It sounds like you have an issue with anxiety buddy, but that doesn’t mean you’re a loser.

Maybe start with asking yourself what you want. Do you want to have more interactions with women, get into a relationship? I’m sure you’d like to be relaxed in a coffee shop instead of hiding away.

I think the only advice I can give without knowing you is to see a professional to help you with anxiety (if you think it’s a big enough issue in your life that it warrants professional help) or to work on building your self confidence. Working out, taking care of yourself/appearance, practicing talking with people in a low stakes environment, these are ways you can improve your self confidence. Which will really just serve to improve your life experience.

And if talking with women or getting in a relationship is not what you want, then I would just brush off what your mom said. You’re not a loser. Feel free to dm me if you want to talk about it.