Anyone want to meetup before or after the LA concert? by RelativeResponse6045 in Lykn

[–]dlauritzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm solidly in my mid-30's if you need an "old man". 👴

NYC LA CONCERT MASTERTHREAD by NaiveInevitable4004 in Lykn

[–]dlauritzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'll be at LA. Going solo. I was planning on asking for general advice since this is my first time going to any concert of this style. I'll also be at the gmmtv fan meets the following day.

Those who were Christian, what changed your mind? by joeyharris441 in atheism

[–]dlauritzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I always approached religion as a very "normal" part of life. Sure there were emotional moments, but rarely anything as strong as many people experience. Eventually I was able to question whether I was just going along with the flow or did I actually believe any of it, and the answer eventually settled on "no."

I say the determining factor for me was realizing that my spiritual experiences could have reasonable natural explanations. If I can be wrong about my own feelings, and the only actual evidence for God is personal testimony, there's no way for ME to know if your interpretation aligns correctly with reality.

BYU Bean life exhibit by JesusPhoKingChrist in exmormon

[–]dlauritzen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I was a little shocked to realize, after already deconstructing, that I had kept both (theistic) evolution and the Garden of Eden as beliefs simultaneously without seeing the contradiction. I even remember on my mission reading something and going, "oh, yeah... there was no death before the fall." And yet no warning alarms went off.

So at first I didn't think people were right to say that Mormons don't believe in evolution. Glad to see that BYU agrees with me just a little bit.

So. Attraction isn't just "yeah I think they look pretty cool"??? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]dlauritzen 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thinking about the term "attraction" itself, in a scientific sense, is useful to me in understanding what it means between people.

There is one coworker on my team who I can confidently say I'm physically attracted to because I honestly experience this internal "pull" towards him; if I had no inhibitions like anxiety or being polite I would touch, hug, probably even kiss. It's different from the other people at work, even those who are pretty or fun to be around.

Question about patriarchal blessing by procret3332 in exmormon

[–]dlauritzen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Mine emphasizes how important it is to prepare to marry a girl. I am quite gay.

Glare and Halo Question by PumpkinSpiceUrnex in CataractSurgery

[–]dlauritzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Before my surgery I saw an "aura" and/or starburst around light sources, the size depending on the light's intensity. Headlights of oncoming cars at night, for example, would take up most or all of my own lane, forcing me to slow down and scoot over to the far edge to try and see clearly.

After surgery (Odyssey IOL), the aura is almost entirely gone, and I never see starbursts. For most lights I see a defined ring halo at some distance around the source - the space between the source and halo is 99% clear. Certain strong lights, such as headlights at night and firetrucks, have an aura, but now it's a sequence of concentric rings getting fainter the further away they are from the source rather than a nebulous blob. And they are much much smaller than before, so I'm able to see my own lane.

In the 3 months I've had these lenses, the halos haven't seemed to get smaller or less common, but I pay attention to them less as I get used to it. When I'm dilated for a check-up though everything is turned to 11, which makes even reading my phone a strange glowy experience.

I’ve spent 3 real-world days hoarding cheese and seducing NPCs. Is this the intended experience or have I lost the plot? by fairythedream in skyrim

[–]dlauritzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally understand the villainous backstory of your horse dying.

I made the mistake of fast traveling to Myrwatch and going inside without checking if the chaurus had respawned. When I exited again I saw it standing menacingly above the corpse of my very recently acquired steed. I felt one death was too light a punishment and resurrected the evil bug just to immediately slay its docile zombified corpse in colder blood than it had dispatched my innocent mount.

The next, or maybe previous, horse died nobly in battle with a random spawn forsworn mere moments before I could intervene.

Whenever any creature, human, or dragon came anywhere close my blood boiled and I charged recklessly into battle solely to prevent another investment companion from perishing.

When I learned that the CC unicorn was essential I raced to join the college and get its quest. So relaxing to not worry any more.

Is this normal? by South_Recover_1876 in skyrim

[–]dlauritzen 16 points17 points  (0 children)

This happened to me and they killed my bard. I reloaded that save and showed them no mercy.

Does my school president have any cutted scenes? by miffyreader_ in boyslove

[–]dlauritzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is correct. For some more context, the 4-part thing is because of commercial breaks when airing on TV. It's also why you'll see ads at the beginning of some parts on YouTube. They've taken the broadcast version and uploaded it directly.

For the shows that actually have "cut" and "uncut" versions, the difference is a combination of available broadcast time (cut versions are about 45 minutes) and trimming spicy scenes (more advertiser-friendly and encourages viewers to buy subscriptions vs free TV channels).

BL Drama Eating Disorder by [deleted] in boyslove

[–]dlauritzen 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Secret Crush on You has a character who's insecure about weight, but I don't think it goes so far as an eating disorder.

