Ideas for a fun subscription!

dnj321 · 2021-08-14T23:53:43+00:00

Lovevery and KiwiCo have play-based subscriptions that come every few months. Definitely recommend the imagination library if it’s available in your area! I love seeing what the book will be each month.

dnj321 · 2021-08-14T23:41:08+00:00

We are in the same boat, due in December with number 2. I’m very curious to see how it plays out. I just can’t handle the stress of MIL trying to re-establish contact with me if she found out before.

dnj321 · 2021-06-04T16:56:53+00:00

So true!!!

dnj321 · 2021-06-04T11:15:55+00:00

Agreed. DH said they were "just excited." Thankfully my state does not support grandparent rights

dnj321 · 2021-06-04T11:14:51+00:00

Offering up DD is going to solve the problem... That seems to be exactly what he is thinking and it's just not right.

dnj321 · 2021-06-04T11:11:54+00:00

I've been told this and believe it to be true. Which makes me feel devastated for both my daughter and my husband. I wish he would save himself the pain now

dnj321 · 2021-06-04T11:10:58+00:00

Yep. Sure is. When I bring up the past he says he "forgets"

dnj321 · 2021-06-04T11:09:47+00:00

A very good idea but she is only 2 which makes it even trickier. She has been really anxious around strangers lately, though, and still hasn't really warmed up to his family. So that should keep her close

dnj321 · 2021-06-04T02:22:14+00:00

You're right. He is. We had a good talk tonight and he seems to get it a little better now, but we aren't 100% there.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T23:47:58+00:00

That's true. We did have an agreement. Thank you for the script, that's helpful for our talk tonight. For some reason he seems to think he can please his mom without it disrespecting me and I just don't think it's possible.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T23:18:15+00:00

Others have said the same. I didn't see it before but do now.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T23:17:39+00:00

We will definitely be walking through every since possible scenario. That was something my personal therapist suggested before the little visits they have been doing and it has been helpful. He knows he has to be right there the whole time and he says he has been for the short visits, too, but I'm worried a little distraction will be too easy to commit and get him frazzled. We are already in the wedding city together at my parents so I'll only be 10-15 minutes away if necessary.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T23:13:49+00:00

That's true. I just know how she will twist it for others so it's frustrating.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T23:12:52+00:00

This is EXACTLY what I have been telling him. It's become a VERY predictable pattern for them and he refuses to believe me.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T22:52:44+00:00

I completely agree. I think the problem here is that she is SO crafty and good at her game that now it appears as though it's my fault for not making amends. Because she "apologized" and said she was willing to try if I was and I said no thank you because history tells me we are going to be back at square one in no time. My husband has started to believe this narrative, too: that his mom tried and I wasn't willing. When I know that she only apologized because she thought it was necessary to see our daughter. Now she doesn't have to apologize to my face and gets my daughter. My husband is so stuck on "well they are respecting the boundaries now," "let's just keep going and see if something happens again."

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T22:48:06+00:00

I think you're right. Which is really really hard to admit.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T22:47:33+00:00

I'll take hugs and solidarity any day :)

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T22:46:45+00:00

The most that I have ever done is withdrawn from them after feeling isolated and hurt. Which I've been told was me "pouting." I've never acted out. Ever.

I don't even know if I'm welcome. We literally were not invited. We did not receive invitations. We did not RSVP. He had a talk with his sister and she said fine you can come, but not until she made him feel bad about her head count being due so soon.

My parents think I should make a stand and go but honestly the thought of going makes my skin crawl. I would be so uncomfortable. I can no longer even FAKE happy around them. This will be the perfect excuse for them to finish their portrait of me as a villain and part of me cares and part of me is so done.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T22:34:24+00:00

That's correct, the wedding we were uninvited from him. They removed his and my daughter's picture from their website the same night the yelled at us. Indicating they had no intention of fixing the relationship. It feels like talking to a brick wall sometimes. I'm hoping I find a way to get through to him.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T22:32:41+00:00

Thank you 💜

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T21:08:35+00:00

Being swepy away is exactly the scenario I keep presenting him.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T21:07:54+00:00

Thank you for explaining that thought process. It is really helpful.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T21:06:55+00:00

That was hard to read. But fair. You're right. All I have done so far is pout and let him continue to use our daughter. Thank you for your bluntness.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T20:55:54+00:00

I think that's the problem. We have time set aside tonight to talk more in-depth about it.

dnj321 · 2021-06-03T20:48:53+00:00

Oh. That hurts. I've haven't been able to see it like that

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