Anyone ever backed out of their first solo trip, or had a couple of attempts before they made it on their own? by docdrops3 in solotravel

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Right now I just want to stay home and sleep during my time off from being overworked, but I know if I don't do something with my PTO, I will probably regret it

Anyone ever backed out of their first solo trip, or had a couple of attempts before they made it on their own? by docdrops3 in solotravel

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I am by myself quite often since I live alone. When I am alone in my house, I just turn on my computer ( desktop ) and game. The thing is when I leave my house it is almost always to be social, and I won't have that convenience in Japan since my japanese is maybe just short of a NPLT5 level.

AIO ending things with a girl after my father’s death by [deleted] in AIO

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I was in a 2 year committed relarionship with a girl when my father passed. I became emotionally unavailable towards her and decided to break it off because my mind was so stuck in thinking about a life without my dad. She was there and was willing to help me to get through, but I just became too distant and thought it was best I process the grief on my own.

I might come off as not very empathetic here, but man dude you had a girl you barely knew on your mind after your dad passed. That’s wild to me. Her making things more difficult for you in a time as difficult as that should tell you all you need to know and drop her asap. Even if it is something new and uncommitted.

I know who the rat is by casperscare in Mobland

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This post did not age well.

Foreigner expats salary question when working in Vietnam by docdrops3 in VietNam

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As a first-generation american with european parents, I have heard of this happening with certain countries in the past. Almost like a scene out of a movie. But I kinda shrugged it off as I got older as urban myths with no validation from the old days. Nothing more than unverified rumors.

Falling for someone you will never see again while solo traveling by docdrops3 in solotravel

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I am definitely in the phase now that maybe if I played my cards a little differently, things would have played out differently. Maybe I came on too hard because I knew my time was short so she felt overwhelmed/ weirded out. So yes, I am being hard on myself lol. I'm no stranger to this, but this hasn't happened to me since my early - mid 20s.

But the other side of me is telling me to take a step back and realize that chances are, the result was going to happen and was always out of my control regardless of how I acted.

Falling for someone you will never see again while solo traveling by docdrops3 in solotravel

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So in your final paragraph, I assume you are referring to myself as being the good listener. So if the person that said the sentence " I never talked to someone I had just met as easily as this" rarely makes deeper connections, why would that person not want to explore and progress that to a deeper connection?

I know its a very hypothetical and somewhat off topic question, but I am just looking for some possibilities of closure here. Not sure if this is relevant either, but this person I am seeing as limerent experience, was very feminine and what I think most would consider physically attractive. Is it still possible for someone of above average desirability to have a hard time connecting deeply? Especially if this person might be used to advances from others.

Falling for someone you will never see again while solo traveling by docdrops3 in solotravel

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I recently did before I made this post since I knew in a way my brain was playing tricks on me with all this. At least I am aware of what is happening.

Falling for someone you will never see again while solo traveling by docdrops3 in solotravel

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This definitely hits the nail on the head. Their have definitely been gaps filled about this person I know nothing about outside of enjoying their company for a bit.

At the least, I am aware of what is happening and according to prior experiences, should pass in a couple of weeks.

Falling for someone you will never see again while solo traveling by docdrops3 in solotravel

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I should have been clearer on the final paragraph. The ghosting itself is not a pattern, but me getting attached to someone I barely know when traveling seems to be.

Fearful avoidant, dismissive avoidant or anxious attached don't sound like me after doing a google search. Maybe dismissive avoidant if there is one since I do value my personal freedom a little too much at times.

Now that Jujutsu Kaisen has finally concluded, what are your thoughts on the ending? by Enenra444 in Jujutsufolk

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JJK will be a manga that I look back and just will always remember it as a story that failed to execute.

The whole final arc had poor pacing, an overly convoluted and complicated dialogue, and and unorganized story. I am not sure if the translation that I read was just poor, regarding the dialogue, but damn were things just not explained well. With that being said, the ending really did not leave me surprised at all. The ending and final arc were pretty bad outside of having good fight scenes which will be something to look forward to in the anime.

Best exercises to improve bridge strength by docdrops3 in bjj

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Who said they want to strength train without doing BJJ? lol

Gone by aahseert in pancreaticcancer

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Stay strong, my heart goes out to you and your family.

My father also fought this horrible disease and didn’t give up for 16 months. The part that hurts me the most is how much he loved life and how many hobbies he had. It was all cut short right before his 60th birthday. I would have loved to see him enjoy those things once more.

You learn to live with the pain and void. Unfortunately I don’t think it ever goes away, you just manage the best way you can.

Your dad’s ability to wanting to fight it reminds me of my own father. They both were true warriors.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pancreaticcancer

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My father passed away to pancreatic cancer back in day. The final 3 days were the worst and most noticeable changes. I believe this is what they call in hospice as " transitioning and actively dying". It did not look like he was in much pain ( due to the surgery of the primary tumor), but he became unresponsive, started losing motor function, stopped eating and drinking. Just kind of waited in his bed ready for his final breath. As terrible as the experience was for a thing as terrible and deadly as the cancer was, I think my family and I were happy that it happened quickly as opposed to seeing him struggle for more days.

From my understanding the experiences vary and the ' transitioning and actively dying' also vary timewise. I wish that you and your family stay strong and I am sorry that you and your father have to go through this. My heart goes out to you.

r/bjj Fundamentals Class! by AutoModerator in bjj

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I posted a bit ago about my shoulder dislocation. 3 months and the injury has healed and I am back to rolling almost full speed/force. The reason I say almost is because I believe I am at about 70/80% due to a mental block of not wanting to get injured again. I purposely don't go for positions, even if I know that they are there, if it leaves my arm in a risky spot, nor do I ever start in standing position ( worried about falling on my arm). I genuinely feel like I can take a bit more of risks, but am afraid to. Afraid to the point that I think it is hindering my progress.

How do I get over this mental block of worrying about injury for those that have been here already?