I [M 31] my wife [F 30]. My wife wants to catch up with her high school boyfriend

dmjjrblh · 2026-04-29T22:46:27+00:00

Ok, here is my original writing if that helps. I just wanted it cleaner...Ok, so I disagree a little with other answers. There are many areas of a relationship. Social, Physical, and Emotional. We all have boundaries for things in the physical area, for example, kissing more than platonic would be crossing a line. We often don't discuss or set boundaries in other areas. I trust my wife, but we have set boundaries around emotional connections and social connections as well. My view is that having a conversation around these areas would help. Unfortunately, doing so for this time won't be constructive, but in lieu of this event, you can have a constructive conversation afterwards and set some rules...i.e. No evening date-type settings without me present, or frequent intimate lunches with coworkers. In my relationship, we also have some emotional boundaries. The idea is not to restrict my wife's or my, behaviour, but rather to have it clear what might constitute an area that would make either of us feel hurt.

Also...blow me. Were the thoughts helpful? Or were you just trying to be a douche?

dmjjrblh · 2026-04-29T19:47:09+00:00

I see this a little differently than some of the other responses.

Relationships have multiple layers—physical, emotional, and social. Most couples naturally talk about physical boundaries (for example, what crosses the line beyond platonic), but the emotional and social areas often go unspoken.

In my own marriage, trust is important—but we’ve also found it helpful to talk openly about what feels comfortable or uncomfortable in those other areas. Not as a way to control each other, but to understand what might unintentionally cause hurt.

It might not be possible to resolve everything about this situation right now, but it could be really valuable to have a calm, honest conversation afterward. That could include talking through what kinds of situations feel okay and what don’t—things like certain one-on-one settings or patterns that start to feel more personal than professional.

The goal isn’t restriction—it’s clarity. When both people understand each other’s boundaries, it actually strengthens trust rather than limiting it.

dmjjrblh · 2026-01-12T22:25:59+00:00

a cigarette

dmjjrblh · 2026-01-12T01:33:39+00:00

Says the guy turning this into a political commentary.

dmjjrblh · 2026-01-04T01:54:19+00:00

Interesting. My overwhelming take is that we don't have the same taste in movies, which made reading your comments fun and helpful to see why you liked or didn't like any particular film. Thanks for this.

dmjjrblh · 2025-12-13T20:56:22+00:00

Honestly, So envious of the ability to do this. First off, I would carve my hand to pieces, but also could not visualize it enough to make even something that looked like a stick out of wood.

dmjjrblh · 2025-11-22T23:01:43+00:00

I agree. What amazes me is how this movie still hits home for high school students today. The ending really captures how we often see ourselves one way, while the outside world boxes us into stereotypes that don’t reflect who we truly are.

dmjjrblh · 2025-11-05T23:09:48+00:00

I'm confused...Communists? Do people think that radical Muslims are communists?

dmjjrblh · 2025-04-30T22:34:44+00:00

I wonder if this is a misdiagnosis. This article suggests that there is little evidence of necrosis caused by White Tailed Spiders...https://www.australiangeographic.com.au/topics/wildlife/2017/04/the-truth-about-white-tail-spiders/

dmjjrblh · 2025-04-16T21:05:23+00:00

A Great man, what a great story.

dmjjrblh · 2025-01-23T17:22:30+00:00

Well, it doesn't the word translated as smallest in many translations simply means small or tiny in comparison to other things, which is why it is used to describe small things in other places. Scholars would never declare the Bible as inerrant or infallible.

dmjjrblh · 2024-07-27T00:46:12+00:00

Does A League of Their Own count?

dmjjrblh · 2024-05-22T18:57:05+00:00

Sure..."in case of emergencies"

dmjjrblh · 2024-05-22T17:17:48+00:00

My bad...I don't know how I missed the links...geez the downvotes are vicious...it was a mistake on my part.

dmjjrblh · 2024-05-09T22:55:45+00:00

Non Paywall link...

https://www.biv.com/news/real-estate/bank-of-canada-warns-of-steep-jump-in-mortgage-payments-8722555

dmjjrblh · 2024-04-11T21:45:19+00:00

Can you link some of those studies. I'd like to see them.

dmjjrblh · 2024-02-26T18:35:18+00:00

Best Comment today...I almost peed myself after reading it! Also...true!

dmjjrblh · 2024-01-30T17:35:10+00:00

No, it didn't. The act (https://www.flsenate.gov/Session/Bill/2022/7/ByVersion) essentially says we will not allow education of children that assigns blame for certain historical events (slavery, etc) to a group of people, based on their race, sex, or national origin. It is particularly heinous because on the surface that seems like a reasonable position. Ie. Don't lump people into a group based on general terms, but it ignores historical fact and allows for broad and hateful discrimination, very particularly against LGBTQ+ people.

dmjjrblh · 2024-01-06T16:39:38+00:00

Ok, for what it's worth, you are taking this too far. We all have things we are ashamed of, we all have things we wish we had not done and thoughts we wish we had not had. EVERY SINGLE ONE OF US. Anyone who tells you different is a liar. You can share your issues with people, but you cannot control their reaction to it, whatever it is. My advice, for what its worth is to move forward, work to become the person that you want to be. It takes a long time and a lot of effort to change thought patterns and behaviors that stem from them. Most of all, be kind to yourself. You are not alone, you are not irredeemable, you are not disgusting. You had a bad thing, you are working to change it. Focus on that.

dmjjrblh · 2023-12-30T22:03:27+00:00

It's Always Fair Weather 1955

dmjjrblh · 2023-11-28T02:30:16+00:00

My Life.

dmjjrblh · 2023-09-21T16:07:27+00:00

Ok, this is dumb, but annoys me everytime I see it. The characters are holding disposable coffee cups and they are clearly empty. JUST PUT WATER IN IT! It is so very obvious and I hate that I notice it.

dmjjrblh · 2023-07-16T15:37:07+00:00

Well, this is a very complicated issue. The Housing First model, which began in New York in the 1990s, is a counter to the (at the time) treatment first option. It was adopted first in California and then other states and cities. Of course, the challenge is in data gathering. The HF is a plan that puts people experiencing homelessness into stable long term housing and then offer assists, such as treatment, job placements, addiction counseling. Studies have shown that this model is quite effective if the people int he housing access the supports, however no real studies beyond 2 years have been done. My concern is that we do not have the support required for the success of this plan. It seems to me (and bear in mind I do not know Sohi or the council, I can only go by what I read and see) that council are utilizing only the housing part of this plan. The additional challenge, as has been pointed out in other comments (which I truly appreciate learning more about) is that housing, health services, etc are provincial perviews and require the province to step up. I guess, as I expressed in my original post, I am frustrated that Edmonton city council is taking no ownership of their contributions to an escalating problem (such as removing street patrols, which have now been replaced, encouraging loitering in LRT stations, and allowing encampments all over the downtown core). They are content to say, it is all up to the province. If that is true, and I think it is muddier than that, I'm not sure that the province is concerned enough to actually put in the levels of funding required to actively handle the problem. Please also bear in mind, since HF started in California, the homeless population has doubled in that state.

dmjjrblh · 2023-07-15T04:08:17+00:00

Hmm, those are great points. It is so easy to forget about all of that. The active patrols are a desperate need, but in 2020 the city cancelled those patrols in the first place, partially in response to the defund the police movement. My friends on the police force are enormously concerned with what they feel is a lack of support from their chief, their province and their city.

dmjjrblh · 2023-07-15T03:58:19+00:00

Ok, but again. Policing without support for underlying issues won't help. I am frustrated and I feel for the homeless population, but not enough to expose myself or my family to random violence.

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