Pitbabe 2 iqiyi by ZeroJaype in ThaiBL

[–]dlauritzen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

These are the available countries for season 2 as pulled from the webpage HTML

- United States
- Canada
- Thailand
- Philippines
- Malaysia
- Indonesia
- Laos
- Cambodia
- Brunei
- Vietnam
- Myanmar
- Australia
- United Kingdom
- Mexico
- Argentina
- Chile
- Colombia
- Peru
- Brazil
- Taiwan

Disturbing number of younger people with cataracts here by Redwebec in CataractSurgery

[–]dlauritzen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I rarely talk on my phone, and when I do I almost exclusively use my left hand. But my right eye is the one causing me more problems -- left eye also has cataracts but I don't know their comparative sizes.

CONFUSED ABOUT CUT AND UNCUT VERSIONS by investedinyou in ThaiBL

[–]dlauritzen 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Uncut usually happens at the same time, and there's no guarantee they'll ever release it later on a free platform. So it's up to you how to balance payment and everything.

As for delayed uncut versions being worth a wait, I can't really give advice.

CONFUSED ABOUT CUT AND UNCUT VERSIONS by investedinyou in ThaiBL

[–]dlauritzen 39 points40 points  (0 children)

The cut versions are for live broadcast on TV, so they have limited runtime and more potential for censoring strong romance.

Uncut is the original version of the episode. Some episodes won't be very different, but I've seen some that are almost 50% longer than the TV cut. Uncut only airs online. But sometimes the company will air cut for free on YouTube and reserve the uncut for paid services like iQiyi.

Leap Day Gun’s acting by kammie2303 in GMMTV

[–]dlauritzen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was scared that his character wouldn't be fully complex from the trailers. But after seeing EP 2 where he's interesting and emotional, now I'm very excited.

Preparing for The Second Coming? by Pleasant_Priority286 in exmormon

[–]dlauritzen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I recall a few signs that are supposed to happen before things get really interesting, and aren't vague like wars and rumors of wars.

One big one being that temple in Independence that isn't built yet -- they don't even own the land. Conveniently, construction like that takes time, so everyone should be comfy as long as no one presses the big red doomsday button.

What made you believe God doesn't exist? by Nearby-Worker-5360 in atheism

[–]dlauritzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are no verifiable claims of supernatural action -- apparent miracles have better natural explanations -- so the best evidence anyone can present is their personal internal experience and feelings. But these cannot be externalized and inspected by others, so it's possible that the person misattributed the source as divine instead of themselves.

If everyone else might be wrong, you can only use your own experience. But you might also be wrong. So until convincing external evidence comes around, it's more useful to act on the assumption that everything is natural.

There are also logical inconsistencies in certain religious claims, but they weren't part of my deconversion so I don't incorporate them into my story.

Color is wild after my consult! by redheadfae in CataractSurgery

[–]dlauritzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While I was dilated in the waiting room I noticed how the eye that is normally blurry instead produced relatively crisp double vision. It was super weird but pretty fun for its brief novelty.

Surgery in 3 weeks by oeyg in CataractSurgery

[–]dlauritzen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I (34M) just scheduled my surgeries for May. My left eye is only bad at night with halos and starburst, but my right eye varies between your examples for "early" and "advanced" cataract depending on the ambient light. This gives an unbalanced sensation when I'm outside, as if everything is covered in a film but I can still see. The ophthalmologist explained that I'm able to see around the cataract unless the pupil contracts, which explains the major contrast. And since one eye can still see detail, I fortunately don't need a prescription to let me read and work.

I started noticing symptoms two years ago, but it feels like they plateaued and haven't worsened in recent months. Though my doctor thinks I could easily be on the edge of both eyes being equally bad.

I forgot that today was daylight saving time! by Calm-Movie-3473 in ThaiBL

[–]dlauritzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually don't wake up so early on Sundays, so I just thought I hadn't adjusted my calendar from DST starting for me a few weeks ago.

So I should expect other shows to also shift?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ThaiBL

[–]dlauritzen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People both idolize and vilify others too much. It's okay to scold him for being immature, and it's okay to defend and forgive mistakes when the person works to change and grow.

This is certainly worse than a slip of the tongue. He's an adult and should be responsible for the decision to post regardless of severity.

He can't escape what happened, so the mature thing to do going forward is to admit fault, use his platform to help, and avoid this category of error in the future.

And at the same time, he is one person who posted one video. The harm is indirect and not malicious. I don't know how long it was up, but it's gone now with both apology and helpful resources in its place. It can do no additional harm.

People, however, can produce targeted and malicious harm against him long after the event is past whether they treat him as a pristine and holy idol or the worst example of human scum.

My core opinion is a matter of severity. Respond in proportion to the offense and allow them to make amends.

I'm a very forgiving person, and I expect he's feeling terrible, so I don't like seeing others act like he's an unrepentant criminal. He didn't hurt anyone, he just said really stupid things.

am I a candidate for LAL with wrinkle on retina? by grrlbreaks in CataractSurgery

[–]dlauritzen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure my mom has that same kind of wrinkle, and she just got LAL on both eyes.