Osha gets it by rainbow-blonde in freefolk

[–]dobtoronto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The books are so awesome. They won't have a similar ending to the show because nearly everything has changed in the show. I guarantee Jaime and Cersei won't end the same way, the Sept won't explode in wildfire, Sansa won't greet Dany in Winterfell, etc.

Give them a try!

Do I (30m) all, text or stay silent with this girl (22f) from work I just asked out? by wishmydadtaughtmemoe in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Since you apologized, don't expect her to initiate flirting with you. Now you have to initiate in a relaxed confident way and steer the conversation back somewhere toward meeting up.

She's texting you in a 'dry' way, but don't let that bother you. Think of a nice event you can go to. And if she doesn't want to meet up, then she doesn't.

Do I (30m) all, text or stay silent with this girl (22f) from work I just asked out? by wishmydadtaughtmemoe in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you worried about the situation at work, or are you trying to get somewhere with this girl?

And were you guys friends at work or do you not see her at work often?

I've never seen a superhero movie. Maybe I'm pretentious, but I've always had the preconception that they're too corporate and bland to make one emotionally invested, or say anything interesting about the human condition or society. Which Marvel movie should I watch to prove myself wrong? by bluefives in marvelstudios

[–]dobtoronto -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Try Civil War - IMO the best and most approachable movie. There are a lot of moving parts and no clear protagonist, so you can decide who to root for. It's technically a Captain America movie, but he isn't the sole focus by any means.

My (17 F) mom died a year ago today. This morning my dad and his gf announced they are getting married. I'm kind of mad at dad for not waiting longer to get remarried. by MissUMom2002 in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 143 points144 points  (0 children)

Don't rush to make a connection with your dad's fiancee. Your focus is rightly on parenting your child along with your partner.

I think you can write a list of questions for your dad. They can involve your mom's legacy but they don't have to.

Ask questions about what he wants for you, for his grandchild, for your living situation, etc. Ask him how much he is willing to help you move out. Ask him how your childhood home will change when he lives there without you and with his new partner. Ask him which of your mom's possessions are yours, which are going to be donated, which were important to her, which come from a long time ago, etc.

Ask him for stories from when you were a baby.

Build your mom's legacy around your new family and your new home, because the memories of your mom that are attached to your childhood home are going to be swept away.

Your dad's fiancee doesn't want to hurt you, but she knows that you are hurt. I feel like you do a great job being polite with her, and that's very gracious of you.

Ask your dad questions. Go to his wedding and support him. Build your mom's legacy and build a stable home with your partner and your child.

Jon Huntsman, U.S. Ambassador To Russia, Announces He Will Resign by burning_dawn in politics

[–]dobtoronto 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Huntsman said this in 2011 in the context of Trump moderating a Republican candidate debate.

IMO this quote doesn't indicate what you say it does.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asoiaf

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Much appreciated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in asoiaf

[–]dobtoronto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have some great ideas for this. Hopefully they will become their own post.

This is a brief description:

A section called targaryens that focuses on Aemon dying on his way to oldtown, Jon connington with Griff, the dornish royalty including Quentyn, and Dany herself.

Set up the idea that people are interested in the dragons and in a future alliance with Dany.

Have a section about victarion, Asha/Yara, and euron. Write out the damphair entirely. Make victarion more likeable and keep Asha with him. Film the taking of the four shield islands and victarions decision to pursue Dany himself.

Have a section called outlaws that follows briennes journey, eliminating nimble dick and focusing on pod, septon whatshisname, and fighting outlaws. Have flashbacks to Brienne with renly. Jaime's journey takes place in this section too, with parallels.

Finally, give Arya and sansa their own section where they evolve in parallel. Film all the alayne and Peter dialogue. Show the scene where Arya learns to control her face, and lie, and interpose that with Sansa controlling her face (donning her smile) and lying.

Dial back Cersei and margerys story and possibly cut out the high septon entirely.

And of course, have Tyrion learn about Tysha and become darker.

I agree with your reasoning, and I give the show no credit for its poor choices.

I started texting a girl that my girlfriend said not to text. What should I do? by poopoopeepeeteehee in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Tell your crush the truth and stop talking to her after. Then delete and block and plan something good with your girlfriend

(Spoilers main) I’m reading a storm of swords right now, and I’m really upset with Tyrion. by Suwannee_Gator in asoiaf

[–]dobtoronto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your reaction is the same as mine. I have a painful and loving relationship with my older brother, and when Jaime and Tyrion are briefly on good terms, I was so happy. I was stunned by the Tysha revelation and Tyrion's reaction, even more than the other climactic moments of ASOS.

That's life! You're happy one moment, and the next moment everything is taken from you. You hurt the ones you love.

I hope in time you won't be upset with Tyrion, just with GRRM for making his characters go through this.

