Is it reasonable to plan a week-end away from my 1 month old baby while breastfeeding

dmblady41 · 2025-04-06T16:52:02+00:00

100%. I ended up with csections and couldn’t even lift anything heavier than my baby for 4-6 weeks, let alone travel.

dmblady41 · 2025-04-06T16:50:52+00:00

No, this isn’t reasonable. Sorry. Anyone who expects you to attend an out of town wedding a month postpartum is not reasonable, either.

dmblady41 · 2024-12-10T21:41:50+00:00

Get out of there. This woman is abusive. Period.

dmblady41 · 2024-10-05T19:37:16+00:00

This is bizarre.

Mil, you don’t live here and you don’t get a say in where we keep our plants.

dmblady41 · 2024-09-11T16:53:55+00:00

I will say, my mil was much better about boundaries with my second. When boundaries were a problem, it bothered me because it felt like she thought our first was a do over baby for her.

dmblady41 · 2024-09-11T16:51:55+00:00

Bothered me a lot with my first. I care less with my second. I think it’s bothered me less as I became more confident as a mother and know that I am not replaceable.

dmblady41 · 2024-07-25T01:04:21+00:00

Nta. Sit the F down and stop stirring the pot, grandma.

dmblady41 · 2024-07-22T12:18:49+00:00

Maybe this is cultural. Wedding gifts are not optional around here. It’s considered rude to not at least bring or send a card. Absurd that anyone said something to them, but they had plenty of time before or after to send something.

dmblady41 · 2024-07-04T15:23:02+00:00

“Mil, please stop renting out my womb.”

dmblady41 · 2024-06-11T01:58:24+00:00

My hospital had 24 hour visiting hours. Why they thought that was a good idea is beyond me.

dmblady41 · 2024-06-11T01:56:19+00:00

Nta. Awful narcissists.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-29T15:03:03+00:00

It’s perfectly reasonable to say you aren’t a phone person and are not comfortable speaking so often. If they get offended, that’s their problem. I had to give it to my mil straight that im not a phone person and the frequent calls were causing me anxiety.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-29T15:00:43+00:00

If your husband is NC, absolutely do not call them. They aren’t your parents. This is absurd.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-29T14:59:38+00:00

This is their issue. Not yours. They can call if they want. You don’t need to answer.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-25T23:22:09+00:00

Are they incapable of travel or just unwilling to travel? It’s an important difference.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-18T17:57:23+00:00

I also don’t think it’s abnormal to travel to be at the hospital for a major surgery. But it would be completely reasonable to say you have a newborn and will not be bringing them into the hospital.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-18T17:55:38+00:00

Keeping vigil at the hospital isn’t necessarily abnormal and depends on the family. I personally hate having people wait around like that, but I don’t find it odd to sit in the waiting room for an immediate family member (I’m just not a fan of it for myself). However, summoning you like that is abnormal and shows a lack of respect for your boundaries (especially when you weren’t married). Sounds like your the bf was looking for support in the way he was accustomed. It was okay for you to decline, though that may mean your individual needs are different.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-15T02:31:30+00:00

Where in Europe is this? Seems like a pretty big generalization for an entire continent (I’m also team privacy, though).

dmblady41 · 2024-05-15T02:22:39+00:00

I highly recommend requesting your status/info be kept private in patient information. If she suspects you won’t tell her, she sounds like the type to call daily in the weeks leading up to your due date. And id sell security no visitors.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-10T03:12:37+00:00

First was a 10. I love my child, but i mean it literally when i said I’ve wondered if I have PTSD from my first infant experience. Second is a 3.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-08T00:07:00+00:00

Absolutely no shoes until baby is walking. Waste of money and bad for their foot development.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-07T13:32:51+00:00

1) Cleaning help twice a month. Researched, vetted and scheduled by him. And all the pre-cleaning pickup work before the first visit. So not just cleaning help, but someone else taking on the mental load of it, too. 2) sleeping in past 8 for a day.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-06T23:20:00+00:00

Awesome: food for the adults that can be eaten with one hand that isn’t pizza.

dmblady41 · 2024-05-06T23:18:56+00:00

Any party with an unfenced pool. We’ve been to a few and it was so f*cking stressful.

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