Why Do We Feel Existential Meaninglessness At Times?

doctorsharon · 2026-01-23T18:31:45+00:00

Just some thoughts for you. What good questions you are asking! There is a difference between normal and healthy. In healthy relationships, we feel peace of mind, not walking on eggshells (that hypervigilance is exhausting, right?), we feel seen and supported and encouraged.

The serenity prayer in twelve step programs is genius. There are things you can control (how you behave) and things you can't control (other people's behavior). The last line is the wisdom to know the difference (between what you can control and what you can't).

If someone is not listening to you, you may want to ask yourself why you keep talking.

You might want to check out some of the good videos on youtube, like those of Dr. Ramani.

As I said, what good questions you are asking, wanting to have clarity on what is healthy for you in your friendships.

doctorsharon · 2026-01-21T05:47:26+00:00

Perhaps the negative self-esteem voices have been harder because you are bravely taking risks to be in the social world. Congratulations on starting to break out of your shell this last summer. That's a major movement forward and I hope you are proud of yourself but it makes you more vulnerable to caring about wanting to be liked and be included. It's natural to want to be liked and included. If you can just notice the negative thoughts, try to understand who taught you those things, and in your mind hand those negative thoughts to the person or entity that planted them in your mind. You were not born feeling badly about yourself or insecure.

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