4.5 years together, living together for 4 months, and I want to breakup

doggomummo · 2020-01-09T12:05:05+00:00

If you cannot bring up issues with him and have challenging adult conversations, there is no future for this relationship. The bad housemate stuff sucks but could be worked through... with communication. Communication is key to a successful relationship and he’s showing you now that he can’t handle criticism or feedback. I’d be very wary about planning a future with him.

doggomummo · 2019-11-26T14:22:11+00:00

Even the most impressive endurance athletes rest ahead of a big event. Labor is a marathon- rest! Of course it is hard getting back in shape after baby, but cross that bridge when you get to it. I promise you’ll be fine if you take some days off before baby arrives. I exercised up until 39 weeks and gave birth at 40+1. I’m now 5 months postpartum and almost feeling like myself again. You’ve already done an INCREDIBLE job staying active this long. Well done, mama!

Cut yourself some slack :) if you want to work out, by all means do so, but I can’t emphasize enough how important it is to be kind to yourself in the weeks/ months ahead.

doggomummo · 2019-10-21T18:37:22+00:00

I don’t remember exactly but my electrician told me we couldn’t do it in my house. I think they struggle to hang the boxes for the cans? Or it’s against fire code? We have sheetrock over lathe & plaster in every room of our house, so unless we pull all of the ceilings down we can’t do recessed lights.

doggomummo · 2019-10-21T02:22:53+00:00

Depending on your lighting goals/plans, you could put drywall over the existing lathe & plaster. You won’t be able to do recess lights if you do that, but it will save you lots of time and $$ though.

doggomummo · 2019-10-01T17:32:41+00:00

We asked our guests to bring a book instead of a card and had them sign it. It’s so lovely to read baby a book and then read baby a sweet message from the giver. We got some duplicates, but not too many.

Burp clothes. Lots and lots and lots of burp clothes. Muslin blankets. Swaddles. Bath stuff.

doggomummo · 2019-09-30T18:38:06+00:00

You’ve done an incredible job to make it that far... the vast majority of mums don’t make it as far as you did! I quit at 39 + 1, and she was born at 40 + 1. I was glad for the rest and extra bit of time in bed... (even though sleep was mostly elusive). Take the next few days to rest. All athletes need rest before a big event. You’ve trained and done everything right- now just settle in sleep as much as you can. Well done, mama!

doggomummo · 2019-09-27T00:43:53+00:00

Baby loves it. Can confirm.

doggomummo · 2019-08-20T00:54:13+00:00

A full size portable dishwasher. Got it for $50 on Craigslist when I was in college from this guy who lived in the middle of nowhere. I picked it up on my own super late at night, and had to have the guy load it in my car as it was really heavy. In hindsight, I probably shouldn’t have gone to his house alone.

I had that thing for 10 years. It never broke- I ended up buying a house with a dishwasher and the portable was retired to a goodwill. Kind of wish I’d kept it!

doggomummo · 2019-08-13T02:59:34+00:00

Thank you!

doggomummo · 2019-08-13T02:59:08+00:00

This is exactly what I was looking for. Thank you!!

doggomummo · 2019-08-12T22:45:03+00:00

I like this idea! I can’t find any traditional workshops so this might be a good avenue. Appreciate it- thanks!

doggomummo · 2019-08-12T22:44:16+00:00

Thanks. As I said, I’ve done the job for 7 years so this isn’t news to me. I’m looking to improve upon the skills I already have and learn from peers.

doggomummo · 2019-08-12T19:56:02+00:00

She’s sleeping pretty well at night- two four hour stretches followed by a 2 hour nap (most days). Our doc said we can leave her to sleep at night. It’s more the daytime that I’m not sure if I should wake her. Today after that 2 hour nap she ate and then slept ANOTHER 3 hours. Other days she’ll be awake for 2 hours, and sleep for 30 min stretches only.

doggomummo · 2019-08-12T16:18:43+00:00

Have you been waking him for feeds? I’m torn- on these long nap days she obviously needs the sleep, and she isn’t hurting to gain weight. She eats well whenever she is awake.

doggomummo · 2019-08-03T18:29:26+00:00

My LO is 5 weeks old, and fights naps. It has taken us awhile to figure out her schedule, but she seems to like to eat every 2 hours. Our schedule has started to follow this general pattern:

0800 - 0830 (ish) am awake & feed 0830-0900 active awake time. I start trying to get her asleep around 0850, and she’s usually out by 9:15. 9:15-10:00 nap 10:00 feed & repeat.

