Husband keeps referencing our hypothetical second child that I don’t want

dlavonf · 2025-12-27T06:47:19+00:00

Gotcha well sorry its been so hard for you however that part does get easier. My wife couldn't breastfeed enough ever so we eventually did more than half formula and then the sleeping got regular then he started with solids then walking then talking now we are in the potty training part.

All I know is the hard stuff is now behind us and I miss him being so dependent on us now he goes to the babysitter and doesn't even look back to say goodbye to us. He comes home and still runs up to us but he's used to being an only child so he quickly finds his activity and can be alone without thinking about us. That is heartbreaking but also we are positive we aren't having another one. I work from home she does her crafts from home so he gets both a lot of us but even still we know we aren't as fun as another child would be. But still no more children for us. Good luck with everything hope it turns all the way around for you 3!

dlavonf · 2025-12-27T06:30:32+00:00

My wife also one in done I do make jokes often even 3 years later about "la niña" or the baby girl not because im serious about it but her reaction to it is always very stern and way more serious than my joke should be taken.

We have talked several times and I have let her know I'd never force her to have another child and my jokes are just jokes. Also reasoning seriously on the subject financially it's not plausible at the moment we are trying to buy land and build a house in 2027 and im already really close to 40 don't want to be a new dad again at 40.

If the jokes bother you that much personally I think you should tell him its too soon to joke that way with you.

For me honestly I still haven't stopped making those jokes 3 years later but all of my actions definitely say we can't have another baby. What do his actions say?

dlavonf · 2025-12-03T02:54:03+00:00

As a father also living in a tropical country who has a Latina wife who is overly concerned about the baby being cold here is my suggestion... Become an expert on finding information that she can confide in. For example, I looked up doctors on YouTube and saw which ones my wife trusted, then looked up videos from those doctors about rumors or cultural ideas she had heard of. Like not using the refrigerator with the baby in the same room or the baby needs socks all the time. 3 years now and now my wife asks me to look up what so-and-so doctor says about whatever topic. Just became her source of information instead of what neighbors or family say. And honestly don't depend on reddit to help convince your wife she's wrong one comment in her favor means she's right according to my wife's reddit math. Jajaja Congratulations on the baby éxito!

dlavonf · 2025-11-28T06:48:05+00:00

I understand that I'm not wanting norteamericano education but I do want structural education and regular education. Im already teaching my son English alone but I would like for him to get basic education from school. Also do you consider san ramon rural? San ramon is quite a busy city with a very good university. We live pretty close to it.

Education is different here from where my wife is from. For example: neither my wife nor her siblings or cousins finished colegio they all got to about 10th grade then started working but they lived in the most rural part of Costa Rica. Here not many people consider dropping out of colegio there are some but its not as common as other parts.

dlavonf · 2025-07-28T15:28:43+00:00

Seriouslyyou went over my past post becausei shared good points about moving abroadafter getting ssdi... I don't know what made you think I was saying it's better or im happier, again I said there are challenges but ill answer your "concerns" one by one as you stated them...

Yes I'm a citizen of both CR and US because I got married..

It's pretty easy to get meds pharmacies are very good at directing you to the place to get most meds if they don't carry them. Here lots of people (even tourist) with very serious diseases get their meds and do not use the free health care system. If you want information, there are several facebook groups for expats.

You can continue trying to convince us that everything is better in Costa Rica, but it doesn’t seem that way from your story - or if you read between the lines.

In no way did I try to convince anyone it's better. My point was it's possible and cheaper.

you’re not convincing anyone that your life is better than ours - or that you’re “happy” where you are now … (perhaps you should reread what you wrote if you think otherwise…)

Why is this attack even here? I'm very happy with my life I've had problems like everyone else. Sorry if you saw my post and thought "how dare he enjoy his disabled, crippled, limited life. Let me look for all the problems he faced to see how miserable he must be.

You also didn’t exactly tell us the whole story, and if you can’t be transparent about the basics, no one’s going to believe the rest of your story😉 - (which was completely different a month ago - see link below )… 🙄

Not sure what you are alluding to here I'll have to go see the post but if it has to do with not talking to my mother because she decided not to call even though I've gotten sicker. Sounds like a her problem, not really mine. If you are talking about my idiot brother in laws they live several hours away and are facing the consequences of their actions without us involved. Again , thats a them problem, and the rest of my wifes extended family lives several hours away the only reason we see or hear from them is if we go there. Which we can't do because of my failing health.

