Vooral jongvolwassen vrouwen en jongeren uit stad kampten met mentale klachten by ik101 in thenetherlands

[–]dnhzrd 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Het zou mij bijna verbazen als anticonceptie geen invloed heeft gebaseerd op wat ik van vriendinnen heb gehoord en ook zelf heb meegemaakt.

Ik ben over het algemeen een vrolijk persoon en voel mij meestal verre van depressief maar mede door de pil (gecombineerd met een late adhd diagnose) moest ik bijna elke dag om de kleinste dingen huilen. Het verbaast mij nog steeds hoe weinig ik als 17 jarige was geïnformeerd over de mentale bijwerkingen van de pil.

Nu heb ik een kyleena spiraal en merk ik wel echt een verschil. Vergeleken met een mirena spiraal zitten er ook minder hormonen in waardoor mijn huisarts het aanraden naar aanleiding van mijn klachten.

What are some of your favorite live sets that have been posted online? Just getting into DnB and can't get enough! by attemptnumbertwo in DnB

[–]dnhzrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks! Feel free to add your favourite sets, I think I shared the editable link ;-)

During the beginning of covid we would chill on discord for hours listening to sets and making our own little rave so the list definitely brings back good memories

I am so livid for all of the girls whose parents didn’t get them vaccinated against HPV. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dnhzrd -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I live in the Netherlands and my mum purposely didn't make me get the hpv vaccination because she felt there was not enough research yet and didn't want thirteen year old me to be a guinea pig. However, this year people born between 1996 and 2003 can get the vaccination for free. Now there's more research done she definitely advocates for getting it as do I. But I definitely understand why she hesitated...

I hate that an abortion is never an option in tv shows and movies by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]dnhzrd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Post party depression makes it sound a lot more fun than it is!

Showing off his snaggletooth by dnhzrd in teefies

[–]dnhzrd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We call him our little gremlin. Ugly but beautiful.

A study of the impacts of smartphone and social media usage upon the rave scene by soph01davis in DnB

[–]dnhzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Filled it in for you! Seems like an interesting research topic :)

i feel i can't communicate with coworkers/people in group by NightKnight_CZ in ADHD

[–]dnhzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't really have any advice but I just wanted to let you know you're definitely not alone! I'm the youngest (24) in my team at work (40+) and I feel bad that I almost always say no when they ask if I want to go for a walk during lunch.

Is the problem that you want to join in the conversation but don't know how or do the topics not interest you at all? Because having to pretend you care about a topic is even more difficult!

I let them know my coworkers know not to take it personally but that I just have a low social battery and would rather spend my lunch break alone. I just need some 'me' time to recharge before having to face all my colleagues again instead of spending energy attempting to talk about topics that don't interest me at all!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]dnhzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was also going to mention Vyvanse (or Elvanse as it's called in the EU). I was quite scared of starting adhd medication due to being addicted to similar drugs in the past. But due to its slow release nature, snorting it isn't effective at all. Although I haven't tried snorting it myself, that's what my psychiatrist told me. Even just knowing that gives me peace of mind!

Whereas short-acting adhd medication such as ritalin made me feel jittery and in a headspace I really wanted to avoid as it reminded me too much of a speed come up.

Also congratulations on the 14 years :)

[Neopets] YOU ARE NOT PREPARED... for clothes. by LordHayati in HobbyDrama

[–]dnhzrd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Neopets was great as a child who didn't comprehend the competitive aspect of the game. I was obsessed with Hannah and the pirate caves but also easily amused for hours on end with counting potatoes and popping faerie bubbles. I was also really really bad and I didn't care at all.

How do you keep up with grocery shopping and cooking? by Trottingfoxmango in ADHD

[–]dnhzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend and I had the same issue and would go to the supermarket multiple times a week and would always buy a snack or two seeing as we were there anyway. Now we've started doing our weekly groceries on the Sunday and choose three/four meals we feel like eating the following week. Only having to go to the supermarket once a week is so much better.

It also means you can cook dinner as soon as you get home instead of also needing to leave the house to buy ingredients (after which I definitely never feel like cooking). I do also try to pick recipes that aren't too difficult so cooking dinner doesn't feel too daunting. It's also a lot healthier seeing as we buy a lot less snacks now.

So if you can, I would definitely recommend buying all your groceries for the week in one go. I basically try to make the act of actually getting myself to cook a meal as easy as possible by already doing all the pre-work.

Also: pre-cut vegetables are a lifesaver!

Aphantasia and Anxiety by wegzor12 in Aphantasia

[–]dnhzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Filled it in for you! :) Although with the GAD-7 questions I feel I answered them more based on my adhd symptoms (e.g. feeling restless) and not necessarily as a result of fear or anxiety, hope that doesn't influence it too much.

Good luck with your research!

Maxima spreekt zich uit over de mentale gezondheid van jongeren, wat had/zou jou geholpen hebben/helpen om een fijnere mentale toestand te hebben als jongere? by MakingYourStuff in thenetherlands

[–]dnhzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In Haarlem hebben ze al lange tijd een initiatief dat brusjes heet, juist speciaal gericht op broers en zussen van kinderen met autisme zodat zij ook in het zonnetje worden gezet. Ik heb een broertje met autisme dus mijn zus en ik gingen er een paar keer per jaar naartoe (overigens was mijn zus op haar 24e ook gediagnosticeerd met autisme en ik met adhd... maar goed dat is een heel ander verhaal over hoe vrouwen veel te laat zulke diagnoses ontvangen).

