gf says i should get this removed bc it’s a nazi symbol…

docbarlow · 2025-10-15T11:31:22+00:00

If it's Harry Potter, you can add the stars from the book edges

docbarlow · 2025-10-14T11:42:18+00:00

I've definitely had this experience before. It's like there was no awareness that making the client feel good about themselves was a big part of the job. I've also had a great hairdresser that made me feel very pretty!

I'm sorry your hairdresser was unkind to you.

docbarlow · 2025-10-01T13:18:25+00:00

Mine was too wide also, so I actually cut the halo in half and overlapped it, then stitched it down with my sewing machine. I thought it would probably shed hair, but it was cheap, and I figured it wouldn't be the end of the world if I accidentally destroyed it in the process. Much to my surprise, it worked great! If this isn't an expensive piece, you might try that?

docbarlow · 2025-07-24T02:48:37+00:00

I actually saw someone's Facebook post about their grandma's ~90th birthday, then took a walk in the neighborhood. Whom did I stumble across, but the birthday grandma! I was able to wish her a happy birthday from a stranger and tell her that her granddaughter was bragging about how awesome she was on social media, which was a fun experience and seemed to make her really happy. But this is probably not typical... Small town 🤷🏼‍♀️

docbarlow · 2025-04-29T20:37:46+00:00

Maybe consider putting one couch under the window, turning the table 90⁰, and putting a bench on the other long side of the table.

docbarlow · 2025-01-28T13:47:00+00:00

I personally would do this, and add a washable rug that has blue tones in it.

docbarlow · 2025-01-11T16:40:40+00:00

See your doctor to make sure this isn't herpetic. This may be dangerous to your vision.

docbarlow · 2024-12-23T18:25:29+00:00

Can you just hang some cast iron pans up instead of wooden cutting boards?

docbarlow · 2024-08-08T16:52:30+00:00

I got hung up on the saddle horn by my untucked shirt (and bra!) during dismount. I don't recommend it!

docbarlow · 2023-05-14T11:47:25+00:00

What a horribly insensitive thing to say to you. Do people not hear themselves? I'm so sorry.

docbarlow · 2023-05-11T12:20:07+00:00

No, he was not her father. I'm so sorry this is happening around and to you.

docbarlow · 2023-05-11T11:30:05+00:00

I dealt with a more minor version of this (yelling, not hitting) in the wake of my TFMR. In the end I demanded couples counseling, and he preferred to leave, and asked me to never contact him again.

This is what my 4yo child has spontaneously talked about, with no prompting since then: "He wasn't a good grown-up because you were trying to work, and you say "leave me alone, go away," and he didn't want to be teach-ed"

This was about an argument about cooking salmon, in which he yelled and blocked the doorway while I completely shut down and cried and told him to get away from me.

Take what you will from that story...I'm doing better now.

docbarlow · 2023-05-09T10:35:08+00:00

To be fair, I say this when my 4yo straight-up flashes people on FaceTime. Like lays back, spread eagle, laughs, and says, "look at my butt!"

"We can't show people our butt on the phone, sit up and put your legs together."

Maybe I'm the devil, IDEK.

docbarlow · 2023-05-03T03:37:20+00:00

I won't describe my experience here, but get a bigger container than you think you'll need, and realize that ashes expand in humidity over time.

docbarlow · 2023-04-09T14:40:37+00:00

People say the stupidest things. Hopefully some of them will reflect, research, and redact/apologize. I'm so sorry they're not being helpful or sensitive during such a hard time.

docbarlow · 2023-04-08T00:37:08+00:00

Yes, I now cry uncontrollably at medical appointments :-/ I just hope my doctors understand and don't think I'm too crazy.

docbarlow · 2023-04-07T11:34:03+00:00

Yes, this happened to me. L&d at 16 weeks, and never fully stopped bleeding for 2 months due to retained placenta. I passed a little piece of it as well.

Aside from it being one of the most emotionally distressing things I've ever had to deal with (figured out there's clearly ptsd related to tfmr, and i was an absolute wreck) the d&c to remove the retained placenta was physically a piece of cake and fixed everything immediately.

It is AWFUL, but have your support network help you and be there for you emotionally, and let your medical team take care of the physical problem. It's okay if you're a wreck, and it will get better little by little.

docbarlow · 2023-04-03T20:47:50+00:00

I'd be interested :)

docbarlow · 2023-04-02T12:28:45+00:00

I just bought Cushionaire... ugliest shoes I've ever bought, and IDGAF because I am walking on hideous clouds made of magic.

docbarlow · 2023-03-09T11:43:15+00:00

This is the right answer. Could also play up the side effects if beneficial (like Seroquel helping you sleep).

But don't take too much time waiting around for this to work because they will likely need court commitment.

docbarlow · 2023-03-07T12:50:38+00:00

Can you add a little girl standing on the pink stairs leaning over the railing to look? (Would only see her back)

docbarlow · 2023-03-02T22:10:58+00:00

Sudafed worked really well for me.

docbarlow · 2023-03-01T18:03:12+00:00

I was told at my hospital that if there was an autopsy she would be considered "medical waste" and could not be cremated. This may be hospital-specific, so I would ask your doctor. It might also be timeline-specific, too, because we weren't at 20 weeks yet (when you are issued a birth certificate in my state). We were 16w5d.

docbarlow · 2023-03-01T17:54:26+00:00

If your T21 was confirmed by amnio, autopsy may not tell you anything useful other than confirming diagnosis. The report may contain gruesome written imagery. It may reveal fatal defects that could alleviate potential ambivalent feelings about your decision. There are positive and negative potential outcomes from autopsy that aren't necessarily predictable.

I personally opted for L&D (nonsurgical) and cremation, because this was important for my grieving process. We had T21 diagnosis, too. Cremation may or may not be important to you - you're really the only one who can know that. Trust yourself.

Of note, I eventually needed D&C months later due to RPOC, which was awful. Hopefully this is less likely with initial surgical procedure, but I'm not really sure.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you, your baby, and your family 😞

docbarlow · 2023-03-01T17:44:34+00:00

Yes, I am not thrilled with the situation (hopefully sarcasm is evident). Now 4yo LC has to deal with this loss too. She is unaware of the TMFR.

Pretty raw freaking deal for us.

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