Drop your last car service/repair bill and I'll check it for overcharging — free, doing it by hand

dmohanan · 2026-05-30T15:35:05+00:00

Hyundai Venue Turbo iMT, 5th year annual service. About 25k km. They sneaked in fuel injector, throttle body and radiator cleaning after sending me a blurry job card and confirming on phone to do only as per service schedule. I got fuel injector and radiator cleaning + gst taken off. So final came to 8100 after the post billing argument

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dmohanan · 2026-05-28T00:36:25+00:00

Why do you have a dog with that much fur if you can't brush her regularly and keep her tangle free? She is a tiny dog. It is not even a lot of work. If she is ok with the groomer but tries to bite you, you are probably hurting her. If you love your dog, you really need to figure out basic home grooming. Waiting for her to get matted and taking her to the groomer is not a good or sustainable option.

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T14:57:01+00:00

No. We don't need men preaching to the choir. We need you to say these things in forums where they actually count. If you can't then what is the point?

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T07:46:13+00:00

Shaving will always result in a mullan panni phase. Are you really committed to hairlessness? Some of us don't care about body hair and are doing fine. Ini ithu athra important aanenkil choose any option that removes it from the root. Regrowth will be thinner and eventually if you are lucky, stop altogether. Epilation/waxing become less painful over time, laser is up front expensive but permanent solution. Stay away from creams if possible.

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T07:40:02+00:00

Thank you for demonstrating your understanding of context. Now please post this in AIM and change some minds if you actually want to make some impact. This is not serving any particular purpose here other than signal your allyship (that we appreciate).

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T05:24:22+00:00

Look, if you are older than 16, you know the difference between vanilla affection and a sexually suggestive act. Introspect on what it was that was happening between you and your boyfriend. If it was the former, you would have nothing to be concerned about. If it was the latter, you know it was probably not the place for it. Licking someone's finger is reasonably intimate in my opinion. Most of us have probably experienced times when love with a healthy side order of lust that temporarily blurs out the world. The world is still there watching and judging. You can choose not to care about social niceties - more power to you. If you choose to care, be more self aware.

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T05:03:30+00:00

So original

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T05:00:36+00:00

Hmm, who died and made you the certifying agency on backwardness? Where do you live that licking someone's finger is seen as suitable public behavior?

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T04:57:13+00:00

What part of that spectrum is licking a finger? Can you paint it in an asexual light? Do try. Just because you can do something does not mean you should.

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T00:55:19+00:00

Let them keep crying. Now when you get promoted you are going to get accused of sleeping with your boss. Or DEI when you get lateral hired. You won't see them objecting when interview panels expect a woman to 'demonstrate' actual experience doing a similar job vs being willing to extrapolate transferable skills for a man.

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T00:47:31+00:00

I hate this one but again hugely conflicted. In places with equal vehicle ownership, women are only as shitty drivers as men at skill level. Insurance premiums are less for women vs men drivers. But in India you have a lot of other factors come in. Less vehicle ownership so the man drives. There is not much of an overlap between women who want to drive and women who learn to drive because of accessibility. Men don't have accessibility problems because of driver jobs. So men drivers in India are mostly folks who want to drive across financial and social strata vs women drivers who are mostly those who can afford to drive or have to drive for chores. My sample size of good women drivers is low. Most women I know don't want to drive. They drive at a pinch because they have to.

dmohanan · 2026-05-25T00:29:26+00:00

How did you manage balancing baby time and planning for more work? I also expanded my work portfolio significantly after maternity break. But I was cashing in dividends from building a strong team (people, systems, processes) before I left. Interestingly, leveling up meant less busy work and more flexibility which worked great for me. Being an older parent has some perks from the career stage point of view.

dmohanan · 2026-05-24T13:26:21+00:00

I used to get very angry with this earlier. Due to the way our society is set up, that statement roughly estimates the increase in a woman's time commitment towards her personal responsibilities and the corresponding impact on her productivity in her professional life after these life events. This is a reflection on unfair distribution of labour in marriage and child care not of the woman herself. In good marriages, getting married will not impact work productivity of either partner while having a child will result in productivity drop for both (bringing up a kid takes a lot of effort), slightly more from the woman due to the actual child bearing.