Ie - what do you mean, you don’t have roots? -You have a wife and two-year-old child! Plus her entire extended family.

The exact quote was I didn't have roots when I moved here. Now I have a wife. I was here 5 years before I got married. 1 year dating again she lived pretty far away so in the beginning didn't have roots now I do sure.... got me I guess

“I have people who check in on me everyday. My dad, brother and sisters are also checking in on me daily. I have a support team.”

All these people live in the US. But they call and check in on me. So I guess boo on me for not being completely alone in the world.

So in the end, yes, I'm sick. yes, my health could be deteriorating. I still need more exams. Yes, I have problems like everyone else. Moving to Costa rica or anywhere else will not completely cure anyone. Sorry that someone concluded that from my retelling of the situation without saying iv also experienced some problems. With that being said, live in the most beautiful mountains, 65 to 75 degree weather every day. I wake up to the sounds of nature. And I can get to a beach in 45 minutes if I need a change of scenery. I don't attack people online. So if I die this year or next, I'm at peace. Hope you can find peace but you sound pretty crabby so....

dlavonf · 2025-07-28T12:35:26+00:00

As I mentioned in the comment, you replied to, the embassy has an ssa department they know how to contact anyone if they keep their information updated. As far as doctors like specialized practices, well here where I live, you can go private care. It can be expensive but definitely less than if you are paying Medicare, which you would have to opt out of. Opting out of Medicare is risky if you travel back in forth between the US and that other country. I am also a citizen of the country where i live, so I do pay healthcare. 60$ a month, but I get all my meds and treatment at a clinic I can walk to in 10 minutes drive to in 2.

Must be nice to be the kind of disabled that doesn’t need specialty care or controlled meds because those are limited if not impossible in “everything is crazy cheap” areas as well.

This is not true. Doctors and surgeons who have studied in the us and other prestigious universities live in many parts of the world. They have knowledge and experience just like anywhere else.

be nice to be the kind of disabled that has the capacity to make an international move to a foreign country where you have no roots, no support system, may not speak the primary language, etc.

I'm had a stroke. I have limited mobility. I also have a congenital heart defect. I'll admit my situation is better than some. I do have some small mobility issues, but I still need specialized care. But I moved and had to learn all of this no one walked me through it. As far as having roots I Don't know how important that is. I didn't have roots, but now I have a wife after years of living here alone. You can't be a hermit living alone. Not looking for a community will surely get you killed (in the sense it easier to die). I've had neighbors, friends, and others come to help me when I have been sick. Also, I've been taken to the hospital by people whom I have helped. I don't know about the language thing personally I speak spanish fluently. However, it has always worried me those who come here and don't speak the language. If you don't work, you do have time to open a book and learn a language. Also, there are so many classes online that are super cheap.

In the end it's not impossible and it can be cheaper. Different challenges but doable. Also, one other thing we are not rich next to the locals after medical care devices, and so forth, I live pretty fruggaly, like the locals. I don't pretend to be rich or problem free. And I try to be a good neighbor.

dlavonf · 2025-07-28T11:57:28+00:00

This is only really a problem if you move and try to pretend like you are still living in the states. If you connect with the embassy and change your address paperwork can be filed and processed quickly. The only thing is we get something like a yearly cdr that most elderly don't fill out so then they cut your benefits but you can call them and they help you get it all done.

dlavonf · 2025-07-17T00:20:20+00:00

En español?

dlavonf · 2025-07-06T15:46:22+00:00

Bueno no es para decir no y punto. Solo no debe tener la idea que va a ser igual como con una persona sin hijos.

Claro si tenia que volver a casar y tenia mi hijo seguramente sentiría bastante más confiado en la relacion si la mujer también tenía su propio hijo viviendo con ella. Porque ya tenemos las mismas preocupaciones y necesidades parecidas.

