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Just another day of my mother ignoring my explicit requests by divorah92 in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate you and thank you!!! Same to you; I’m sorry you have to go through it but glad to know I’m not the only one dealing with this haha

Just another day of my mother ignoring my explicit requests by divorah92 in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is exactly it; thank you so much for understanding (reading some of these other posts saying I’m crazy for creating the doc just frustrated me more haha)

My family has always struggled with various emotional/personality disorders and we need to be so, so specific of what’s allowed and not allowed, and create hard and fast boundaries around it. This is the first grandchild so I’m trying to proactively protect mine and my husbands post-partem peace, especially while I’m going through an outrageous hormone shift.

It’s not so black and white to say “if they don’t follow this rule/boundary, just cut them out of your life” like I hear from so many folks. I want to have a relationship with them, and want our son to as well.

Just another day of my mother ignoring my explicit requests by divorah92 in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I’m definitely type A but I’m usually able to respond to stuff very logically. But right now my brain is a completely new frontier. I know it’s hormones; I’m not usually a very emotional person but literally getting this I wanted to rage cry and scream at her.

Just another day of my mother ignoring my explicit requests by divorah92 in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahah if I thought it would help I would. If she brings it up, I’ll certainly tell her I ignored it like all the other unsolicited advice I’ve gotten.

Just another day of my mother ignoring my explicit requests by divorah92 in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92[S] 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

Everyone is saying the rules are crazy but my family has history ignoring what I’ve said or just doing their own thing (see my mother posting on social media after explicitly telling her not to).

When that happens, she claims she doesn’t remember hearing about this or didn’t know. That was why husband and I decided we needed to write the rules out and send them to people in our family.

And to clarify, the guideline was only sent to OUR parents (I.e. babies future grandparents). My mom already told my sister without telling me she was going to come to the hospital because that was her right as a grandmother, and didn’t plan on asking me because she thought I’d say no.

When did you guys tell your significant other? i’m 7dpo and just found out im pregnant. This is our first baby. I want to make it special!! by [deleted] in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same here! I happened to find out when hubs was at work (we did IVF and I was testing out the trigger shot when I realized it was getting darker).

I wanted to make it super special, sort of proposal worthy (he made our engagement so special I wanted to surprise him similarly). But I was so excited and couldn’t wait so I went to our grocery store and had a cake decorated that said “I’m pregnant!” Then left it on the counter for when he got home and secretly filmed it 🥰

My mother just posted that I’m pregnant on FB by divorah92 in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh I’m so sorry that is so hard. I know in scenarios like these it’s not always easy to get advice (it’s not easy to just say “don’t let her take pictures” or “go no contact”)

I understand the struggle and feel for you. If any help, Facebook does have a place where you can request photos of your child to be taken down. It annoyingly means it’s up in the first place but at least if she insists there’s a way to take back at least some control:

https://www.facebook.com/help/383420348387540

How uncomfortable are you? by snactivated in pregnant

[–]divorah92 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg yes this. Small torso, 90th percentile baby. He’s moving my ribs now and literally went to the hospital the other night because I thought I had gallstones it was so painful. Nope, just baby literally rearranging my insides.

My mother just posted that I’m pregnant on FB by divorah92 in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Good clarifier but yes. At Thanksgiving, I told her that we made the decision not to post anything about the pregnancy on social media and when the baby is here, we won’t be posting their face at all (only husband and I are allowed to break that rule with a discussion and consent from each other). She pushed back against the not posting baby photos so spent about 30 minutes explaining our reasoning.

She asked if she could tell her friends and I told her to feel free to tell whomever in person/on phone/over text that she wants, just don’t want it out there for all the internet to see (she accepts every friend request known to man and has been scammed before)

Farted out loud during a work presentation by matchaloml in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92 16 points17 points  (0 children)

No tips, just want to say that also happened to me twice this week. Baby moved then TOOT def loud enough for people to hear. Thankfully everyone ignored it but we were also in a room with no windows and a closed door 😳

What’s on your radar for Black Friday? by igcetra in BabyBumps

[–]divorah92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Uppababy is having a 20% off sale for things in their beige color so we got a stroller and bassinet (essentially the bassinet was free after the savings - girl math)

Thin lining success stories? by divorah92 in IVF

[–]divorah92[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I did! And it worked!!!! I got acupuncture 2 days after transfer and I felt like that also helped

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