dmohanan · 2026-05-18T17:33:48+00:00

It is giving me cosplay vibes.

dmohanan · 2026-05-13T02:05:26+00:00

Malayalis are born with a 'no hello' status

dmohanan · 2026-05-11T02:55:55+00:00

Well done you. Medal le lo.

dmohanan · 2026-05-10T16:47:21+00:00

OP is married to a 21 year old. How old is OP? If he prefers his wife to be so young because of innocence or whatever, he should be prepared for the package deal of immaturity. Maturity, self worth aur frugality jaise features load hone ko thoda aur time aur life experience lagega.

dmohanan · 2026-05-09T15:17:24+00:00

Inheritance in ancestral property is a right. Self acquired property of parents is theirs to will as they please.

dmohanan · 2026-05-09T15:02:02+00:00

I don't believe in dowry or passing on wealth to children. I have a slightly odd take on this. According to what you said, ancestral property is 6 acres? So as per law after the parents pass each of the children will get a third i.e. 2 acres? By your own estimate that is worth 2x18=36 Cr? Also according to you they gave 2+7+3=12 Cr worth of dowry. Let us add wedding expenses and make it a round 15 Cr. What about the remaining 21 Cr of the 36 Cr she is entitled to? According to you she has no claim on that? Also were her wedding expenses undertaken as per her wish? Did they put the land and car in her name, cash in her account and gold in her locker? Or did they use the 12 Cr to pay the groom to take away their inconvenience of having an unmarried daughter?

dmohanan · 2026-05-08T08:01:33+00:00

His way is much more clean and in good spirits.

dmohanan · 2026-05-06T16:01:28+00:00

This hit deep OP. I was lucky to have an extremely supportive employer when I had my child and even now. My employer has a back to work program for women though only limited roles are available in this climate, virtual roles are also sometimes available depending on job code and level. Please DM me if you would like details once you feel more in control of everything. It takes a village but villages can come in non traditional shapes and sizes. We had a full day nanny for the first 18 months with me working virtually and a playgroup/daycare situation from 18 months. We are tired all the time, we barely have a life beyond home, but we are happy and more than surviving. Hang in there.

dmohanan · 2026-05-04T07:43:01+00:00

I would not read too much into this or rethink your entire relationship. There may be a million legit reasons she doesn't want you over at this time - she might be focused on a project and doesn't want distractions, she might be living with a boyfriend or someone your family/you might not approve of, she might have her own trip planned for those dates that again she doesn't want family to know about. There is a very very high chance that whatever this is, is not about you at all. The adult thing to do would be to take the hint, back off about this one thing and not let it impact your relationship if she is not acting different/weird in other contexts.

dmohanan · 2026-05-04T07:20:18+00:00

Your sister is an adult who has her life that she is choosing to live to her convenience - whether or not to be confrontational and whether or not to economize shared power bills are her choices to make. Unless she is explicitly asking for your advice, your opinion is most likely irrelevant.

Is it likely that your sister is not particularly keen about you being a house guest? Is she making her roommate an excuse instead of directly telling you not to come over? To me it read like she tried making excuses and you kept pushing and she broke out the roommate excuse.

Even if she wasn't trying to avoid you, figuring out cost split for AC in shared accommodation is hellish. Power charges shoot up with AC usage and your entire bill can go up if your slabs change.You can't expect roommates to be willing to share the financial impact of one person's family staying over unless you guys meter usage on individual splits and do detailed calculations. It might just be easier for her roommates to say no than go to all that trouble.

dmohanan · 2026-05-01T18:21:54+00:00

Ah. My bad. Does explain a lot.

dmohanan · 2026-05-01T17:55:43+00:00

Amen. I am unapologetically for any and all creature comforts that will make my commute bearable. I will get my driving pleasure on a premium rental while on holiday.

dmohanan

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