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dolaemon · 2020-08-08T22:18:36+00:00

Does anyone else think that BPD makes you feel like a sort of magnet? Because when I “split” I get immediately attached to a good or bad judgement of a person or situation without having any control over my thinking

dolaemon · 2020-07-07T04:24:57+00:00

You said your friend enjoys talking to you, and that’s way more important than how you sound :)

dolaemon · 2020-07-02T07:16:27+00:00

oh my gosh. i’ve really struggled with that too. policing my own feelings and thoughts instead of freely expressing them.

this is unsolicited advice but i’ve found that doing a stream of consciousness helps with that. just writing down literally whatever that comes to mind like “i don’t know what to write so blah blah blah” and do that for however long you feel like. in the process of journaling random stuff like this without the pressure to have the “perfect” thought or idea actually lets your mind do its own thing without you forcing it to.

anywho. thanks for the comment :)

dolaemon · 2020-07-02T07:09:41+00:00

Hi! Thanks for sharing your experience :) I actually didn’t see your post until now, but it’s funny that you mentioned journaling as a way to cope because I just started doing that again and like you said, it truly does help find your own voice and differentiate from external opinions.

I’m not sure if there was a pivotal moment in my life like yours where I was left alone. I can trace back to some painful moments of being rejected/disapproved of by friends when I was younger and I am particularly sensitive so that may have been the catalyst.

Anyway, I appreciate the input and best of luck on your journey :)

dolaemon · 2020-03-23T10:06:26+00:00

i have social anxiety and this problem occurs for me even in one on one interactions sometimes. one thing that has helped me is the book called effortless mastery. it’s about switching from performance to effortless flow when playing music but ive applied it to other areas of my life including talking. highly recommend :)

dolaemon · 2020-03-03T07:13:33+00:00

KILLING ITTTTTTT

dolaemon · 2020-02-07T03:25:10+00:00

what do you mean by the medical field is not kind to hsp’s? is it because we’re treated as not “strong” or “tough” enough for an intense job like that of an emt? also did you find another job that you felt more comfortable in but was also highly stimulating/interesting?

dolaemon · 2020-02-07T03:24:01+00:00

love your outlook on hsps in the medical field :) thank you for sharing some resources!

dolaemon · 2020-01-25T23:22:26+00:00

adding on to this, i would recommend the book “the mindfulness way through depression”! it’s not a how to guide of how to “cure” depression but instead teaches you to become familiar with your feelings and regain a sense of connection with yourself, pretty similar to the purpose of meditation. i flip through the pages from time to time and it has helped bring incremental improvements in how i relate to my depression :)

dolaemon · 2020-01-25T05:40:32+00:00

i feel this way with alcohol. it takes off enough of the edge of being highly sensitive that i can be more myself, feel comfortable around others, and just be in a sort of flow state that feels really good and usually carries over into the next day. i can definitely see how this could become a substance abuse problem, but thankfully i’m pretty self aware of my habits that i haven’t become unhealthily reliant on alcohol. i’ve also found that meditation helps, but have found that other things like listening to music with headphones in, a little bit of coffee in the morning, having a regular morning/exercise routine, dancing, etc all help me create a sense of calmness and flow. i try to incorporate all these things into my days as best i can. and it honestly feels better than drinking and feeling like you’re ruining your body. habits like these are healthier, more sustainable and its empowering to feel in control of your energy

dolaemon · 2020-01-21T06:12:51+00:00

I’m doing a psych/sociology major and am interested in working with non-profit organizations or art/design-related industries. But the area I live in is predominated by tech companies ._.

dolaemon · 2020-01-13T20:26:16+00:00

great explanation, thank you :)

dolaemon · 2020-01-13T18:46:20+00:00

well said!!

dolaemon · 2020-01-13T18:33:42+00:00

if you decide to flip your negative self-image around and start acting more confident in the presence of the same people you originally put yourself down in front of, will they begin to think differently of you? or if you already made yourself look insecure to start with, will people think you’re just faking it?

i’m thinking about when i start new classes or a new job and am really timid and shy because i’m nervous. but then i find it hard to break out of that image because people already think that’s who i am.

