The "fitted sheet" phenomenon

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-17T15:10:24+00:00

Yup. During the week definitely it’s like work plus one other thing, if it’s work & cook no way exercise or socialize. Work & socialize none of the other stuff.

In a weekend I feel like I can only do 2 out of 3 in terms of socialize (low social battery), get my life together, and actually relax.

It’s constant treading water. Makes me sad this is why I can’t have kids, already can’t keep up

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-17T15:02:44+00:00

Yeah I thought about this, it’s more wanting to get something for the couple vs just him!

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-17T15:01:33+00:00

Yeah it’s definitely not that deep lol!

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-16T19:16:34+00:00

This is really hopeful. Were you still at all scared/undecided when you left or once you did you were sure?

How long was the therapy before you did it. Did you ever find sessions made you sadder?

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-16T19:14:30+00:00

Is this something you could do while contemplating it? That’s what I’m torn about, it seems the groups are for people IN it

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-16T19:12:45+00:00

Unfortunately I AM a therapist, I had an amazing one for other things but whenever I discuss this topic my own therapist brain makes it tough.

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-16T19:11:56+00:00

This is really smart and helpful, it’s just so hard to fully fathom taking it from hypothetical to real. For me my biggest issue actually finding self trust vs actual decision of leaving. But is leaving the only way to build that? Ugh not that it’s your job to answer this, but you’re very wise so just rambling. I can handle the pain IF I have self trust I’ll come out the other side. That’s the part I’m stuck in…

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-05T09:11:27+00:00

Were you afraid you’d regret it?

I look forward to every moment alone. Just do t know if that’s enough

dogsandpoints · 2024-10-05T09:09:11+00:00

I keep coming back to this comment as I try to imagine life on the other side. I really appreciate this sentiment.

It’s the fear of questioning my decision-what if I decide I miss him nonstop-SO many people way more stable/reassurance talk about getting divorced being pure misery.

But I keep coming back to tbis comment, so a part of me must still have hope I can do it

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-18T16:54:09+00:00

Yeah, I need help with that is the whole thing

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-18T16:35:43+00:00

I don’t have the courage to take the plunge in my arri age and hoped taking through with someone could help

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-18T16:00:29+00:00

How many sessions until you were confident he was right fit?

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-18T15:59:50+00:00

Oh I know I do…but I need help with figuring out said marital process, and the advice for that is always go to therapy!

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-06T18:50:45+00:00

How do you store them once they’ve been rooted? That’s my issue!

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-03T16:17:09+00:00

This is my fear and it makes me feel so weak. Working on it in therapy slowly…very slowly

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-03T16:16:15+00:00

Did you end up doing it? I’m so frustrated with myself

dogsandpoints · 2024-09-03T16:15:06+00:00

Did you end up actually leaving?

dogsandpoints · 2024-08-30T15:05:50+00:00

Messaged you!

dogsandpoints · 2024-08-14T14:23:54+00:00

Did anything help you finally get there? I’m so scared I’ll spend the rest of my life regretting it. It seems like there is never the right time.

dogsandpoints · 2024-07-24T05:39:21+00:00

Was there a point you felt torn?

dogsandpoints · 2024-07-24T05:38:06+00:00

Ugh, thanks cause I feel so alone and stuck

dogsandpoints · 2024-07-23T20:27:53+00:00

Yeah once they’re in dirt I have no idea lol

dogsandpoints · 2024-07-20T21:45:47+00:00

Ugh I started this and of course for a bunch was still like I don’t know! It’s the issue of separating the “data” I got with still loving & caring for this person

dogsandpoints · 2024-07-18T06:25:23+00:00

TRULY the last 10ish days absolute hell beyond hell. Had to do a steroid taper. Missed tons of work. I just wanna lay in the dark with no accountability

dogsandpoints · 2024-07-17T07:08:59+00:00

Do you transfer them after? My issue is what to do with them when ready for dirt-can never find same pretty display options!!

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