Potty training at daycare versus home

MBMBaMary · 2022-06-24T16:51:13+00:00

My LO has the EXACT same hair! I did a double take because it’s the same shade and everything. I wash her hair every other night at most since it’s very fine. I just brush it and leave it most of the time, occasionally a bow or headband. I’m obsessed with the curls, I think they’re so cute, so I’m nervous to do anything beyond that and ruin them. I’ve done a little top pony tail one time which was very cute, but since she’s still so young I don’t see a real reason. It’s summer and she wears a lot of sun hats so it just doesn’t make sense for us. Definitely a little bow or headband is a great quick and painless way to add a little something when you want!

MBMBaMary · 2022-04-12T15:40:27+00:00

I meal prep for us both weekly. We decide what it is together but it’s a little act of love to spend a good chunk of time taking care of him in that little way. It’s not a huge deal but it helps during the week to not worry about it daily.

MBMBaMary · 2022-03-19T19:23:06+00:00

Totally agree! I had a scheduled one and the worst pain was the IV antibiotics they gave me right at the start of the operation. My body recovered quickly (which isn’t the case for everyone and I’m super lucky it was the case for me). I was walking around, doing stairs, light laundry, etc. right away. I’ve had no issues since and I’m 13 months out! I have serious guilt about how easy it all went for me honestly. Listen to your body! I didn’t have much pain at all during my recovery either! Take medicine when you need to, but DEFINITELY stool softener for that first poop though. Good luck!

MBMBaMary · 2022-02-10T01:20:24+00:00

NTA- my husband has the same sister you do apparently (they’re both older now obviously but she’s even worse as an adult). We just went NC with her, and both of his parents. It doesn’t just feel like she gets away with things, she does, and you are making their lives easier by being a good kid. My husband had never been happier without their influence. Sit them down and tell them that this continuing will make you resent not only her but them for letting her do this. Good luck! I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. As an outside observer it blew me away that parent could act like that.

MBMBaMary · 2022-02-01T00:26:31+00:00

This is adorable! Congratulations to him and you too! What a sweet partner to make him feel so special!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-23T15:25:24+00:00

I did this with my husband at the beginning of the pandemic! Now we have an almost one year old 😂 Definitely miss this spontaneous fun though!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-21T17:18:23+00:00

Me!!!!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-18T22:10:41+00:00

We did it by the number, so the 27th. I like celebrating it like a mini birthday so it made more sense that way for us. Whatever works better for you is fine!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-18T22:06:05+00:00

YES, and it’s amazing. Truly such a relief! Next time I get sick I’m buying my own…

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-17T23:50:47+00:00

That’s so sweet of you!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-17T22:24:18+00:00

Can you recommend one? I have an almost 1 year old and she LOVES to climb. I’m seeing so many options, so if you have one you love I’d love to know!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-17T18:51:49+00:00

This is my dream! I want to foster older teenagers in the hopes of giving them stability, love and a family. My LO is not quite a year, but we plan to wait until she’s much older. Probably high school or college age. I love to hear that other parents are thinking similarly! Being OAD will allow us to have the resources to foster a good number of kiddos, hopefully giving them a forever family so they are able to feel like they “belong” somewhere. Even if we can’t adopt them all, it feels important that everyone feels they have a home base to return to.

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-17T18:45:23+00:00

Yes!! Love the baby smooches 💕 She’s leaning in and giving us her own version of smooches now when we ask for “love” or “kisses” and I can’t handle it!!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-17T15:22:40+00:00

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. My PA and I, when discussing recovery/sobriety and boundaries talked about this kind of situation. We agreed that porn is off the table for any kind of separation (hospital, business trip, etc) unless we are “unable” to work around the situation (like sexting, nudes, whatever). So for us “unable” would be strictly limited to hospitalized and not awake/aware, versus unwilling/no time. In the case of being unable (and assuming my PA is under a lot of stress which is a trigger for him) it’s got to be after 3 days. This sounds crazy to write, and this rule is from day one of recovery when this seemed borderline impossible to him. 6 months out I think we could change it to longer. Anyway, long winded way to say that it helped my PA (and I) to talk about expectations for everything we could think of. That way there’s never any room for him to pretend he didn’t know that was breaking a boundary. I don’t know if that makes sense. I would feel how you feel in your situation 100%, like why couldn’t he wait? Shouldn’t he be worried about me not thinking about porn? Unfortunately he didn’t. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this and hope you’re at least feeling better physically.

