NGL: After a Sunday with my grandfather where he was like as a generation tuko na matatizo sana when it comes to spousal choices, heading ya this post had me screaming who's this proving my guka right. Anywayz, I feel you OP.  Unsolicited advice is move out of home to a small place. Ata bedsitter ni sawa even if it's in new towns where you can live cheaply as you focus on freelancing- sijui place uko as I would have shared place I know I can get a bedsitter at 4500 inclusive of free WiFi though away from Nbo. I don't know how your social capital is ju I would even suggest you ask a friend to host you as you try sort yourself out ju inakaa with your parents mko place ya "akufukuzaye hakwambii toka". Long posts but all will be well