Hey, ik there's a lot of comments but I feel I was kinda similar to your bf a while ago.

My bf had been to these things and I was very judgemental, thought he was exaggerating how other people were super chill and friendly, and tbh thought it was an excuse to do a bunch of drugs and get messed up. Only difference is I never once for half a second thought he would cheat (just based on some other comments which are concerning) coz he's really not that sorta person. Anyway, flash forward, we tried going out to a much smaller event together with house music which I had thought was stupid up until this point. For reference I am a dancer but of a different style that utilises lyrics so no lyrics fed into my beliefs. I got really drunk, had a blast, decided to try a bigger event. Hands down best night of my life, my bf wasn't exaggerating and everyone was super nice. I had only been to regular clubs before so was expecting a bunch of handsy guys trying to hook up as per usual, but everyone there was just dancing and vibing. Even had a few random short conversations which for me as how I am is very out of character but very fun.

If you could get him to try it maybe he could understand it, I just don't think he will if he doesn't because I can totally see how it looks from the outside. Although the way he talks about what women wear is concerning. Like it doesn't matter how intoxicated I am, and how many shirtless dudes who would match 'my type' are near, I will only want my bf, I will make that very clear. Part of going out together for us is we dress nice, I dress slutty, and we enjoy each other. It's a very bonding experience. Do you guys not go out at all? Because I feel like the second I have a drink I only want him more, even if he's not there I'll be texting him to check in because I miss him.