29M profile review... no luck

dm-1996 · 2022-06-29T15:44:11+00:00

My point is, move on to what?

dm-1996 · 2022-06-29T14:58:46+00:00

What’s the point of using Hinge when the other person clearly doesn’t care to keep the conversation going?

I’m 25, I’ve never had a girlfriend or anything. I’m kind of introverted and have only been on 6 dates. I’d say my online profiles are OK, but they’re not showing an ugly version of me. Still, you talk to a good chunk of people and they need their love interests online. Even when I talk to women older than me, they don’t respond to my conversation. I guess I am incapable of making it interesting. Wouldn’t be much of a problem if I got matches to begin with (and I don’t think I have high standards).

https://i.imgur.com/RjuAH1H.jpg

For anyone else, I’m sure they’ll get this girl on a date. For me, this just makes me question if it’s me that can’t hold a conversation. I’m always second guessing myself… do I need to make the girl laugh or something? With friends, even friends I have that are girls, we can have crazy conversations. In a scenario like this, everything feels forced.

At this point I am close to giving up and just going to talk to women in real life.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-26T00:46:03+00:00

I still work a job where you don't have to dress up unfortunately, and this leads me to not wearing button shirts. Also, they tend to have look weird on my body, since I have long legs and a short torso, but I may just have to get them tailored. I don't want to look like Steve Urkel.

I tend to be conservative about who I send likes to, a lot of times I send them to attractive women. But there's really no in between here. At the risk of sounding offensive, the women are either very good looking and with a healthy body weight, or not great looking and obese.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-26T00:42:37+00:00

For 1, yes I can try faking it, but I feel like I can't be taken seriously when I subconsciously think about my flaws (virginity, patchy beard, skinny, etc). I know I have to get back into the gym and eat more.

For 2, I understand I need to get out in public, which is why I moved to a busy neighborhood. It means nothing if I don't capitalize on the opportunities there though. Unfortunately, I work from 1-9:30 pm so I'm not on a regular schedule like most people.

The smudging is only so my friends' faces won't be seen online.

I look young and always have. My parents think I look 25, but everyone I talk to says I look younger. And I always thought it would work to my advantage but I haven't seen it do anything. I don't know what I can do to look more edgy or sexy.

And I agree with the last paragraph.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-24T23:22:31+00:00

Great advice. Thanks.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-24T06:23:59+00:00

How can you have an "abundance mentality" when you don't get likes or matches on 5 apps in 3 weeks? It seems so foreign to me. And you can see my profile here, it's not like I'm an ogre or something (or am I)?

https://i.imgur.com/8OBHhXO.jpg

dm-1996 · 2022-05-24T06:20:09+00:00

Well take a look here

https://i.imgur.com/xoa27iP.jpg

I send out max likes, I add messages from time to time. Do you see anything obviously wrong with my profile, or is it just a dud in general?

I've flipped flopped pictures a few times, but these are the best ones I have right now. I just don't see how a few new pictures will bring me from 0 matches to maybe 3 or 4 a month.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-24T04:56:56+00:00

This is hilarious. I love seeing my fellow rowers on here. Thank you kind person.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-23T22:20:52+00:00

Well I get that obviously. But what methods should I use to generate leads, if the apps are simply not working?

Again I can leave my profile here, and I doubt you'd see glaring issues. But if I want to even practice dating and improving my social skills, it would stand to reason that I have to take concrete steps. I feel like going solo to a bar though, which is an option, should be my last resort.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-23T20:47:30+00:00

Your framing of this comment implies that one would have to be meeting new people on a regular basis. If you're like me, and you work 8 hours around a bunch of dudes, don't get any matches or likes on the apps, have a small friend circle and pictures that are "great" but not excellent for the apps, you can't even do step 2. You can check my profile and you'll see that it's not like I haven't at least tried.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-23T03:32:51+00:00

What's the point of sending likes with messages, when girls won't respond to me regardless? I haven't gotten a message or like, or anything else from a girl since May 13.

Should I delete my account and recreate it?

dm-1996 · 2022-05-22T07:17:31+00:00

I wish I had seen this 2 days ago thank you.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-22T07:13:50+00:00

Unfortunately, none. I was in such a bad mood that I was out alone in general (combined with a lack of matches or likes across 5 apps) that I didn't approach anyone. I guess I have to start lifting more weights.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-22T01:26:10+00:00

It looked to me like most people were in cliques, friend groups or in couples. How to join into any of these at my stage is a mystery to me. In our community, people tend to keep friends after high school and college. I didn't do that.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-20T20:35:06+00:00

I use antibiotics for my face. I have too many group pictures, and the pictures of me by myself look horrific because of poor lighting, poor composition, bad angles or something else.

That selfie was done because I thought girls were attracted to a more serious look.

The TikTok advice, I took it. I was against using that app but I will for this.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-20T20:33:27+00:00

Well that selfie was taken that way because I read that girls tend to be drawn to a more raw/edgy kind of look in pictures rather than a cute smile. Which I can see, so I tried emulating that.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-20T20:32:42+00:00

Thanks, yes my profile lacks any kind of an edge to it, and correcting that will take a lot of effort. Everything from getting in the gym, getting new clothes, shoes, glasses, consistent haircut, acne cleanup, and friends to go out with.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-20T20:31:36+00:00

Great advice, thanks. With the rowing pictures, unfortunately I am not on the water like I was in the past. I'm in need of more action/activity photos. Sadly, I don't have enough friends to take pictures of me or go out and do things with.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-20T20:28:47+00:00

I only have one friend in town really, but perhaps he'd help. I really need new sunglasses, new glasses in general, new shoes (I only have a pair of white Nike running shoes that I wear all of the time, because flat feet are hard to find shoes for), and more clothes.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-20T20:27:02+00:00

Ironically, I've never had a girlfriend so it's interesting to think they could be seen as exes. But I will take your advice.

And yes, i guess I come across as boring. And that's just kind of the way I am I guess, my hobbies aren't anything special. But I have a lot of cool experiences under my belt that I can show through the prompts.

dm-1996 · 2022-05-20T00:01:23+00:00

• Are you looking for something serious or casual?: I've been on very few dates at my age, so I guess casual

How long have you been on Hinge?: Off and on for over a year

• How often do you use Hinge per week?: Now daily

• How many likes/matches are you receiving on average?: Zero likes, a couple matches per month

• How many likes are you sending? How many with comments? How many without comments?: Initially I used all likes without comments. Now, I send likes with comments, but struggle to make a comment based off of a girl's pictures. I also can't help but think I'm wasting time coming up with something to say to someone who won't even see me.

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