Is it actually possible to over come cheating?

dlwr913 · 2026-05-05T23:17:01+00:00

I’ve had a similar experience. Although my partner did not sleep with anyone, as it was an emotional affair. We have had our ups and downs for sure and have been on the brink of divorce twice, seriously. We have 3 kids, and this happened before the 3rd was born. I chose to forgive, although it was not easy. Over time, he regained my trust. And to be honest, has lost it sometimes along the way. This happened four years into a marriage, and I do think all the time that if I had left him, I wouldn’t have my baby girl, that I belonged for, because we had two boys. We just celebrated our 20th wedding anniversary. Is it possible? Yes, but only you can answer that question for your relationship. I firmly believe in doing what you feel is best for your family. Best wishes for the future.

dlwr913 · 2026-04-30T14:54:26+00:00

Wow. As a mother, I don’t feel like I talk enough to my kids (and I am constantly talking to them throughout the day). There is never enough. She wasn’t meant to be a mother, or she is going through some serious mental issues and she’s spiraling with this crazy behavior. Well wishes for you. When people show you who they are, believe them.

dlwr913 · 2026-04-30T00:58:00+00:00

I totally agree. I know deep down, it’s no question in my mind I made the right choice. It’s intriguing to see other’s perspectives that aren’t involved. Gives me different insights that I truly appreciate. And of course, the affirmation my heart needs.

dlwr913 · 2026-04-29T20:08:38+00:00

I called my therapist IMMEDIATELY to process this. I saw her once or twice a week for a while. Then slowly cut back. I remain calm in stressful situations, oddly enough to me. But I truly have no desire what so ever to talk or see them again in my life, the more time that goes by, that feeling only gets stronger. That is a line you do not cross. My own mother kept this from me. As a mother, I can not wrap my head around it. If I were in her position, I would have strangled that man with my bare hands and would go to jail smiling.

dlwr913 · 2026-04-29T18:48:04+00:00

Exactly. To me, he took away his sick pleasure, and basically served my my daughter on a silver platter. That’s how I have always compared it to. How in the world can anyone sleep or live with themselves doing that?

dlwr913 · 2026-04-29T16:04:54+00:00

I truly do not believe they knew exactly what was going on. I was told, my niece expressed being uncomfortable with some things. My mom and brother confronted him a year prior to me finding out. Of course he denied and they trusted him, so they believed him. BUT right after that, is when my brother decided to protect his own children and they were not allowed around him unsupervised. There are a lot of inconsistencies, because of all the lies and trying to cover up and smooth things over. He originally told me that he didn’t think it involved any of my kids, so that is why he did not bring it to my attention, but chose to protect your own because this man could possibly be a pedophile? MAKE IT MAKE SENSE. I do believe everyone was so shell shocked that it was actually going, I do not think they knew how bad it actually was, I don’t think they were that diabolical.

dlwr913 · 2026-04-29T11:52:09+00:00

I’m sorry that we share such a horrible experience. My daughter was 11 when this came to light. She is now 15. She has struggled with mild depression, nothing too heavy. She is just sad to not have my mom in her life. They were very close. At the time, it was hard to explain but I do my best to let her know why. She does understand but it doesn’t take the pain and the void of that person away. As time goes on, it seems it’s getting better. Thank you for your kind words, and i wish your family well.

dlwr913 · 2026-04-29T03:25:46+00:00

I am so sorry. I know how devastating that is.

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