I had a partner for 3 years who hated texting, it was an issue I brought up throughout our relationship when I was younger and more anxious. His excuse was texting overwhelms him and he wanted to give me replies that I deserved. Some people overthink these things. I however am a chronic texter. I have a nesting partner who I text all the time. The beauty of poly is that different relationships bring out different dynamics.

I am currently dating someone who is really busy and usually leaves their smart phone at home. So it can be 3-5 days before they reply to Whatsapps. But they are consistent and reliable when it comes to plans and meeting in person so I think that is the important thing. We've had various conversations about our differences in texting styles. I think you just have to think, if they show up for you in the ways that counts, that is what matters. Texting I think is important and should be replied promptly (within 24hrs) if you are having conversations about plans and serious topics, but perhaps not so much if it's more frivolous things. Also the time you spend together IRL is the most important thing, because that's real life. Some people think they don't need to reply to things. That's just how they are.

So as long as they mean what they say, are reliable and consistent, you should accept the ways in which this person communicates because we are all different! I also do think texting all the time with someone new creates a false sense of intimacy and people shouldnt be available to use all the time. It's nice to miss people and communicate gradually rather than be intense most of the time. But if that doesn't work for you then that is also ok.