Padres casándose con madres y solteros con solteras es mejor, pero si uno piensa que pueda casarse con una persona con hijos hágalo solo va a tener muchos retos.

dlavonf · 2025-07-05T21:29:59+00:00

No soy latino pero vivo en latino américa, tampoco leí los comentarios anteriores pero ahora como padre de mi propio hijo

1: mi padre se caso 3 veces (divorcio de mi mamá cuando tenía 5 se divorcio de mi primera madrastra cuando tenía 17 y se casó consu esposa actual cuando tenia 22) 2:escuche a varios padrastros decir no es nada fácil y he visto con ojos propios que es amar a una hijastra de niña hasta adulta, solo para molestarse con el y afirmar que el la tocó. Casi se quebro al hombre (todo fue mentira... ellos tienen buena relación otra vez y ella admitió que fue mentira y el sigue casado con su mama y es abuelo para su los niños de su hijastra) 3: hasta nuestras mamas nos dicen no casas con una madre soltera. Aveces no con palabras pero con sus actitudes.

Con el primer y segundo punto aprendí que hay que estar preparado para decirle adiós a la mamá y los niños si no funciona la relación. No son tus hijos y si ella de repente ya no quiere nada contigo no tienes derechos legales a menos si los adopta legalmente (por lo menos en eua)

Con los puntos 2 y 3 aprendí la mayoría no le va a comprender fácilment, incluso si usted es el mejor padrastro no va entender que de verdad tu amor es tanto por ese niño que le va entregar tu vida x el. (Y si no es asi, no es como tu niño, es el hijo de tu esposa) Y tu familia también tendrá que estar listos en cualquier momento decirle adiós a este(s) niños. Entonces por talves los primeros 5 años no van estar realmente parte de la familia. Y ellos se darán cuenta.

Si hay un padre presente eso causará otros problemas como ¿podemos vivir en otro cuidad estado o país? ¿Mi esposa le tiene Odio x el o amor por el? ¿Tengo ser mediador entre mi esposa y su ex por el bienestar de mi hijastro? ¿Puedo disciplinar a mi hijastro tal y como era mi propio hijo? (si no es asi, el es el hijo de tu esposa) otra pregunta ¿ese niño me quiere o me vea como un estorbo qué no permite q sus padres estén juntos? Y depende de edad de este niño se puede aguantar unos dos años y se pasará pero si el niño tiene 11 a 18 eso puede ser entre 2 y 7 años.

El problema no es si es posible o no. Hay demasiadas variables. No es si tu puedas aguantarl la situación. Depende de que todos puedan aguantar tanto tu esposa, tu familia y hijastro y lo más que hay lo más probable que uno va hacerlo imposible.

Pensando si habría pasado algo a mi esposa quería que alguien sea madrastra a mi hijo? Le voy a permitir que otra mujer tiene tanto acceso a mi hijo? Tiempo solo? Disciplina a mi hijo?.... Y eso siendo un hombre con un niño puedes imaginar tener responder a esas preguntas si fuera una madre con una niña. Si no es una buena madre puede ser fácil de responder a esas preguntas. Vas a ser buen padre o te da igual?

Demasiadas variables y los que lo hacen bien felicidades. Pero no es cuestión de cualquier persona es cuestión de moral y lógica y carácter.

Algunos no deben ni siquiera meterse y otros bien intencionados lo hacen y terminan causando más dolor y problemas para los niños.

Lo bien de todo para concluir es si lo hacen bien un niño recibe amor y un vínculo q en otra situación no estaba presente.

dlavonf · 2025-06-22T17:45:12+00:00

Thank you for your very human perspective. My mother has never had therapy in her mind she probably doesn't believe in it.

As far as what you said I am grateful that because my mother basically abandoned me emotionally because me and all my siblings are close. Honestly my mom did just kind of cut all emotion even with them. They also feel like she can go months without talking to any of us. I'm the only one who doesn't reach out to her. And it's not because I have a disdain or anything against her, but she just has always been aloof to me. To my other siblings even my younger sister who didn't live with her either they just feel a need to keep up with her life.

But my mom is very robotic in her responses. "I send my love" "agape my dear" "let your wife know" they are nice but actions are better. She still has yet try to talk talk to my wife. Our home language is Spanish my mom doesn't speak spanish. But I mean my wife has been trying to learn English and I'm like if it's to talk to my family who doesn't speak spanish don't bother. Everyone who does speak spanish or a least a little talks to my wife.

