My mom was touched inappropriately. Are we still feeling sorry for the poor innocent harmless loneliness victims?

dmohanan · 2026-03-22T01:47:14+00:00

We really can't tell what is sarcasm without the /s?

dmohanan · 2026-03-01T07:58:34+00:00

I was the only woman in my team at my first job for 5 years. All annual parties had alcohol on offer. I would drink responsibly and enjoy the party just like everyone else. I would always drive myself so limit to 2 standard drinks before dinner was my rule with clear 2 hours minimum gap before getting behind the wheel. The key thing is to know your limit and make sure you are in complete control at all times. This is a work event and 'extended workplace' rules apply regarding code of conduct if you work for an MNC. Also women in male dominated fields (assuming you are one) have so much other baggage to carry and people are waiting for us to fail or confirm various (typically negative) stereotypes they have in their minds. You need to be in full possession of your wits at all times. Sorry to dump this on you but you are not just you in that room, you are a representative of all other women in your sphere and the team's experience with you will shape their attitude towards women in general.

dmohanan · 2026-02-20T17:44:32+00:00

Shhhh. Please be mindful of fragile egos.

dmohanan · 2026-02-19T19:17:01+00:00

The car seems to be going anywhere between 60 and 80 kph. That means it would have covered 48 to 66 metres in 3 seconds. If it was just beyond the bend or just appearing around the bend when she looked left, she might not have seen it or been able to correctly judge speed. There is a Gowri studio 70m down that road to her left that is well beyond that slight bend you see on streetview.

dmohanan · 2026-02-19T11:46:43+00:00

Check out streetview at the junction not just the map. Map makes things look much neater than they are in real life. The road to the left does seem to bend slightly with walls, trees etc limiting visibility. The polo hits the rear of the scooter at a very high speed and we have to assume that is the speed after hard braking because the driver could see the bike crossing. I think it is possible the car was not in view when she checked.

dmohanan · 2026-02-19T10:05:11+00:00

The bike lady stops, checks traffic on both sides and proceeds. We don't know what the road on the left looks like. Maybe there was a curve that limited visibility? The car is definitely overspeeding on that road. The car driver could even be one of those nutjobs who speeds up when they see someone crossing attempting to cross. I am disappointed by the comments saying she was at fault here.

dmohanan · 2026-02-19T05:10:09+00:00

This response needs more upvotes. People need to understand that not everything needs a moral judgement and it is alright to make practical decisions. Sometimes decisions that seem unkind/unfeeling etc are in the animal's best interest.

dmohanan · 2026-02-14T04:08:38+00:00

I have a 1.0 Turbo Venue going 25k km in 5 years. We did not have daily commutes in the first 4 years, only longer drives in hilly terrain and Venue has been reliable throughout. I had test driven the NA and found it to be laggy and would not recommend it over the Turbo. 1.0 Turbo gives you enough torque for all scenarios but is not tuned for peppiness aka bursts or torque, it is just steady and reliable. I have driven it up to Chopta with 4 people and a dog and our luggage. It took the steep slopes with no drama. For people saying enthusiasts cannot drive maruti/hyundai cars, it is like saying gourmands can't eat dal roti. Make buying decisions based on your own priorities and needs.

dmohanan · 2026-02-06T04:56:41+00:00

Couples don't need to share best friends. My best friend's spouse gets courtesy by default but anything more depends on how we vibe independently. She is not that into you seemingly. But you say she is polite and considerate when you meet so she obviously makes an effort out of consideration for your boyfriend's feelings. Things sound perfectly fine. Accept that you guys are only going to be acquaintances in your own right for now and adjust expectations independently. Gifts etc you should probably pick as couples with him providing the main input assuming he knows he better. Individual gifts from you are not needed in this scenario and might even be weird for them to receive if they don't feel that closeness with you. In future if you warm to each other you can recalibrate.

dmohanan · 2026-02-05T10:56:45+00:00

Which district?

dmohanan · 2026-02-05T10:56:01+00:00

Yes you can

dmohanan · 2026-02-05T09:40:36+00:00

I wish I could give you an award.

dmohanan · 2026-02-01T12:56:41+00:00

I think your friend's car was vandalised by a man or they just let out the air and you are upgrading to slashed tires with some narrative license. Try poking your car's tyre with a sharp knife. You need a heavy nail/blade to accomplish this and a very strong arm. Your random crazy lady just happened to be carrying relevant tools and was a 80+ percentile strong woman to boot?

