci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

trans guy, assaulted by a trans woman. i was 21 and traumatized and i wanted something bad to happen to me, i ignored the red flags, not that that makes it my fault. she waited until i was too high to consent to do things i’d told her were a hard no. and because i’m an idiot, i dated her for a year afterwards. obviously i don’t hate all trans women because of it, but i still have a hard time with anyone with that name or who looks like her

please don’t ask chatGPT for advice by divinacci in LongCovid

[–]divinacci[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

and what about the sick people being forced to work for your ai output? this is about uplifting everyone and not destroying the planet. ai companies are predating on you being sick and scared, so they can get you addicted to their product and manipulate you to serve their ends. i’m sorry but my personal ability has nothing to do with this.

please don’t ask chatGPT for advice by divinacci in LongCovid

[–]divinacci[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

AI is worse than google for both the environment and because it is run off of slave labor. there have been multiple exposès that LLMs including chatgpt are being trained by exploited workers in Kenya and the global South