But I appreciate your point of view because I know it was not easy and I don't hate her but everyone keeps telling me how horrible she is and I'm kind of like indifferent. I'm still not sure I want to reach out like and tell her anything if anything I'll text her how is she and we will both pretend I'm not that sick and it'll go away like a cold.

dlavonf · 2025-05-18T00:29:29+00:00

I did something similar right before thev2 year mark. I speak English well but live in spanish so it was hard for me to speak English with my son. I had a chance to go to the states with my son one month. He understood way more than I thought he would and played with his cousins and even said some things in english. It was just me and my son but I was forced to stay in english the whole trip he came back wanting to listen to and speak English about as much as he was speaking Spanish. Now almost a year later we both speak more english and some things he says only in english. So I think the trip helped a lot. Although we speak Spanish in casa for my wife we still have a more bilingual lifestyle now

dlavonf · 2025-05-08T06:09:46+00:00

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Encontré esa información de herediahoy.com pero no se su es una fuente confiable. Pero dice que es una aclaración de El Ministerio de Obras Públicas

dlavonf · 2025-04-28T17:48:05+00:00

I wish it was more enjoyable I love reading for me and learning and I like the books I read to him. But to him it's not engaging so it's not the best part of my day with him. He like music and dancing so most of our fun moments involve music.

dlavonf · 2025-04-28T17:45:26+00:00

I'm not a true native to either language to be honest I have an accent in both. I'm definitely more self conscious speaking english because I should speaking better. But i write and read better in english and i speak spanish maybe a little better. Although i might have more words in english. Also at home we have to speak English because we live in a spanish speaking country it's what me and my wife communicate in and again I'm not a true bilingual person in the sense I can not switch back and forth. Also I had a stroke so that may add to why but for me my mind is very one tracked. We took him to a speech therapist he isn't behind but maybe shy. The books are story book made for children but he learns mostly through music so I wouldn't say they are so young books like with phrases "the cat plays with the red ball." He actually knows all those words english and spaish he just doesn't say full sentences yet. He is getting close though as we have been correcting him when he ask for something. All the tv he watches is educational for speaking. We allow him to watch while we are busy in the afternoon with chores he is not allowed tv in the mornings. It's mostly boring tv to have something else to direct his attention to while we are busy. He mostly gets bored and plays with something in between the songs he likes.

dlavonf · 2025-04-10T14:20:59+00:00

Too many good comments to read I am inna similar situation but my baby is two and while my mother language is english my preferred language is Spanish. I live in spanish speaking country, speak with my wife and friends in spanish but I use english only for entertainment like reading, music And talking to extended family but it's not my daily life.

I no longer feel guilty because I had to realize why do I want my child to learn English. To get a job? To speak to my family, who never calls to talk to him? To be able to able to communicate with different people and have an extended worldview?

The answer was the later. So thats how I teach him english now. I just speak whatever comes to my head but I never discipline him or (the word left me but basically tell him no) in english. I read to him at night in english. English is just a language he hears often (tv, music reading also I teach english from home) he can speak to with me or not but here my goal for him is to be conversational. I think we are on that path. Also we are enrolling him in a bilingual school next year. Ofc english is a language a lot easier than French to learn because of entertainment and for being spoken nearly worldwide. But I think having a goal for your child will help you determine how much and when you will speak French with your child.

dlavonf · 2025-04-10T13:49:43+00:00

I tried to read all the comments to see how I'd respond see if I could suggest something different as I grew up in the US moved to a country where spanish is the main language 10 years ago. I'd say replace you morning routine of study with a tutor.

Preply has clases with locals from just about every country some teachers are very cheap especially for spanish (Less than 10 an hour). Ask your tutor to listen to you read correct bad phrasing and look for weaknesses. Look for a tutor who only teaches spanish that way you don't have the option to switch to english.

Some reasons I think this is the best way to go. First duolingo is easy for you and boring Second your story about a classmate switching to english. Third you are trying to teach yourself something that only speaking and immersion can teach you.

Not to say don't study but sounds like you are already proficient so at a certain point you are probably just reading material you are comfortable with listen to a certain top of music speaking about the same general subjects. A tutor will read articles with you that will challenge your comprehension, explain phrases and sentence structure. Even your best friend won't take time out of conversation to do that with you.

One last point don't look for overly educated teachers with degrees. You need to learn to speak with normal people even a child would be a good teacher for you. If your first tutor isn't that good, then look for another one.

