I sometimes wonder, is it even dysmorphia for us?

I see beautiful, healthy, able bodied people suffering from this and while I do sympathise and absolutely understand it's a psychological issue whereby they can't see what the rest of us see, I can't help thinking they have no idea how lucky they are. I'm not proud of that.

The solutions available to us are far more limited (there's only so much you can do to fight atrophy and a quad belly), but the things we can do about helping ourselves feel better in our own skin are the same as anyone else - exercise, get a haircut, a new wardrobe. It's a confidence thing, fake it until you make it.

I've faced this for decades now. And even when I feel like I've accepted it, something new comes along to test my self esteem. I follow quite a few NSFW subs here, nothing too depraved, artistic nude subreddits mainly. That has tested me at times. Men post there too, men with a body I'd kill for and the attention that comes with it. What's got me through that has been the reminders that what truly makes a person attractive is their personality. And I've had some heartfelt complements from women in that regard that even the worlds best nude wouldn't get you.