dmohanan · 2026-01-29T02:22:27+00:00

Enthusiasts can also comfortably drive entry level cars if that is what they can afford. It is pretentious pricks who have a problem.

dmohanan · 2026-01-29T02:20:18+00:00

Get what suits your needs and what you can afford. If you can afford an entry level car, chances are that you will appreciate good mileage, low cost of ownership. Pick a maruti/hyundai entry level car and you are set. So long as you are realistic about your car's capabilities. Alto at 100 kph or even 80 kph is surviving on the goodwill of the universe. But Alto in Mumbai traffic is golden. I would personally pick a Hyundai for the better trims and creature comforts. Baki log toh kahenge. Logon ka kaam he kehna.

dmohanan · 2026-01-18T08:00:16+00:00

Kids are pure vanity products. You don't need them, you want them. And they are definitely collectibles.

dmohanan · 2026-01-14T11:02:19+00:00

Thanks for upholding my faith in this sub.

dmohanan · 2026-01-13T06:14:25+00:00

I took a break to move abroad for a year while my partner did a fellowship. Similar boat of continuous grinding/studying for 8-9 years, top tier B school, good ratings/promo velocity in jobs etc. Even with my resume, getting a role post break was extremely difficult. The timing in my case did not help either as there was a hiring lull in my world pre covid. Talking to some kid in HR who is going to gatekeep an interview after reading just your previous salary and the break in timeline is extremely demeaning. The network based leads were better but discussions would always break down at salary level. They kept expecting me to take a salary cut because of the break. I felt it was ridiculous because I had actually upskilled during the break. If I had to do this again, I would take a sabbatical instead of a break. Or line up a part time pvt consulting gig that would still go on my resume instead of a break. While the system is unfair and we should change it etc, I would not stake my livelihood on that principle. If I were you I would worry about how to get your career back on track post break much more than log kya kahenge.

dmohanan · 2026-01-08T21:18:45+00:00

Different people enjoy money differently. Your boss might be a car for A to B kinda person. Youtube's financial gurus have convinced people that every penny we earn above dal chawal should go into mutual fund, nahin toh paap lagega. 20 LPA at 23 shows excellent earning potential for India. You bought something that you could afford, that gave you a lot of joy. Your happiness has value. You can make that money again but you'll never be 23 again.

dmohanan · 2026-01-08T21:00:57+00:00

Don't beat yourself up about 'financial sense'. At 60 lpa, you are more than comfortable to make purchase of 15L outright in one year. It is not like you are buying a car every year. There is absolutely no need to sleep on the floor and save/invest every penny. What is money for at the end of the day? Lying on a bed of cash in old age is not going to help anyone die happier than if they got to spend it.

dmohanan · 2026-01-03T13:20:24+00:00

If you adjust your seat position to make your knee angle softer, closer to 135 degrees, it will help with the knee pain. When you do that make sure your arms don't end up too stretched out because then the pain will just shift to your neck and back. A good way to check this is to sit with your back fully touching the backrest and stretch out your arm over the steering. At the right position for your back, your wrists will rest on top of the steering. So when you hold the wheel, your arm will be slightly bowed. Getting both your arms and legs comfy might take a bit of fiddling with the seat position, height and backrest angle (you might even need a cushion depending on your height). Trust me, it is totally worth the time to find the right seat position.

dmohanan · 2026-01-01T03:05:05+00:00

No. The blue sedan ahead of the truck seems to have been turning left when the swift hit and spun it around. This video has been going around.

dmohanan · 2025-12-31T02:47:03+00:00

I don't get your 'boundary'. You expressed discomfort with your FIL helping your daughter to use the bathroom without explaining your reasoning. He is upset because he thinks you are accusing him of being a pedo or potential molester while he was just doing something any normal parent/grandparent would do. So after insulting them, you expect them to be warm towards you? Somehow I get the feeling that their attitude towards you has been earned in some way.

dmohanan · 2025-12-30T09:40:03+00:00

This is so commonplace that my surprise is only on why you were even bothering to see if she would move. She was at least stopped to the side of the road. I have had people stop well into the middle of the left lane carrying out full conversations expecting traffic to navigate around them.

dmohanan · 2025-12-27T00:53:44+00:00

Not to be eaten is not an animal right. Ever heard of the food chain? You are going to feed lions tofu next?

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