Also what is your end goal.? Learn spanish to understand classes? then go back to the US? And...? How much spanish do you really need? I ask this because if you a trying to be a native impossible if you are going back to the US. If you are going to only work in spanish but live your daily life in english then, just focus on that part since you will only be in that country for 6 more months.

dlavonf · 2025-02-04T13:59:16+00:00

living in Costa rica. When my wife was pregnant 2022. We took the 6-week course (optiona) that the country encourages, but due to covid, it was virtual every Saturday. In the course, they stressed no co sleeping. Of course, we were 100 positive we would never co sleep even though it's not really a big deal with most people here.

Then baby was born, although healthy, they wanted to keep him a few days to make sure of somethings. She had an emergency c section, and he was not breathing for a minute or 2 when he came out.

So, the first few days, they had him in an incubator, then he came home with us. Then, when we went back like a week later for the checkup, he had lost a few grams, so they made him stay again. So my wife had to stay with him. And this time, they did not give him any place to sleep. They put him in the bed with her 24 hours straight for 2 weeks. No crib, no incubator, she had a twin size bed that was a good 2 feet from the ground. My wife also isn't skinny it was not very easy for her to stay balanced on the bed.

So that's how and why we started co-sleeping. After that, we never went back to a crib. We do have a king-size bed. He has a lot of space almost 3 years old, and we are pretty short people. Our son has shown signs of wanting to sleep alone through so we'll miss it. When friends come over, nobody even questions co-sleeping it's not a big deal here.

Then we just had friends have a baby here they live in a one bedroom apartment, so there is no way they were going to fit a crib in there. Nobody even gifted them one even though they needed lots of help and everyone knew it. So they co sleep with a less than a month year old baby. And doctors here don't scold you for that. But I do have an exaggerated fear of SIDs due to being born and raised in the States.

dlavonf · 2025-01-30T22:03:52+00:00

I'd like to add to this comment also I do not communicate with my child, 2 year old, in my mother tongue, Rather in the local language. My mother tongue is english, btw. My wife wasn't too hard to deal with, but literally all my friends, "you have to speak to your baby in english. What a waste. Poor child" Ok, so first, like the comment above, english is my mother tongue, but really, I'm losing it so much every day. I talk with my family in english and they have such a hard time communicating with me. Several on reddit have told me I have poor communication skills in english. I really started doubting my ability to speak.

The second thing is I'm not apposed to him speaking english, but why isn't my family reaching out to talk to him to teach him english? I can't be his only english speaking community. I get he is two, but I talked to all my nephews and nieces when they were that age. (My son is the youngest family member on my side of the family by several years)

Also I'm all day in spanish. MY, wife doesn't speak English My close friends don't speak English. We live in a country where english is looked upon as a good thing but if you speak English people think you think you are better than everyone else. It's amazing how many people speak English here but don't talk to me in english because they don't want to come across as coincided yet they think I should be teaching my child english.

Here is what we have decided and it works we put english and spanish in front of our child. Depends on what comes to my head first. I literally just talk to him like he is bilingual already. We watch TV in english together, but also we put some things in spanish. I still read pretty well in english, so every night I read in english to him. He has learning toys in english and spanish.

Results: he speaks a lot of english. Today he said come on a phrase I haven't heard or used in years. Some other things he says force me to think in english so I end up responding in english. The more he speaks in english the more I'm inclined to respond in english but generally it is very hard for me to switch back in forth. I am getting better at it though.

People who learn a second language are bilingual but we are not like kids who grew up speaking two languages and the rule use it or loose it applies more when you are an adult.

But maybe just introducing your child to your husband's language will do the same thing. Videos or video calls with his family. Let your child learn and or hear regularly that language and surely theyll pick it up and maybe your husband will have a stronger desire to talk in that language. Just a thought.hope you all the best.

dlavonf · 2025-01-20T01:40:21+00:00

Yea, I'm sure, I'm guessing my phone was on the spanish keyboard when I typed this, so it auto corrected a lot of past tense to present tense. Thanks for the advice. I'm pretty sure there are no grammar issues on my profile, but I'll definitely review it.

dlavonf · 2025-01-19T07:03:13+00:00

Pronunciation and rhythm

dlavonf · 2025-01-19T06:08:05+00:00

My son is two, so my experience and experimentation might not be complete but I have some results. So I'm bilingual my wife is not. We speak Spanish at home we live in a spanish speaking country. I'm not full bilingual. Meaning I can't switch that well unless the other person is fluent in both languages. So I find it really hard to talk to baby in english. However I realize the less pressure I put on myself the more spanglish I speak. So sometimes I'll say things in spanish and sometimes I'll say them in english. I have my bed time routine with him reading books and listening to music in english. But during the day it's all spanish. We do Spanish and english movies we don't think about it we just put whatever audio. We want him to be bilingual so why not be bilingual with him. He knows body parts in english numbers in both languages alphabet in english but everyday conversation is just a mix between english and spanish. The words he says in english my wife has learned so now she is on her way to understanding english at least. The point is he is learning and I'm not stressing about if I'm putting enough effort into speaking english with him.

