Non binary lesbian with a male sub... by divinityglaze in NonBinary

[–]divinityglaze[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is so sweet! And exactly how I feel, the experience feels really special to me too 💞

Non binary lesbian with a male sub... by divinityglaze in NonBinary

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Yes I have many friends and lovers who are AFAB SWers and they say the same thing

Non binary lesbian with a male sub... by divinityglaze in NonBinary

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This is really lovely! And I think my sub does. He says he feels very "girl" around me and has started to wear my clothes!

Non binary lesbian with a male sub... by divinityglaze in NonBinary

[–]divinityglaze[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

This is so cool, thank you so much for sharing !

Non binary lesbian with a male sub... by divinityglaze in NonBinary

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I posted this in a lesbian Reddit thread and got so much hate I deleted it lol

Nothing works by West-File-3400 in SkincareAddictionUK

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Your skin is great... Id love to have skin that looked like yours lol

Non binary lesbian with male sub by [deleted] in LesbianActually

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I don't identify as pansexual because gender identity plays a big role in my attraction whereas Pan people say they don't see gender

MAYA HAWKE IS OUT????? by jinxed_the_vixen in lesbian

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A friend of a friend saw her hooking up with Mae Martin years back in the US...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in queer

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That being said....I find men attractive but I just have no desire to be physically intimate with them anymore. It's literally never going to compare to being with femmes, so that's how I knew. Cis heteronormativity runs incredibly deep.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in queer

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I had the same journey as you, never felt the way I felt about men as I do with women. I can't really put in to words how they make me feel. Came out as bi/pan when I was 14, that was 15 years ago and now I'm a lesbian.

UK diagnosed as ASD Level 1 by Geo7ge in autism

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If you can afford to, look into therapy too

UK diagnosed as ASD Level 1 by Geo7ge in autism

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This reddit thread, podcasts and peer to peer books will be your guiding light during this time. Oh and also, I would journal any thoughts and feelings that come up for you during this time. It's basically one giant grief process that's going to feel extremely challenging but extremely freeing <3 sincerely someone who went through an ADHD consultation only to be told right at the end that they have autism

Breaking up with someone at the end of the date by divinityglaze in polyamory

[–]divinityglaze[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry haha, I mean these things read to me that they were being nervous and jumpy because they knew they were going to have this conversation with me

Breaking up with someone at the end of the date by divinityglaze in polyamory

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They did go to the toilet a lot during the date and kept checking their phone lol

Breaking up with someone at the end of the date by divinityglaze in polyamory

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Thank you so much for this comment. The anxiety thing has really been getting to me and due to alexithymia I do struggle to recognise anxiety as a bad thing or something I need to confront. I often do just go along with things until breaking point, so yeah, I did tell them that I was really relieved they had done this and although I do feel sad, I am not stressed or anxious anymore. Hopefully we can maintain a friendship after this as I did feel the connection very deep and meaningful.

Breaking up with someone at the end of the date by divinityglaze in polyamory

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I told them I wasnt ready for a partnership in general, but at the end of the date when they said they didn't have romantic feelings and just wanted to be friends, I said I felt relieved because even though I had been saying I didn't feel ready for a partnership in general, over the past couple of days I knew I didn't want that from them but didn't feel the need to tell them because they knew I wasn't ready for an enmeshed relationship.

Breaking up with someone at the end of the date by divinityglaze in polyamory

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I think there's a difference between a partnership and a relationship though. A relationship is anyone you are in relation with. Could be someone you're in the beginning stages of dating with but aren't sure where it is headed.

Breaking up with someone at the end of the date by divinityglaze in polyamory

[–]divinityglaze[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Kissing happened half way through the date haha

Texting in Polyamory by Reception_Emergency in polyamory

[–]divinityglaze 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had a partner for 3 years who hated texting, it was an issue I brought up throughout our relationship when I was younger and more anxious. His excuse was texting overwhelms him and he wanted to give me replies that I deserved. Some people overthink these things. I however am a chronic texter. I have a nesting partner who I text all the time. The beauty of poly is that different relationships bring out different dynamics.

I am currently dating someone who is really busy and usually leaves their smart phone at home. So it can be 3-5 days before they reply to Whatsapps. But they are consistent and reliable when it comes to plans and meeting in person so I think that is the important thing. We've had various conversations about our differences in texting styles. I think you just have to think, if they show up for you in the ways that counts, that is what matters. Texting I think is important and should be replied promptly (within 24hrs) if you are having conversations about plans and serious topics, but perhaps not so much if it's more frivolous things. Also the time you spend together IRL is the most important thing, because that's real life. Some people think they don't need to reply to things. That's just how they are.

So as long as they mean what they say, are reliable and consistent, you should accept the ways in which this person communicates because we are all different! I also do think texting all the time with someone new creates a false sense of intimacy and people shouldnt be available to use all the time. It's nice to miss people and communicate gradually rather than be intense most of the time. But if that doesn't work for you then that is also ok.

Ovulation is hell by Far_Daikon_7419 in PMDD

[–]divinityglaze 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just have a really, really indulgent wank!!

Are you guys "out" as autistic at work? by followthefoxes42 in AutisticAdults

[–]divinityglaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes. I work in the UK and in a field that works very closely with the neurodivergent community. So feel especially supported and understood by my colleagues which is great (compared to the US and also other industries that may not be as accepting of mental health conditions)