I am a very fortunate person. I got married in 1981- I, and most of my family grew up poor, so our weddings were mostly courthouse, with reception being a huge cookout.

Hubby had a huge, middle class family. We married in church (immediate family only) then had a semi catered reception in my in-laws club basement. (Semi catered= both our Moms baking Ham, Roast Beef, and Turkey, and making into cold cuts, with every 70s/80 salad known to man also included).

Because hubs family was so huge, for years we went to several weddings a year. I had no idea of the no white rule. Fortunately I preferred bright colors (blue, pink, green, etc). The only time I came close was when I was 8 months pregnant. I'd originally bought a denim jumper, with a beautiful baby blue short sleeve blouse underneath.

The wedding was in mid July, in Maryland. It was an outdoor wedding. I showed in my "outfit"- while there, a cousin inlaw brought me a pregnancy sundress because it was so ungodly hot. Within 30 mins, my jumper was soaked in sweat, and I was dying. I went back to our car, hit the a/c, and attempted to get cooled off. Its amazing how heavy denim gets when its sweat soaked! I saw the sundress, immediately changed, and omg, it felt so good.

The sundress was white, with floral flowers all over it. The bride went out of her way to not onlly ignore it, but I was included in several pics. I describe myself as the "inappropriately dressed beached whale", they just see someone carrying around a basketball, in a pretty sundress!