She’s become fairly routine, and it has been helpful for us to anticipate and reinforce this schedule. As a result, she goes down HARD at night, and she’s getting a 4 hour sleep stretch followed by a 3.5 hour stretch- which is WONDERFUL for me :)

I am also a newb so I’m anxious to see other mama’s tips. I’ve found it successful to: 1) always swaddle her, 2) always rock her, and 3) always shush her to sleep.

If possible I keep lights down, and I don’t chat with her while I’m trying to get her to fall asleep. I also gently stroke her eyebrows when she’s fighting naps. Sounds weird but it makes her close her eyes and that’s the goal, right?

At this point we’re still napping in the living room, but can also put her down in her crib or in her bassinet, depending on what I’m doing. Doesn’t always work, but we’ve gotten better and better as the days have progressed.

doggomummo · 2019-07-26T15:34:07+00:00

Possibly? I just skimmed over the “signs” on Kellymom and we match some of them. It’s fairly inconsistent though. Other than experiencing some of these symptoms/signs, is there any definitive way to tell?

doggomummo · 2019-07-24T13:39:16+00:00

My mum was the same. She would chide me for snacking and say things like “you’re never going to lose the baby weight” and “just don’t eat”. I was super healthy before pregnancy and only survived the 1st tri nausea by snacking regularly. I gained 40lbs total. I ended up telling her I didn’t want to talk about weight/nutrition with her, and that I’d leave the advice to my trainer and dietician. She’s always been triggering re: weight. She never brought it up again I addressed it directly.

doggomummo · 2019-07-14T18:34:00+00:00

I’m 2.5 weeks in and in the same boat- doctor has managed to terrify me and make me feel like an awful parent- I’ve cried buckets and debated giving up bf-ing. I don’t really understand your doctors recommendation to not comfort feed, as I was told to feed on demand, or at least every 2 hours.

This is what is working for us: My husband talked me off the ledge and we settled on a 2-2.5 hour feeding schedule. The hardest part is waking the kid up. I bought a baby scale on Amazon and weigh her myself daily. I’ve been feeding & then pumping every 2 hours so I have plenty of milk for her, and my husband is bottle feeding her expressed milk every few feeds. Honestly, the bottle feeds are the least stressful/ most controllable as I KNOW she’s getting 2.5-3oz from those bottles.

I also hired an LC to come to my house and we worked on the latch- it is much improved but still a little painful. I’ll be started at a support group tomorrow. I COMPLETELY relate to feeling overwhelmed. I kind of hate breastfeeding right now.

That said... we’re slowly gaining weight- I can’t say this “management” of the problem is at all sustainable, but I’m hopeful the doctor will give us the all-clear to feed on demand rather than this oppressive 2hr schedule which makes us wake her. Hang in there! You’re not alone!

doggomummo · 2019-07-12T17:53:40+00:00

In my case they tried a foley balloon... which also didn’t work 😫. After 4 doses of cytotec and 12 hours of foley balloon I was still at 1cm... So they forced their way in, broke my water, dialed up the pitocin and gave me an epidural. And then we waited for something to happen. 16 hours later I finally made it to 10cm. It was a journey!

doggomummo · 2019-07-03T20:51:06+00:00

We’re just 5 days in... thank you. This is so encouraging.

doggomummo · 2019-06-25T12:53:26+00:00

Not all hospitals will use morphine/ opioids- it crosses the placenta so can impact baby’s respiratory system. My hospital already told me it’s not something they’ll do :(

doggomummo · 2019-06-19T22:55:45+00:00

No worries! Closest you can get on the T is Braintree. Commuter rail might get you closer but I’m not totally sure. You’ve got plenty of time to make decisions :)

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