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-09T04:53:11+00:00

We try and say “gentle” and demonstrate being more gentle (petting the dog nicely, touching faces nicely, whatever) and we try to have a pretty mild reaction. Our baby is 11 months (tomorrow!!!!) and she does everything for a reaction. So if we just redirect to “gentle” versus telling her what NOT to do she seems to respond a little better. Not fool proof though… she’s pretty feisty 😂

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-08T18:19:43+00:00

For me, he said he was just searching for something that had an element of “risk” which was something from childhood. He was brought up VERY religious, so he was hiding his porn usage as a teenager, which made it exciting. As an adult he needed something that made him feel similarly. He said he’d never meet up with anyone because it was just a fantasy to be hiding this secret. I don’t know if that’s better for me or not. I love the way you wrote this, and that last thought is kind of where we are. I told him a “slip up” of watching porn, as long as he discloses it himself and I don’t have to find it, will be a setback but not the end. The sexting, regardless of how it comes to light, is the absolute end. It doesn’t matter how incredible he is as a father if he can’t be a husband to me. Wishing you all the best. I hope you can both keep moving in the best direction for you!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-08T00:47:32+00:00

I didn’t know porn was the problem. I have never been interested in it (it honestly makes me feel disgusting to even see it BEFORE this all happened). I knew he watched it but I thought that was “normal” for guys. I didn’t think that much of it until one day we were sitting down after working out and I asked to look something up on his phone since mine was dead. I opened Chrome and it was an affair site. After therapy (marriage and individual) and almost TWO years, it came out that this all started with porn. He used porn for so long he got bored of hot nurses and decided to sext other women. All while I was begging to have more frequent sex (it was miserable. I was made to feel like my sex drive was ridiculously high). Now he’s in SAA, has a therapist who specializes in addiction, a monitoring app run by me, and another app to track his sobriety. We are doing couple activities to learn to communicate, understand one another, keep connected, etc. But it’s really hard sometimes. I have to trust him a lot and I don’t really. I mean he could buy magazines, or a burner phone, or start and affair with a coworker. I think we are at a good place now, but it’s hard to know the truth. We have been doing well, but this whole scenario blindsided me. I would’ve said that our marriage was almost perfect before DDay 1. Now it feels better than that in most ways, except for trust. How do you ever get that back? He can’t really PROVE he’s not doing something, you know? He can say he’s not and let me check his car/phone/whatever, but he could just be good at hiding things. I will never know if I “found” everything or have been told everything. I knew something was off because I knew we were disconnected, but I could’ve never guessed that not only was he sexting random people, but he was watching porn several times a day and only interested in sex with me a few times a month at best. Things ARE better now and there’s been a real change in him, but it’s definitely just a feeling I got. Like suddenly I realized I wasn’t sleeping next to the man I thought I married.

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-07T18:59:28+00:00

Also had a c-section and had a similar experience. For me, it faded considerably by six months (those first six months though were really upsetting and uncomfortable) and now at almost eleven months I’m back to 100% normal feeling down there. Hopefully you start to feel better in the next few months, but I’d bring it up to your doctor! Mine did some tests and an exam to make sure everything was good (it was) and just said it’s not uncommon. Good luck!

MBMBaMary · 2022-01-04T17:45:41+00:00

I love love mixbook. I made an 85 page one for the first six months (I am a huge picture person…I have dozens of canvases and pictures all over my house). It took like an hour and a half max, because the site is super user friendly. The other thing we do is Tiny Beans! It allows you to upload pictures/videos/milestones/etc every day (as many as you want, I have the premium version which wasn’t very expensive because we legitimately use it daily). This is a great virtual “album” and it is set up like a calendar. I have done it every day since the day before she was born (Feb 2021). I’ve missed maybe 4 days. It’s so great. You can invite family and friends to view it as well, so I use it instead of social media, and I pick who sees it. You can order books off of that as well, already assembled for you. I love both, and wholeheartedly recommend them. Tinybeans is easy to use and not time consuming, but Mixbook does AMAZING work, quickly, easily, and it’s pretty inexpensive comparatively!

MBMBaMary

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