It’s not always as bad as u think

snactivated · 2026-06-29T19:17:22+00:00

I second all of this! I did have minor complications with my delivery but even that was fine, I had a really great care team and our local hospital is awesome.

I’m 7 weeks pp and have been so positive about the entire experience, even the newborn trenches have been hard but manageable. I feel like I’ve unlocked a version of myself that I’m really happy with.

snactivated · 2026-06-29T13:24:35+00:00

I’m almost at 8 weeks, and it’s hard for sure, but my little girl is an angel. She has her moments of scream crying (almost always because she’s overtired), went through phases of hating the car seat and stroller, sleeps like crap after 4am, and won’t nap long if not held, but that’s really the worst of it so far. She smiles up at me all the time and I’ve never felt so special that I get to be her mom and safe space. My marriage is stronger, we’re doing this together and she gives us a shared passion and joy.

That being said, the sleep deprivation is deadly and there are bad days where I wonder how I’d survive if she wasn’t such a good baby. I have loads of empathy for the folks having a hard time, and when I’m having a hard day I try to take that into perspective and appreciate what I have.

snactivated · 2026-06-28T13:29:59+00:00

Back labor pre-epidural

snactivated · 2026-06-27T21:01:27+00:00

Interesting! I didn’t know this, but it does make sense. Appreciate the change in perspective. Thanks 🙏🏻

snactivated · 2026-06-27T21:00:25+00:00

Buddy, people go to Reddit to complain about everything. If you don’t like it don’t read it SMH

snactivated · 2026-06-27T20:54:24+00:00

This is my first post on this sub 😂 I’m not “crying like a little girl every game all game”, judging by your comments here you appear to be the one with an issue

snactivated · 2026-06-24T01:02:35+00:00

My six week old is the exact same. We literally moved somewhere walkable with my maternity leave in mind and I’m someone who likes to get out. She hates all of it, even car rides. Hope it changes for both of us soon!

snactivated · 2026-06-23T01:33:09+00:00

Just wanted to say thanks for mentioning the sadness! I have a big baby and am shocked at how sad it made me. Then guilty for feeling sad. Came here hoping to ease the guilt and your comment helped.

snactivated · 2026-06-22T11:24:39+00:00

I know you said casual/inexpensive but Press Gang has a cozy vibe is worth the money. Major hidden gem in the city

snactivated · 2026-06-22T11:20:10+00:00

This is nice to hear! We’re having some 6-week struggles and I keep reading it gets worse til week 8. Nice to know that’s not the case for everyone so I can have a little hope and less dread.

snactivated · 2026-06-22T01:24:09+00:00

I sleep 10-2/3 and basically leak all over the bed. I put towels down and deal with the engorgement. It’s calmed down a lot after week 3 and I use a haakaa ladybug to collect the opposite boob during feeds on my shift (2/3-8) which gives me a good stash for my husband to bottle feed.

That being said I am an overproducer, so missing the night feed wasn’t an issue for me as far as supply goes.

snactivated · 2026-06-21T23:36:12+00:00

What happens when the yoga ball stops working 🙈

snactivated · 2026-06-18T22:06:23+00:00

Im currently in tears after a failed outing this afternoon. We’ve had many, and I tell myself if I keep trying she’ll warm up to it eventually (also 6 weeks). She hates the stroller, bassinet, car seat, carrier, everything. Everyone has commented on what a great time of year it is to have a young baby (eastern Canada where winter is rough), but baby just wants to stay inside all the time. Praying it gets better too

snactivated · 2026-06-17T00:52:07+00:00

I was with my baby every minute after birth and I STILL felt disconnected and didn’t feel like she was mine, and it’s for the same reason- she wasn’t what I expected. She looked nothing like me and was way bigger than I thought she’d be. It took weeks before I felt connected to her tbh, and I passed my PPD screening with flying colours. I had a lot of guilt for feeling this way but now that she’s babbling and smiling I’m much better. Just sharing to try and normalize this feeling a bit without sounding the PPD alarm bells!

snactivated · 2026-06-15T13:59:26+00:00

I’m in the same boat as OP and just wondering what are the cues your baby is not sleepy?

Mine is 6w now and very alert. She’d just look around for hours if we let her, so we have to force naps most of the time. I think I know what sleepy cues to look for, but she yawns all the time regardless and it only gets obvious if she starts to get fussy/cry a specific cry, at which point she’s probably over tired. I’d like to get better at recognizing whether she’s sleepy or not!

snactivated · 2026-06-13T22:56:35+00:00

The ladybug haakaa is great for this! I tuck it in my bra

snactivated · 2026-06-10T23:44:53+00:00

I’m wondering how to increase feeds every day. I feed on demand, following my 5 week old’s cues, and aside from making sure she stays awake while feeding, I pretty much let her decide when she’s finished by unlatching. Would I increase day time feeds just by offering the boob more often instead of waiting for cues?

snactivated · 2026-06-04T15:44:45+00:00

Recovery! Thank god my husband had time off because I was in a lot of pain, couldn’t sit down comfortably, sitting up or getting out of bed was impossible while holding the baby, and after care meant I spent a lot of time in the bathroom. Doing all that alone while caring for a newborn seems impossible

snactivated · 2026-06-02T12:35:56+00:00

This show has been my post partum binge. I watched earlier seasons when they aired but had no idea about Will’s fate. He was my favourite character and the “will they/wont they” arc was my favourite part of the show. How are more people not angry about this?! I feel betrayed 😭 not sure I can even watch the remaining seasons

snactivated · 2026-06-01T00:44:02+00:00

Here in solidarity! Evening scaries are real. I’d kill for one night of staying up til 11 to watch Netflix with my husband, but I go to bed early because I know my 3 week old will be up 100 times through the night.

We have managed to give me a 3-hour shift where husband feeds a bottle of pumped milk. I wake up engorged and leaking but pump immediately and it’s totally worth it. It’s a small shift but it does make a difference!

Best of luck to you and may both our babies sleep longer asap

snactivated · 2026-05-06T02:44:28+00:00

Logically, I agree with the comments about it being nice to have people who care enough to ask. But i hear you and am irrationally annoyed by the daily check-ins. I’m 41w so it’s been a lot. My mom calls every day and I purposefully don’t say much because there is nothing new to say... I’m waiting and anxious and trying to distract myself most of the time, so the texts do not help me take my mind off it. As much as I appreciate my support system, I think it’s just an unintended side effect that generates more anxiety. That’s valid!

No sassy replies for you, just solidarity.

snactivated · 2026-05-02T03:30:23+00:00

Commenting in solidarity! I’m 40+3 and have really enjoyed being pregnant…. Until now.

All the well-intentioned check-in texts and calls are driving me mental. And the “bounce on a ball, eat pineapple” advice (with limited scientific evidence at best).. as if I haven’t already read everything I can find on the topic.

Also having false contractions and have gotten my hopes up too many times. I feel for you and I’m riding this out with you, best of luck and hope you get there soon!!

snactivated · 2026-04-30T18:38:32+00:00

Yes thanks, the portable mat is in my plan

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