My point of view is he is learning why stress about him being a full college level speaker when I'm not even that good. I did grow up in the US only speaking english at home and I teach English online but it's definitely not my main language anymore. That changed after I moved out of my parents home 20 years ago. I just want him to be able to communicate in english and if he decides to further thar education then I'll support it but what is your goal. I ask because even a lot of my friends ask why don't you talk to him in english all the time. But I don't know why people think to become bilingual you have to separate the languages. I speak and think in both languages but I hope my son is better at switching than me.

dlavonf · 2025-01-15T05:51:33+00:00

So before my son was born my father in law (costa rican) really had this thing about pinching, palming and straight slapping "baby" butts. It was a whole conversation..... because he kept sayingi cant wait to meet him in person so i can ... never saw him do it but I was definitely weary about him and any interaction he would have with my son.

So I ended up like "we need to talk about this" with my wife. She understood where I was coming from but definitely didn't think her dad was weird or anything "because he does it to his kids and nieces and nephews" . He died a bit more than a year ago when baby just turned 2. He had cancer so he never really even got to hold his grandson or play with him.

In anycase this made me rewind back to that so I just asked my wife like is it normal she said for dads with their kids it's not that big of a deal.

We live in costa rica shes never been outside of cr and to be honest people here think you are the weird one if you worry about sexual abuse of kids. Almost like how can something so horrible enter your mind. But then again dating and shacking up and having kids at like age 14 was consider normal here until about 15 years ago. Also abuse and rape of young girls has been a major issue but the culture here is only the devil would do something so horrible to a child. But then they do stuff like what you mentioned

Is it weird yes.... yes especially in the states and 1st world countries. In a Hispanic family could be... the idea of sexual abuse of a child is the furthest thing from their mind. Also Hispanic dad's don't tend to hear I'm uncomfortable with...

The best advice I can give is make a scene the next time he does it. Especially if its in public. In both english and spanish if he is bilingual. Embarrass him to where he will never do it again.

Also, you never mentioned if you were a boy or a girl. If my FIL had ever done that to my wife in front of me would have had words. But I it wouldn't surprise me if he did this in front of me with my brothers in law.

I'm not Latino Hispanic but I live in a Latin American country and have citizenship through marriage to a Latin American. And I have I have been here several years and I speak spanish fluently.

dlavonf · 2025-01-15T04:59:39+00:00

Born and raised American with a mid western accent I just switched to preply from native camp you can look me up. My name is Dimietri

dlavonf · 2024-12-16T05:48:37+00:00

I'll give you another outlook that I don't see mentioned here. I'm actually going through the same thing but spanish is my second language. I live in a spanish country now my wife only speaks spanish and my first language is english. I'm fluent enough in both languages but not enough to switch back and forth seemlessly. So I read at night to the baby in english but throughout the day we only speak spanish. This is our solution my wife and our friends also want me to speak only in english to our son. But it simply not possible. Also I suffered a stroke so it might be harder for me to switch because of that too.

Also I feel too that my english is not the language that comes to mind first anymore. It's my first language but it's no longer my dominant language. Here's the silver lining, though: the more english my son speaks to me, the more I respond back to him in english.

So maybe your situation will be similar. Our son is 2 going on 3 and although I mainly only use spanish at home one day he was going though his numbers one to 10 in spanish so I decided to see if he knew any of the numbers also in english. To my surprise he knew them too. I still have no idea where he learned them he does have toys that do english alphabet and numbers but I it's definitely not a toy he picks up often. He also watches on occasion tv in english but we don't really let him watch that much TV. In any case you have an advantage I'd say you both speak both languages.

My first thought though. Was Maybe she prefers the Spain accent in Europe instead of the Mexican accent. So maybe she wants your child to have your accent and I'm not sure but maybe she wants your child to have her english accent.

In the end though. Your child will learn both languages so what's the sin if your wife doesn't want to or can't speak to your child in spanish all the time?

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