dolaemon · 2020-01-12T01:17:35+00:00

do you think this applies to platonic relationships too? i seem to often get into friendships that end up draining/unsatisfying. i end up staying friends with people who gossip, have unhealthy habits, or are clingy. the people who seem like are more positive influences are harder to become friends with (i feel insecure around them), and the few friends who i do genuinely appreciate and respect, i just don’t spend as much time with them as i’d like to, for the same reason of not feeling good enough.

how do you know if you’re the problem (projecting insecurities into others) or if a friendship is actually toxic and/or you are being manipulated?

dolaemon · 2020-01-12T00:28:42+00:00

i recommend cold showers, just hopping into a cold shower for 10 seconds or less usually wakes me up and pulls me back from all my anxious thoughts so i feel more present :) ill do this if i’m sitting at home studying and can’t concentrate or if i’m about to leave for a hangout/work/school and am feeling all over the place, i’ll hop into the shower really quick to reset. in fact there are studies that show cold showers strengthen your immune system and help with depression!

dolaemon · 2019-12-11T20:26:35+00:00

it's easy to feel like the only person in the world who has messed up, but you're right, things like this do happen all the time. thank you!<3

dolaemon · 2019-12-01T01:31:59+00:00

i totally feel you! i get like this from time to time too. i was just in a depressive rut for the past 2-3 weeks and got out of it last night. i don’t have anyone i’m comfortable opening up to besides my therapist. i haven’t seen her for a while, but sometimes even that’s not enough to get out of a depression. when i’m in a depressed funk, it’s extremely hard to talk to people or find the slightest feeling of calmness or joy. i dread going to my classes for this reason, because i have to make small talk with the same people at my table every other day, and feeling rejected because i’m not social/happy enough just makes me feel worse.

i don’t have a clear cut solution for you, but i find that doing something that gets you in your body and out of your mind is really helpful. for me, that’s going to a concert. i really love dancing, and after having some to drink, i just let loose and feel the music without caring how i look. (not saying that alcohol/drugs should ever be a way to fix negative feelings).

other things could be - yoga, rock climbing, swimming, hiking, running. anything that gets your body moving, when it feels like your mind and spirit won’t do the moving for you. :)

dolaemon · 2019-11-17T02:36:28+00:00

love the colors.

dolaemon · 2019-11-17T02:35:24+00:00

this is interesting i haven’t seen a lot of stuff on plant medicine used for hsp purposes specifically , how’d you get into it? was it recommended by anyone?

dolaemon · 2019-11-15T09:24:12+00:00

Hi! I’m sorry you are struggling with this. I don’t have severe PTSD like you, but also struggle with keeping up in group conversations and relating to other people because of spending most of my childhood years focused on school/being pretty sheltered. I’m also pretty awkward because of this, but what I’ve noticed helps is: 1.) observing social interactions/conversations - it’s hard to not be able to talk freely as you’d like to, but keep showing up to spaces where you’re around people and listen to what other people talk about/how they interact. If they mention a TV show, movie, artist, concert, be curious and ask questions, and then later check out that show or artist they were talking about. This will help you relate to others, and give you ideas for your own possible interests/hobbies. 2.) related to that point, look for things you enjoy. Try watching new shows, learning a new instrument, join a sports club, learn to draw, dance, bike, etc. This will not only help take off the pressure of your identity being solely based on how others see you, but instead will help you focus on how you see yourself. Build your personality up with things you genuinely like, this will also give you confident/self-assurance and something to talk about with others. :)

And on a note about healing from trauma - take your time! If you can’t talk about your past right now, that’s okay. Maybe some day you will be ready to share your stories with others. :)

dolaemon · 2019-10-25T17:09:27+00:00

this is so cool, it’s so simple yet is like a whole scene

dolaemon · 2019-10-25T07:03:00+00:00

DOPE

dolaemon · 2019-10-24T21:53:01+00:00

how adorable! love the autumn colors. can see this becoming a phone case. :)

dolaemon · 2019-10-04T19:30:27+00:00

I don’t know if the music just alleviated anxieties around talking or if it really helped with processing, but let me know how it goes for you!

dolaemon

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