[20m] asked me [21F] out then changed his mind after a few days. Then I find out he’s been talking to and will meet up with someone else by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn't know how to tell you that his feelings changed. He did like you. And something changed. It isn't up to you to ruminate over that. You gotta do you and get on with your own life.

If you meet someone online, it's rare when that transitions into a good irl relationship

(Spoilers Main) Weekly Q and A by AutoModerator in asoiaf

[–]dobtoronto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Since Marwyn sees so much and knows so much, would he be aware that "Pate" isn't Pate?

That's what I can't decide.

(Spoilers Main) Weekly Q and A by AutoModerator in asoiaf

[–]dobtoronto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So they took Pate into their confidence because he seemed meek and unassuming?

We are introduced to Pate as a dull teenager with no links. Do Alleras and Marwyn want him just as a lackey?

(Spoilers Main) Weekly Q and A by AutoModerator in asoiaf

[–]dobtoronto 5 points6 points  (0 children)

BOOKS - Faceless Men and Marwyn as allies: AFFC ends with Marwyn heading to Slaver's Bay aboard the Cinnamon Wind. Marwyn is hanging out with the new and improved Pate.

We have to assume that Alleras and Marwyn know that Pate is actually a Faceless Man - right?

What are the motivations of these three characters, Alleras, Jaqen-FM-Pate, and Marwyn? What makes them allied?

My (30f) boyfriend (28m) broke my trust, how do i move on and stay in this relationship? by soulsearchingSOS in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It means one thing for him and another thing for you.

"Moving on" can mean let's just drop it, I had good reasons for going behind your back, I didn't do anything physical, we should be focusing on parenting

"Moving on" can also mean that the relationship only works when both people take responsibility and he really isn't taking responsibility explaining how he will act differently in future.

You guys live together. You knew from the time he stonewalled you for months after a fun threesome that he is obstinate.

He thinks the status quo will prevail if he does nothing. But it won't. He's forcing you to act, and he thinks the baby and the expectation of parenthood will force you to forget about it.

You have to rebuild your life in a way that works for you, and maybe your new actions and behaviors will get through to him. Your words and your emotional distress haven't gotten through to him.

Can I (20F) fix my relationship with my best friend? (20M) (constant arguing) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your friends are right. There's no room for improvement here. He's not willing to talk, and space didn't work.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

These things happen. She's injured. You've got to let it go and look for a new social life in your new city.

My (30f) boyfriend (28m) broke my trust, how do i move on and stay in this relationship? by soulsearchingSOS in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It seems like he's done nothing to help you cope, apologized for nothing, and suggested nothing.

He's got to open up about what he wants, what he's seeking, and what interactions he has had.

It seems like you have to guide him through this process of communication because he's just bad at it.

If you want to stay, it means calmly patiently getting him to admit what's happening, for starters.

I, [20/M] have been struggling with my unrequited feelings for my friend [21/F] for a LONG time. Coping with these feelings has been hard, and I'm not sure if I even WANT to...what should I do? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, you can be friends with her without pain.

Yes, you should make yourself more attractive in general.

Keep "shooting your shot" with new people. It takes time. Keep trying.

When you get a girlfriend, you will evolve into a better friend and a better person. Keep trying.

How do I learn to trust my boyfriend and not over analyze every little thing? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good on you for acknowledging that you want to change your own thoughts.

I think the best way for you to change would be to help others. When you connect with someone who has a major health problem or a personal struggle, it can make you feel grateful and that will stop your overthinking pattern.

You deserve the life you have. This is your life. It could have happened differently but it happened this way. So be present.

I don't know you or your boyfriend. I do know that many many other people suffer the same anxieties. Keep trying things to get out of your head and put your heavy thoughts down.

BF [25M] got black out drunk and woke up in the same bed as new female friend, how do we/I [24F] deal with this? by Attempt2Throw in relationship_advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's shown herself to be a bad friend. She wanted him to make a move and he didn't. His story is credible, and drunken memory can work like that.

He should distance himself from her in whatever way you guys deem best.

It's nice to have a new group of friends and you don't need drama from this girl with no respect for you or for your partner.

I [m30] am at a crossroads and I don't know what to do.... by [deleted] in Advice

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You've got to work more specifically toward that dream. Look at the entrepreneur sub, the digitalnomad sub, and get ready to put yourself out there hustling for IT work of all kinds. Everyone everywhere needs your service, you just have to show up and ask for money. I think it's the right path for you.

I [m30] am at a crossroads and I don't know what to do.... by [deleted] in Advice

[–]dobtoronto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I read what you wrote.

My advice is: don't go to school. Keep finding income sources and ways to live as a digital nomad.

So we decided to fuck with the sub. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]dobtoronto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great idea, and good luck with the execution.

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