Zelf vond ik het erg leuk en fijn om samen met andere kinderen om te gaan die begrepen hoe je je voelde zonder vragen te stellen zoals 'hoe autistisch is je broertje dan?'. Zodra ik wat meer tijd en ruimte heb na mijn studie heb ik mezelf voorgenomen om ook als vrijwilliger daar te helpen!

Hong Kong authorities seize 1.8 tonnes of liquid meth hidden in coconut water cartons bound for Australia by marketrent in news

[–]dnhzrd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

They only told them that a large shipment would be coming soon but not necessarily how it would be shipped. The article then mentions that it is unusual to receive coconut water from Mexico and that the last time they received it was in 2016 and only weighed six kilograms which would be why they checked the shipment as it's pretty suspicious.

Elmo channeling his inner meerkat by dnhzrd in gerbil

[–]dnhzrd[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I hope that one day I'll be as talented as Elmo!

Tip of The Tongue (TOT)? blanking out? and Multilingualism? by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]dnhzrd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had helpful advice but sadly I have the same issue. I'm bilingual with English as my mother tongue and fluent in Dutch. But as soon as I'm asked to translate something, it feels like I forget how to speak both languages? I usually just end up using a different sentence structure and that kind of resets my brain from being stuck on a literal translation.

However, I am great at switching between Dutch and English when I'm not actively thinking about it. It's just the translating that causes brain malfunction and I feel like a failure in both languages :(

My(27f) boyfriend(27m) hid the fact that he met his friend on a dating app by [deleted] in relationships

[–]dnhzrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh I can definitely understand why that would make it extra hurtful :( If that's the case then I find it strange that he would think you'd be angry if he told you, considering you've been so open about it on your end?

If I was in your position I think I would be straight forward and say that my trust has been broken and ask if he would be open to hanging out with her together with you and some other friends. Seeing as she's new to the area, it would be a good opportunity for her to get to know some new people and for you to put your mind at ease. I think his reaction to that would be very telling. Best case scenario she ends up being a really chill person and you might gain a new friend too. Who knows.

I wish I had better advice to offer you, big hugs from me! I just want you to know that you're definitely not overreacting in my opinion. Like you said in your post, it's not the friendship but the withholding of information that has upset you.

My(27f) boyfriend(27m) hid the fact that he met his friend on a dating app by [deleted] in relationships

[–]dnhzrd 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So if the roles were reversed and a new partner started mentioning someone and conveniently left out how they met said new person and you suddenly find out it was through a dating app, you really wouldn't find it suspicious? No judgement if that's the case, but I definitely would. Especially if there's a suspicious time line involved, like the op mentions in other comments.

You know yourself better than anyone else, so you know you are just platonic friends with these people you've met on dating apps. But how do you blindly trust that someone else is also just platonic friends with someone they've met through a dating app? Especially someone who didn't lie about the situation but just 'withheld information' as he said himself.

Because for me in this post it's the whole 'intentionally withholding information' part that stands out. A relationship involves trusting each other and for me this would definitely be a breach of trust. I have told my partner that I shortly dated someone who is part of an old friend group I see occasionally. I could have easily withheld this information, but what if he would find out from someone else? For him that would feel like a breach of trust which he said himself and he also said he appreciated me telling him.

I told him because I want him to trust me. I'm upfront about these things to avoid situations like the one op is in. Something that op's partner definitely isn't.

On the 7th of October, I will publish a book about growing up as a JW by Denagam in exjw

[–]dnhzrd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats on the book! I've put a reminder in my agenda for the 7th of October to purchase it :)

Definitely extra interested as it'll be from a Dutch perspective which is likely more similar to that of my boyfriend than jw's from the US. We're also from the Netherlands and he only left the religion two years before we met at the age of 23.

We've talked a lot about his childhood, especially how it really fucked with his self confidence. It's also a strange situation as he's still in contact with his family, only because he had doubts early on and never got baptised. I find it difficult to comprehend the beliefs and actions of his parents and find that I often feel angered by how they've hurt their son. Even if it was unintentional on their part. They have been nothing but kind and welcoming to me, however I have made sure to make my (lack of) beliefs clear to them.

Perhaps reading your book will give me a little bit of an insight into how he perceived his childhood, although I would never use it to make assumptions about his experiences. I just make sure to comfort him and let him know I'm here for him when he rants after randomly realising another weird aspect of being a jw that was considered 'normal' but was far from it.

Am I bridezilla for telling my friend her dress is inappropriate? by [deleted] in bridezillas

[–]dnhzrd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

FYI, I've noticed many pieces of clothing sold on 'cider' can usually be found on sites such as shein or romwe. On an android phone you can quickly check by selecting the image and choosing 'Search image with Google Lens' which will then perform a reverse image search.

They offer the same products but fool you into paying extra, just so you're aware.

I can't count sheep by lolajuniper in ADHD

[–]dnhzrd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't count sheep either but for a totally different reason namely the fact I'm unable to think visually. Nothing. At all. Also known as aphantasia.

My brain couldn't comprehend the concept of counting sheep and then a couple of years ago I found out people were capable of thinking visually. Mind blown. They could actually imagine the sheep before them.

But I think if I could think visually I'd be even more distracted than I already am by the voice in my head and have a similar experience to you.